This girl that I know

[facadegeniality]

Hi just wanna share my story and looking for your inputs.

I knew this girl when she was attached. We chatted for a very long time. Everything was pretty good. the chemisty, at least from what i can tell, is there.

She broke up with her boyfriend and we flirted a little more. But after a month or so. She told me she was back with her boyfriend but was having some trouble. So i stop flirting with her that much.

Seeing that they are having some trouble and that ever since she told me she had some trouble in her relationship, she was still doing some stuff to catch my attention.

I do not think i'm in the friend zone because til now she has never told me the exact details problems she had with her boyfriend. she jus hinted that there were problems. Am i right to see it this way?

I intend to just continue what im doing and try to take this further. Her status is not really a concerned here as i learnt from this site that girls act based on feelings.

What are all your views ?

 

[Cashew]

If she is telling you about boyfriend problems... you might just be her girlfriend.

A girl is not going to talk about guy problems to another guy she is interested in; therefore, she likely does not see you in the way you hope she does.

 

[facadegeniality]

ooh..she im not her girl friend then...she always hinted or said there's a problem. but she never ever tells me more. I dun ask too.

But i think i missed the train. I flirted with her calling her names like honey and darling. she begged me not to call her that. I guess she and her guy are on better terms already.

 

[facadegeniality]

any other comments?

 

[Igetit!]

In my opinion,this is dead. Your wasting your time with this girl. I know,because I've been in your shoes before. You keep waiting and waiting for her to be with you,but it never happens. To be honest,I think that she's just using you. Women like attention,so I think that even though she isn't interested in you,she still likes the attention she gets from you. But your wasting your time,man. If you don't believe me,then how long has this been going on? A couple of weeks? A few months? There are thousands of other women who would lke to date you,but you can't see it because you're still hung up on some other guy's girlfriend.

Just leave her alone. Each day you spend hanging out with or talking with her is another day you have wasted in your dating life. Just forget about her and move on.

 

[Credos]

stop aiming for one person, enough fish in the sea...

Going for one person only just gets you oneitis

 

[facadegeniality]

thanks igetit!...just that i am still dating and talking to other girls.

the reason i still hang around is that i seem to be able to talk to her better intellectually...in other words, we can click.

But that being said, im nt greatly affected by things she say.

I was a nice guy(afc)..i believe i still am in some ways coz pple need time to change. One thing im nt sure to change is that i shldn't date gals who are attached or have rocky relationships.

mayb i shld hang ard still while being at it with other girls? i kinda believe that she has something for me going by the DJ rule that we shld judge a girl by her actions. not words.

Would your stand still be the same? What would you do if you were me?


edit: yeah credos...no more oneitis...been there done that!

 

[Igetit!]

So you say that when it comes to oneitis,you have already been there and done that,right? I disagree. I think you are still there and still doing that. You are in denial. But first,I want to respond to some of your comments.
You asked what would I do if I were you. Well,first of all,I wouldn't be in the situation in the first place. I can tell when a girl likes me or not versus her just being nice to me. You said that we should judge a girl by her actions,not by her words. I agree. So let's look at her actions. She almost vomited when you called her honey and darling. You said that you learned from this forum that women act based on their feelings. This is true. How do you think she "felt" when you called her those names? Oh,yeah. Back to judging by her actions. She talks to you or hints to you about problems in her relationship.
She "talks" to you,then after she gets finished talking to you,she goes and hops in bed with her boyfriend. Remember,we're going by her actions.
Look at how she relates to you versus how she relates to her boyfriend.
She talks to you,but has sex with her boyfriend. So I guess everyones happy.
Her boyfriend gets sex,she gets emotional support and a shoulder to cry on with you,and you get.....well,what do you get? Oh well,whatever it is you're getting out of this,it doesn't really matter. As long as the three of you are happy with this arrangement,that's all that's really important,right? Well,good luck man. I hope the three of you have many more wonderful years of this....oh....well....whatever it is. Peace man.

 

[facadegeniality]

hmm but the thing is that she told me abt her bf prob as in she's hinting that they have some problems...she din treat me like a friend and told me the story or tried to get comfort..she did none of that.

my thinking is that she din want me to call her that as probably she isn't single yet no doubt they are having problems.

i get your drift and i appreciate the straightforward comments. i guess i just continue to do my thing and see how things goes with the other gals as well.

 

[Miguel]

Hey man, just an idea for a solution... why not just actually 'game' this girl? I mean, you sound pretty wimpy and it hurts my ears. KIDDING!

Lol, but seriously, here's some advice, why not just break all the rules with her? Make fun of her, ignore her, tell her that unless it's her problems with you (being her boyfriend), You're not intrested. (say it funnily though, maybe with something like because she's not you're type.)

If that doesn't seem to work, then think: "What are you doing wrong?" but more importantly "Why is she turning you into her tampon?" Have some humor too about it when you find out, these mistakes here are the best to learn from.