"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Atom Smasher

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I have to disagree on the Email vs in-person thing. Unless law or consent allows you to audio record a verbal conversation, it's way too easy for the HR person to get what I call "Selective Memory Loss". With a verbal convo they can twist your words. Allege you said the sky is "purple" even though you said it was "blue". Deny what you or they said or didn't say. Anything they want.Then it's your words against theirs. And don't think they won't try to knock your credability to the sewer by saying "he is just a disgruntled employee. there is nothing anyone can do to make him happy". They love to pull that card at random if they don't want to deal with you. They can even deny that you talked to them at all if its all verbal, like say "We never had any such meeting, this is the first I have heard of this". bla bla bla yadda yadda ya.. I know ALLLL of their tricks. To me, unrecorded verbal conversations in most any work context are like walking out on a Civil War battlefield against your enemy with no amo or shields. You are a sitting duck. In Email or any form of writing, they can try twisting what your words mean, but they can't deny the words were said as they were. A lot of people do think in person is always better. I've just been fvcked over enough with people with selective memory loss that I am (probably overly) cautious with such matters.
You've convinced me. Written is the way to go. :up:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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In my experience, most women are slobs, period! Just look at their cars, apts/house and there always a mess. That and sleeping with animals is not bone inducing by any means, at least not for me.
LOL that's funny my ex is a slob her car was disgusting, I know a few other women are like that.
 

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You've convinced me. Written is the way to go. :up:
Right on! Truth be told I'm probably too cautions and too jaded when it comes to having things in writing in a work context. But at my office job if I had a quarter of a cent for every time an Email has saved my a$$ I wouldn't have to work I'd be so God dammed rich. As a cop let's just say if I could legally marry a body camera to be my lawfully weded wife I would. I would throw it a wedding like none has ever seen and be totally beta/AFC to it. My police reports are probably 5x as long as they need to be but they have saved my ass enough to make it far worth it. I do agree with you though that sometimes that in person, personal element, can be to a guy's advantage. Just so long as the conversation is with someone trustworthy. In today's work environment, who do we really trust? Especially from HR? I don't trust any of em, but you guys may work at places in which you do.
 

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They are moving my seat, so some poor girl is going to have to put up with the smell. But at least I'll be free from it.

Totally not handled correctly.
 

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Sex with a woman who properly washes herself is so much better than with one who is skanky. :down:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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