Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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This girl said hi to me twice

nsxjg80

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It was at work. She somehow knows my name but I don't know hers. What should I do now. I have zero experience with this sort of thing.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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"Hi, I'm sorry but I don't know your name."

"Susan."

"Hi Susan, nice to meet you."

Talk with her. Have a two-way conversation. Don't worry about pick-up. Just interact.
 

nsxjg80

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is that a good sign when someone says hi to you that doesn't really know you?
 

marinetti

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it means they're friendly. friendliness is always a good sign.

but romantic? not necessarily, unless you know how to escalate an interaction to a romantic level.

i suggest the DJ bootcamp.
 

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marinetti said:
it means they're friendly. friendliness is always a good sign.

but romantic? not necessarily, unless you know how to escalate an interaction to a romantic level.

i suggest the DJ bootcamp.
how do i get to the dj boot camp?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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marinetti

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http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/

scroll down a bit. you'll see it.

it's an 8 week personal bootcamp program. in my opinion, it's the next best thing to paying for a taught bootcamp.

and be sure to post questions here. everyone will be happy to help.

oh, and in 8 weeks, do me a favor and don't ****block me :)
 

marinetti

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not reading - going out and approaching women! one approach is worth a lot of reading.

but read too, of course.
 

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Yeah girls saying hi and bye to you doesn't really mean anything. Many girls say those things to me at school and all I means is that we aren't strangers.

But it's a good ground to work with. You got to do the rest.
 

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If a girl says hi to you, it usually means she wants to be friends.

You don't know what to do huh?
Well try starting with saying hi to her like she does to you.

Don't just sit there thinking, go act!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I'm always speaking to women at work. It's the best place to practice on them in a low risk environment. Hey, she knows you have a job!

Just go over and say hello and ask what she does and mention that you see her around. Say nothing about being attracted. This can get you in some trouble. If you can muster the strength, ask her out for a lunch and make it a business lunch.

Hell, I've got a real hottie from work coming over to my house Monday with some of my work friends. I'm going to convo her like crazy. It may come to nothing but it's a great way to practice some neutral stuff. I'm good at convo but I could always use the practice.
 

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Ya just be yourself and try and keep cool about it.. shes only said hi to you so who cares if shes not interested or anything...

Ask her what she does at the store.. Said she worked there right? talk about your break times and ask her for some lunch or something to get away from work for a while.
 

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people are conditioned to say "hi" in most societies on earth. the only society on earth that i know of where people might not say "hi" to you is called american high school. that is one f**** up place. pretty much everywhere else you will get your standard "hi" and maybe even a "how are ya doing?" at the very least, people should acknowledge your presence with a slight knod or smile.

girls hit on me all the time. different ones do it in different ways. some are extremely shy and clumsy around you. some act a bit scared. others are a bit more forward but they still look and act nervous. i prefer the shy clumsy ones. last week i had a girl's mother introduce me to her daughter. that was cool. the more nervous they appear around you the better. that is a sure sign. i don't believe in the dj crap about attacking everything that moves. if you play your cards right you should be able to get what you want without being creepy and desperate.
 
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