This girl is the biggest fvckin flake

[MattS]

I swear dude some girls got some internal issues. Ive known this girl for like 5 months. We were talking for a couple of months and so forth. Some stupid sh!t happened all stemming from me not fvcking her the first night i had the chance (didnt feel like it) after that night sh!t went somewhat downhill. So we stopped talking for like 2 months, i tried to text on two seperate occasions but she never replied. Then she invited me to her party out of the blue last weekened and i went. At the end of the night (last week) she said call me. So tonight i called her for the first time in a while. She answered the phone on the first try and had some bs convo. She told me at the end of the convo "when are you going to be down here? im going here and there tonight so call me when you get down and tell me where youre at"

I get down there an hour later than i said i was. I text her cause im in a club and assumed she was.

Text convo: (exact convo)
Me: Hey im at XXXX
Her: Im at XXXX....then going to XXXX
Me: You can come meet over here its like 1 block away (make her come to me)
Her: Im already going to XXXX
Me: Aite well if you wanna meet up lemme know
Her: K call you later

I knew after the first text she didnt want to meet up. Either cause her stupid best friend or some other dude she was going to meet up or whatever. I know she aint going to call tonight either. Fvck she is such a flake i just wanna tell her to grow up and stop acting flakey but i shouldnt if i dont want to burn any bridges.

This is whats going to happen if she doesnt call me tomorrow. Im not going to call her or text anymore (deleted her number finally) then in a week or so shes going to contact me all nonchalantly and ask what im doing (shes done this like 3-4 times already. Did i handle the text convo alright?

 

[LaoDa]

you did well.
forget about her and do your thing
if shes calls back Id tell her how she should act then tell her I was busy..then hang up and not invite her out anymore..

 

[MattS]

Im just going to say dude if you wanna chance with me anymore you gotta cut out the flakey sh!t cause thats cool in the beginning but its boring now. Of course shell deny it but she knows whats up.

 

[JJMcLure]

She is messing you about because her ego was hurt when you didn't want to sleep with her the first time round. Chicks love guys to join their "troupe" of admirers, so they often say "call me" or "when will you be in town". That's not a commitment, it's just an invitation to join the troupe.

If you verbalise anything about that you are pissed at her flaking then she will have got what she wanted, she wants to get to you. If you address it, it has to be in a calm manner of specifically what you don't like and what you do expect. And that this will be the final chance. But I think the point you're at with her, you have little leverage to do that and have it work.

Avoid using text as well, it just doesn't help. It's completely impersonal. Whatever the reason for using it, it communicates one thing - that you didn't call. That translates as lack of confidence.

 

[MacDiddy]

At this moment... She's only flaking coz your not worth her time!!!

 

[MattS]

some chicks are just messed up. I could get her IL up there probably again by being a ****y d1ck to her again. But later on most likely shell seek revenge on me for being like that. Right now shes setting herself up for me to get revenge on her for acting like this. So what should i do? Should i just not call her again?

 

[MattS]

i couldve been right next door and she still wouldve said the same thing. when she replied after my first text all she said was im here and im going there. she wasnt like u coming to meet me or meet me or anything like that. Im not going to press her. Your saying i should basically invite myself and look like a chump. thats probably what every other guy does with her. when i said you can come where im at she was probalby a little shocked and trying to control her frame by not giving in.