this girl is giving me a hard time but she is cool need help

[thelonewolflegend]

This is a girl I have seen this is 6th time now. She is a cool girl because she picks me up and hung out with me at my friends show came to my bday party and is pretty chill etc... she is 33 yrs old and here it is.

first time hung out she came my place we talked only thing is we have discrpenties on dating because shes giving me the all guys are jerks she has issue and i am telling her about how women do this and that and about games and all that she acted suprised. i tried to kiss her first time she said dont know where you been.

and 2nd time i tried to make move on her when watching movie i was holding her she was like i dont do kissing i played it cool these times.

last night we hung out and played pool ( i know im late at it but this was only best opportunity to do flirting ) i started touching her more when playing pool and teasing her making fun of her and i was making joke about height weight next to her was holding her hand and kinda feeling her up. i thought it was going great so we watching movie im rubbing her and stuff shes like you rubbing my thigh i said yeah she said you horny i said maybe shes like not tonight and tells me guy has to say he wants to be with you to be in relastionship then want to have sex im like that doesnt work you saying you never just slept with a guy before being with him shes like im not saying i havent im like we been out 6 times and you giving me good vibe shes like i dont want you to think im not into you romantically i just walked in my officed tried to do freezeout but i felt like a butthurt sore loser not getting laid she i went back in she was trying to act like counting how many times i told her im not stupid i know she was like really paul i gotta go ok cya she wasnt too upset but like had that really? look i just said ok bye. I talked to a great guy he said that I need to no contact her and let her hamster spin but i feel like she isnt emotionally attracted enough i maybe waited to late and now im just friend and she aint sexually interested so it wouldnt matter im just some fun guy to hang out with so i need to know how can i get her sexually interested being a man etc since shes keeps rejecting me? Do I try to have sex with her next time or just never make move what do i do help??
She also making excuses like sayin can u have sex with ur foot being hurt i said yeah its fine done it before.
Shouls i still flirt and kino just not make move wat??
Guy from here said i did a good job
THANKS

 

[thelonewolflegend]

I was wondering if being honest helped? What if she asks if im mad? Ignores me? Or attacks me like i was bein a jerk whats best way reply change subject dont bring up? What if she ask

 

[Thorninmyside]

Interested girls let you kiss them.
Attracted girls will let you **** them. They won't make the excuses for you.
Hamsters only spin when there's a mystery they want solved, a question they're dying to have answered, a situation they couldn't get a read on etc.

This is gonna sound awful, but are you on the Aspergers scale man? You seem to have a very black and white view of "if I say this, the girl is supposed to do that", like its a fixed equation. "Why isn't this girl doing what she's supposed to be doing?". It's not maths every time.

Aspies also have a hard time reading emotion on other people's faces, and I feel this is a common theme to your woes with the girls.

 

[thelonewolflegend]

How can you tell if i have this how can i figure this out so i dont have this issue? How do i get her attracted? I flirted did kino etc

 

[thelonewolflegend]

Should i b honest tell her stop playing games etc help

 

[salinechow]

I hate my own heart for people. But here goes..

1st. Type your posts in Microsoft Word first! Let the auto correct fix your babbling and grammar structure so we can better help you.

2nd. Yes. He(you) do have some issues both emotionally and mentally. But, they are not to big to overcome. Like everything else it takes discipline. You must fight the urge to obsess over things. We talked about this. Obsessing over any one girl or any one instance or interaction is ruining the good qualities you do have. Resist the urge to overthink this stuff.

3rd. Occupy your time with other things Wolf! Jeesh man. Cant you see you are losing the allies that you do have here by obsessing over the details. You are overstaying your welcome by over posting and obsessing.

4th. I helped you with this situation already. Why are you burdening the boards with this. I am telling you the same thing these guys are going to tell you. I even do it in a more in depth way then they are willing to spend time on. Furthermore, they have told you already everything you need before I even showed up for you. How many times and in how many different ways do you need to hear the advice.

5th. Once again, your problems are not with women. This is demonstrated quite obviously by the fact that you can indeed go on successful dates and bring a girl over your house. That is a win. Enjoy it. Enjoy it for what it is. Don’t obsess over what it isn’t.

5a. Your problems are within. You cant close because you are trying to hard. Even a turnip of a girl will sense this and shut you down. Just relax and allow it to be delivered to you and learn to not care if it doesn’t. You learn to not care by filling your idle time and furiously making life happen instead of letting it happen to you.

Here is an example of what a true emerging DJs life should look like:

Since I spoke to you last night, exactly 24hrs ago...

I have been rejected twice, once by a HB9, and another HB8.

I have been flaked on by another HB8 and HB7 team.

I have had a HB6 resurface and then, I ripped up her #. (This is interesting actually… So, speaking to the no other people that might read this… If a girl has a 9 of a body and a 5 face what is her HB#?)

I had a HB7.5 whom 2 months ago I started working on (at the gym) and then she got into a relationship with someone else, who then asked me for my number to hang out, who then started texting with me furiously and complaining about her BF, and then whom I probably blew it with, just as fast as it started. We shall see. (Yes that was today)

I started a 3rd job, which in demeaning and sucked. ( But is also where I got the HB8 and HB7 teams #s.)

Worked my primary job. ( a client offered to hook me up with her friend. I declined for now because she was a 6-7 and I am just not interested enough in that to add another plate. Also, same client, offered me some extra work if I was willing at a totally different profession)

I celebrated 8 weeks NC on my oneitis.

And...I got a Blow Job! :cheer: My F Bubby was on her monthly. (This is after she watched me make time with the HB9 stated above) (She even bought me a beer and handed it to me while I was flirting with the HB9)( I love you guys at SS for this! Never in my wildest dreams did I think I could ever say that would happen.) IT HAPPENED BECAUSE I READ, AND I LISTEN, MORE THAN I POST!!!!

Dude, you have to overcome your challenges. Your answers are NOT HERE, they are within. You need to hustle! Take jobs that are beneath you if you can’t find one that suits you. Join a club and volunteer. Workout furiously at the gym. Talk to girls every second you see one. Try to fail, because you know what, even you, will NEVER FAIL always. If I can accomplish and fail at all of that I stated above so can anybody.

The ultimate takeaway from all of this is…. Fill your time with so much action that you don’t have time to give a f^ck.

Yeah. The flakes sting a little. Yeah, my oneitis still lingers a little, sometimes a lot. But, I cannot imagine how bad it would be if I actually had time or headspace to dwell on it.

Success is in the progress when you look behind you, not in the destination.

I feel sh!tty that this probably feel on deaf ears though.

 

[Bible_Belt]

If a girl has a 9 of a body and a 5 face what is her HB#?

She's a 9 when you're fvcking her from behind.

OP, isn't this girl about ten years older than you? Of course she is going to think you just want to fvck her. When she said, "I will only have sex in a relationship," you should have looked her in the eye and said "fine, then we're in a relationship" and kissed her at that moment. Obviously you like her. It's not like relationships last forever, anyway.

As for your question of whether you should be honest, that just depends a lot on the context. Women are really good at picking up on your emotions, so when you are feeling something strongly, she's probably going to know it. When someone asks me if I am mad, and I am, I usually say something like "eh, I'll get over it." I'm not going to say something that is obviously not true. If a woman asks you if you're horny, just say "I'm a guy." You don't have to deny anything obvious. Just own it and go with it.

Didn't I tell you to go to Petsmart on Saturdays with an animal rescue charity and adopt out cute puppies? It makes women crazy about you. Now you need a puppy with a cast on its leg - that would be the best pickup routine ever. Guy with broken leg cares for puppy with broken leg. Women would go nuts for that. This girl you like would also like you a lot more. Caring for an animal makes you appear to be good at caring for future children, and women are evolutionarily hard-wired to be attracted to that trait.

The last time I looked for a dog to adopt, I was seriously considering one that had three legs. He would have been a pvssy gold mine.

 

[salinechow]

Didn't I tell you to go to Petsmart on Saturdays with an animal rescue charity and adopt out cute puppies? It makes women crazy about you. Now you need a puppy with a cast on its leg - that would be the best pickup routine ever. Guy with broken leg cares for puppy with broken leg. Women would go nuts for that. This girl you like would also like you a lot more. Caring for an animal makes you appear to be good at caring for future children, and women are evolutionarily hard-wired to be attracted to that trait.

The best idea you have ever heard on SS Wolf. Do this immediately.

 

[thelonewolflegend]

i dont want pet.

what do i do though i was thinking do what i want dj mentality just friendzone her flirt with her still and just see her when i want how bout it?

 

[Bible_Belt]

With the Saturday volunteer gig, you don't adopt the animal yourself. All you have to do is sit with it in the store and show it to people who are interested in adopting. When the day is over, the animals go back to their shelter or foster home.

A true DJ mentality comes from having options. Until then, you're just faking it.

Imagine that you and this girl were a 10-round boxing match. You just lost the first six rounds. That means unless you get a knockout (or some 10-8 rounds, for anyone who understands boxing) then you're not going to win. You have to change what you're doing and throw some big punches - that's your only chance.

Are you really that averse to a relationship? Seriously, what the hell else do you have to do? The next time she says that you don't want commitment, put some doubt in her mind about that. I know you probably want to be a guy who fvcks a lot of women with no commitment, but portraying yourself that way is what is keeping you from fvcking this girl.

Don't think of commitment as forever. As someone who has been through a lot of relationships, let me assure you, nothing is forever. Your commitment to this girl would in all likelihood only be for the few weeks or months until you piss each other off and start fighting. At that point, you just move on, and the experience you had with her makes you more skilled for the next girl you meet.

 

[thelonewolflegend]

should i l tell i wan to be in relationship and be honest etc.?

 

[Bible_Belt]

Don't you all get tired of answering this guy's redundant questions over and over?

It is the sick who need a doctor.

should i l tell i wan to be in relationship and be honest etc.?

For most guys, I'd say to use push-pull, mix it up, keep her guessing.

For you, I'd say what the hell, swing for the fences. What do you have to lose at this point? Tell the girl what she needs to hear.

Try not to attach so much meaning to words - hers or yours. They are just words. People rarely say what is really on their mind, and when they do, they can change their mind right afterwards.

 

[Meisterman]

Don't you all get tired of answering this guy's redundant questions over and over?

It is the sick who need a doctor.

should i l tell i wan to be in relationship and be honest etc.?

For most guys, I'd say to use push-pull, mix it up, keep her guessing.

For you, I'd say what the hell, swing for the fences. What do you have to lose at this point? Tell the girl what she needs to hear.

Try not to attach so much meaning to words - hers or yours. They are just words. People rarely say what is really on their mind, and when they do, they can change their mind right afterwards.

But it's more like a sick person who goes to the doctor and then flushes all their medicine down the toilet every time.

 

[Thorninmyside]

Don't you all get tired of answering this guy's redundant questions over and over?

Wolf clearly doesn't want to help himself. He wants to have you all keep spoonfeeding him solutions.

I only help people who want to help themselves.

You appear to be a lost cause who only wants people to feel sorry for him.

You reek of insecurity, loneliness, and fear.

When I first came here, I did too.

But the difference -

I wanted to help myself. And I did.

You see to be content with sulking in the corner.

You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to GettinMyMindRight again.


Quick fixes are like band aids on bullet wounds. Dude needs to look at the fundamentals, the root causes of all the failure. It's not because the right line was not used.

 

[thelonewolflegend]

So when i told lauren girl im not friends with alot od girls u can hookma brother up sometime when she said to me "kinda seeing someone" she didnt looose attraction?