This girl insecure wit her body

[dadmonson]

This girl I know has got all types of insecurities about herself, we aren't dating yet but I'm workin on it . She says that her thighs and hips r too big and that she's short and that she doesn't like that about herself(those r the exact same things I like about her). What can I say to make her feel better about herself and her body also can somebody tell me a ****y and funny way to do it? Any suggestions would be good.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

You won't be able to say or do anything that will help her as long as her perception of herself is negative. Not to say that you couldn't influence her to feel better, the fact is that it really up to her.

Be careful, these type of women have been known to use men as emotional tampons. They can take a lot of effort on your part to maintain a relationship. Ask yourself if it is really worth it?

 

[flexion_]

Don't go down that road. Stop trying to save her.
Its her problem to deal with - you get involved you get drama.

 

[dadmonson]

Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
You won't be able to say or do anything that will help her as long as her perception of herself is negative. Not to say that you couldn't influence her to feel better, the fact is that it really up to her.

Be careful, these type of women have been known to use men as emotional tampons. They can take a lot of effort on your part to maintain a relationship. Ask yourself if it is really worth it?

Nah man she's cool except for that. We click real well together. She ain't a attention hore or nothin like that if thats what your thinkin. Thanx for your concern though homey.

Can somebody give me a straight up answer to my question regardless of what u may think of the situation?

 

[legolas]

If she doesn't know that that's what you like about her, which would make her feel more secure, than it means she doesn't really like you. She doesn't consider herself "sexy" in your eyes, she doesn't consider your opinion highly which means that she doesn't consider you "sexy" If she's too wrapped in herself then she doesn't really see you, she only sees a temporary boyfriend replacement.

If you are seeing a particular girl, then you know why she finds you attractive, no? If you don't then you're screwed!!! You're setting yourself up to get hurt because you're emotionally investing in getting this girl's approval which appearently you don't have. Never assume that a girl likes you for who you are without adequate proof. People are with other people usually for selfish reasons/needs. If those selfish reasons/needs match yours, or somplement them, you have a happy long-term relationship.

You see when a girl sees a guy, she knows or assumes why he's with her based on her own self-worth evaluation. That means that if she finds herself not sexy, then she figures you're in it for the sex, so she's mentally counting you out. If she were sexy and you're seeing her, then she might figure you're with her because yu'd like to show off, and for sex, so she'll use that as tool. The only time this doesn't happen is if she's in love with you, in which case nothing else matters.

Anyway analyse the situation for yourself, and come up with your own explanation, jsut be careful and protect your heart.

Also careful with the C&F stuff because sometimes it has the opposite effect.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

The answer to any question a woman may ask you about her;

• age
• size
• looks
• attire
• hair style
• anything about her general appearance

"I think you look good."

Memorize it. It will save you from silent car rides, slamming doors and sleeping in seperate rooms.