I went against each and every one of yours counsel and I kept pursuing it. Granted I wasn't a wuss about it, I did pretty much everything by the book and because of that, I didn't get any speech from her, but she just seems satisfied by the status quo (she initiates all the contact, and she most recently hosted a party to which I was invited with a friend with which she flirted while barely even talking to me). I left one of those parties after narrowly containing myself to beat the everliving **** out of her best friend who tried to start a quarrel with me.
So the reply that said "she's not interested in you apart from friendship/attention" was completely right all along and here's I need to share a few points for everyone in a similar situation.
*Don't settle for anything less than complete interest from a girl which should come in a reasonable amount of time. That means she will want to spend every waking hour with you, talking to you and looking at you randomly at gatherings. If any of these three conditions are not met consistently, you are not in the place to be, especially if you got the feels for the girl.
*No complications, no excuses. Seriously, don't waste your time unless she shows utter commitment to whatever it is you want. You have absolutely no reason to compromise unless you want your self esteem to be even lower.
I narrowly avoided being played a fool (being ditched outright) by her because I have other things going on, but I still feel I overextended far too much. The point is DON'T BE AN OPTIMIST. I know this sounds like some depressed sentence, but I mean it in the sense that if it doesn't click, if you have a bad feeling about it, you're probably right. And there's absolutely no reason to settle for less than you want at any given moment.
If you read all this you probably need the advice and I hope you listen to it because I didn't listen to the short version of it I was given and here I am posting this
So the reply that said "she's not interested in you apart from friendship/attention" was completely right all along and here's I need to share a few points for everyone in a similar situation.
*Don't settle for anything less than complete interest from a girl which should come in a reasonable amount of time. That means she will want to spend every waking hour with you, talking to you and looking at you randomly at gatherings. If any of these three conditions are not met consistently, you are not in the place to be, especially if you got the feels for the girl.
*No complications, no excuses. Seriously, don't waste your time unless she shows utter commitment to whatever it is you want. You have absolutely no reason to compromise unless you want your self esteem to be even lower.
I narrowly avoided being played a fool (being ditched outright) by her because I have other things going on, but I still feel I overextended far too much. The point is DON'T BE AN OPTIMIST. I know this sounds like some depressed sentence, but I mean it in the sense that if it doesn't click, if you have a bad feeling about it, you're probably right. And there's absolutely no reason to settle for less than you want at any given moment.
If you read all this you probably need the advice and I hope you listen to it because I didn't listen to the short version of it I was given and here I am posting this
