"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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this girl at my soon-to-be employment place

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Hi guys, I will be graduating end of the month...i kinda sealed a job at the local hospital and will be starting in two months time.

Today i went to that hospital to see a doc for some spine issues. I was required to take an x-ray. The radiologist was pretty hot. I missed my chance there and then because i was in some numbing pain at that time.

Now, i really wanna ask her out. I was thinking of gg back there soon (like next week) to ask her out OR wait til I start work, two months later and try to create new opportunities and hit it off from there.

FYI: i think she's at least interested/even if she isn't i wanna ask her out anwyway.

I just wanna know which way is better? Going next week out of the blue (which is kinda creepy) OR wait two months and go create opportunities to ask her out then.

Oh ya, i'm sure i won' be in her department (which is a good thing in case i got rejected) as I got a job for a management position and the hospital is reallly big.

Any thoughts?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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If you like to mingle professional life and social life, then go for it.

If I were you, I wouldn't. I like to separate my professional life and personal life. That hospital might be large, but words do get around at the workplace through the grapevine.
 

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L B said:
If you like to mingle professional life and social life, then go for it.

If I were you, I wouldn't. I like to separate my professional life and personal life. That hospital might be large, but words do get around at the workplace through the grapevine.

Wow, really? even if it's from another unrelated department? Okay, so let's say i wouldn't mind mixing the two. Shld i wait two months or jus go the creep way?
 

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facadegeniality said:
Shld i wait two months or jus go the creep way?
You're already there.

I'm going to re-adjust your headgear here.

Do you have any idea what most new college grads are facing today? Zero job prospects. My friends in their early 20s still have the same crappy job they had in college because they can't find anything else. It is an employers' market, look around and you will see "we want 20 years of experience for 10 dollars an hour." I think you have no idea how fortunate you are to have something lined up without even having graduated yet, because if you did, you wouldn't be considering jeopardizing this new job. It is dog eat dog out there man, this is the worst time in 80 years to consider fishing off the company pier.

Do your job and meet women elsewhere, they are NOTHING but trouble at work. I haven't had to find this out the hard way, all I have to do is listen to 5 minutes of my little sisters' drama when I see her. She's 23, guys think she's smokin hot, and is in a supervisory role at a pharma distributor. She's stupid, so she dates a guy from work and it is NOTHING ELSE but a constant dramafest.

What kind of a man would cause himself such trouble at work? A chump who thinks he can't get women anywhere else, that's who.
 

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Julius_Seizeher said:
You're already there.

I'm going to re-adjust your headgear here.

Do you have any idea what most new college grads are facing today? Zero job prospects. My friends in their early 20s still have the same crappy job they had in college because they can't find anything else. It is an employers' market, look around and you will see "we want 20 years of experience for 10 dollars an hour." I think you have no idea how fortunate you are to have something lined up without even having graduated yet, because if you did, you wouldn't be considering jeopardizing this new job. It is dog eat dog out there man, this is the worst time in 80 years to consider fishing off the company pier.

Do your job and meet women elsewhere, they are NOTHING but trouble at work. I haven't had to find this out the hard way, all I have to do is listen to 5 minutes of my little sisters' drama when I see her. She's 23, guys think she's smokin hot, and is in a supervisory role at a pharma distributor. She's stupid, so she dates a guy from work and it is NOTHING ELSE but a constant dramafest.

What kind of a man would cause himself such trouble at work? A chump who thinks he can't get women anywhere else, that's who.
ohh wow...okay that really hit it home (is that a baseball term?). I know where you are coming from. I guess I've made the decision alr.

Thanks to the both of ya.


btw, nice nick!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Don't crap where you eat. Period. Sorry but there's no in between here.
 

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I started something with a woman at work once and it was a huge mistake. Never again. These days I don't even date women in the same industry as myself.

I never want to run into a woman in a professional capacity that I've slept with. You won't realize why until you've done it. All her professional respect and courtesy toward you is gooone. You don't want to be too intimate with the people you do business with. Remember that.
 
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