"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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this girl at my soon-to-be employment place

facadegeniality

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Hi guys, I will be graduating end of the month...i kinda sealed a job at the local hospital and will be starting in two months time.

Today i went to that hospital to see a doc for some spine issues. I was required to take an x-ray. The radiologist was pretty hot. I missed my chance there and then because i was in some numbing pain at that time.

Now, i really wanna ask her out. I was thinking of gg back there soon (like next week) to ask her out OR wait til I start work, two months later and try to create new opportunities and hit it off from there.

FYI: i think she's at least interested/even if she isn't i wanna ask her out anwyway.

I just wanna know which way is better? Going next week out of the blue (which is kinda creepy) OR wait two months and go create opportunities to ask her out then.

Oh ya, i'm sure i won' be in her department (which is a good thing in case i got rejected) as I got a job for a management position and the hospital is reallly big.

Any thoughts?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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If you like to mingle professional life and social life, then go for it.

If I were you, I wouldn't. I like to separate my professional life and personal life. That hospital might be large, but words do get around at the workplace through the grapevine.
 

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L B said:
If you like to mingle professional life and social life, then go for it.

If I were you, I wouldn't. I like to separate my professional life and personal life. That hospital might be large, but words do get around at the workplace through the grapevine.

Wow, really? even if it's from another unrelated department? Okay, so let's say i wouldn't mind mixing the two. Shld i wait two months or jus go the creep way?
 

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facadegeniality said:
Shld i wait two months or jus go the creep way?
You're already there.

I'm going to re-adjust your headgear here.

Do you have any idea what most new college grads are facing today? Zero job prospects. My friends in their early 20s still have the same crappy job they had in college because they can't find anything else. It is an employers' market, look around and you will see "we want 20 years of experience for 10 dollars an hour." I think you have no idea how fortunate you are to have something lined up without even having graduated yet, because if you did, you wouldn't be considering jeopardizing this new job. It is dog eat dog out there man, this is the worst time in 80 years to consider fishing off the company pier.

Do your job and meet women elsewhere, they are NOTHING but trouble at work. I haven't had to find this out the hard way, all I have to do is listen to 5 minutes of my little sisters' drama when I see her. She's 23, guys think she's smokin hot, and is in a supervisory role at a pharma distributor. She's stupid, so she dates a guy from work and it is NOTHING ELSE but a constant dramafest.

What kind of a man would cause himself such trouble at work? A chump who thinks he can't get women anywhere else, that's who.
 

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Julius_Seizeher said:
You're already there.

I'm going to re-adjust your headgear here.

Do you have any idea what most new college grads are facing today? Zero job prospects. My friends in their early 20s still have the same crappy job they had in college because they can't find anything else. It is an employers' market, look around and you will see "we want 20 years of experience for 10 dollars an hour." I think you have no idea how fortunate you are to have something lined up without even having graduated yet, because if you did, you wouldn't be considering jeopardizing this new job. It is dog eat dog out there man, this is the worst time in 80 years to consider fishing off the company pier.

Do your job and meet women elsewhere, they are NOTHING but trouble at work. I haven't had to find this out the hard way, all I have to do is listen to 5 minutes of my little sisters' drama when I see her. She's 23, guys think she's smokin hot, and is in a supervisory role at a pharma distributor. She's stupid, so she dates a guy from work and it is NOTHING ELSE but a constant dramafest.

What kind of a man would cause himself such trouble at work? A chump who thinks he can't get women anywhere else, that's who.
ohh wow...okay that really hit it home (is that a baseball term?). I know where you are coming from. I guess I've made the decision alr.

Thanks to the both of ya.


btw, nice nick!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Don't crap where you eat. Period. Sorry but there's no in between here.
 

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I started something with a woman at work once and it was a huge mistake. Never again. These days I don't even date women in the same industry as myself.

I never want to run into a woman in a professional capacity that I've slept with. You won't realize why until you've done it. All her professional respect and courtesy toward you is gooone. You don't want to be too intimate with the people you do business with. Remember that.
 
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