"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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This f****** chick

salsipuedes

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I am so ****ing angry, i met this chick about 1 month ago, i know her from highschool 13 years ago, anyways, shes like totally interested in me, asks to go out with me, so we do since i used to like her a lot in highschool, she was the star in highschool and i was the shy guy, so anyways, we go out, and shes like "i am looking for something serious", " i am willing to do anything it takes to make us work", and she introduces me to her family right away. I am like thinking, this is too fast, but i am also into it because i like her a lot, so we start going out, we hold hands, we hug, she kisses me everywhere except on the mouth, and i am also opening up to her in a major way. So the trouble starts one night when we are at the beach, the moon is out, all is perfect, and i go for it, i kiss her, so she pulls back and shes like, this is too fast, lest take it slow, and i am like, WTF!!!! your talking about kids and the future here, why is a kiss too fast. From that point in time she starts to cancel dates, i call and call and i seem to get the cold shoulder, she cancels the movies, she cancels the weekend, and i am like enough is enough, so this past monday i call her to see how she how her weekend went, and shes like, i am busy right now, let me call you right back, so monday and tuesday passes and nothing, so i NEXT her in my mind and move on, and today, she calls me and shes like, i am so sorry, i have been busy, so i stay calm and cool and do a little small talk with her, and tell her i am busy as well, so i go, i will get back to you in a few days, and shes like, o.k.

I am not planning on calling ever, i am not a ****ing toy, she had her chance and if she really likes me, shes going to have to call again and ask for a date, if not, **** off!!!!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'M AN AFC and even I know that you should have nexted this girl a long time ago.

Who cares if she calls again, GET AWAY FROM HER!

You're her toy and it's always going to be that way. You're acting like you need her.

Man...
 

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dude, think of it like this, imagine how screwed up this chic must be to treat another human being that way.

i mean, you might feel like you got royally screwed, but just think about how messed up and totally dysfunctional her mind must be to do what she did.

people who have no respect for others have no respect for themselves.

she's destined for completely messed up life acting like that, trust me.

and just in case you thinks she might somehow find some AFC to take her crap think of this....

once you start treating people like crap you get stuck in a cycle. because you can't really go back to being a nice person, because nice people would feel guilty about their actions. so people get stuck in that crappy cycle and never enjoy their lives because they always treat the people who care about them like crap.

the best revenge is living well my man, always remember that.

don't worry, she'll get with some dude who isn't stable and when she pulls that crap he'll beat the crap out of her.

forget this chic and her games. she's ugly inside and you don't want nothing to do with that.

thank the fates that you have enough self respect to know that you don't need or want a ***** like that in your life.

J
 

DJDamage

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Well in one month you got 3 red flags! you should have NEXT her already before she had the chance.

1) "I am looking for something serious"" I am willing to do anything it takes to make us work" - After one month she thinks you are her soulmate? sounds like a potential psycho.

2) Introduces you to the family - This girl already thinking marriage.

3) she kisses you everywhere except on the mouth - That is always a bad sign. She has some sort of intimacy issues.

4) Making up excuses of why she was giving you the cold shouldes-I been in that situation myself and I suspect that you were like myself became her rebound (she probably recently got dumped by some guy) and now she is off with another guy.

Sounds like damaged goods to me. NEXT!!!!!!
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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I just recently found out her 3 ex boyfriends have been total losers, cartel drug dealers, and cheaters, obviously this chick is searching for pian and anguish, and i am not about to get into that crap.
 

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Ummm...yeah she's definitely psycho. I would definitely think she's got major issues when she wouldn't let you kiss her on the mouth...wtf is that all about??

Thank the gods that your not with her, she's only going to get worse.



PIMP
 

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Well you handled everything fairly well IMO. This is another good example why you should go for a kiss fairly early on as its the only true guide to their interest levels.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Originally posted by Black_Italian
Did you have sex with her atleast?
I'm puirty sure he said he barly kissed her.....

anyway
This chick has been used and abused A LOT. At some point in time she decided to put her self first and look for what she wants; a husband a father to her kids. THE CLOCK IS TICKING. Any sexual advance will most likely be shot down, because she DOES NOT WANT TO BE USED AGAIN.....

I'd say, if you dig deep enough, you'll find that she had some major problems in her life (eather with b/f or father).
 

joekerr31

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are you saying that her father pooed in her panties?
 

salsipuedes

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Her dad died like 11 years ago in an accident, she did admit to me that was a major issue in her life, i actually feel sorry for this chick, i am here complaining i am having trouble dating, but i am an all around good person without major traumas, she on the other hand, seems to be pretty ****ed up. What i do like about this whole thing, is that i went from trying to please her and have her like me, to thinking, wait, SHE is the one who has to show she deserves me, i don't care how beutiful she is.
 

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Take it from a guy who recently moved back to the town he grew up in - trying to sarge women you went to high school with is an utter waste of time.

If you were an AFC when you knew them back in the day, they're still going to treat you like one in the present day even if you have changed. It's hard to expect them to accept the current you...it's not impossible, mind you, but trust me, it's not worth the time nor the effort that is necessary to make such a miracle happen.
 
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