You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Here's the list from where this male (not even a dude) bought an engagement ring; and she's not even a wife yet. They seem pretty expensive; five or six figures.
That's pathetic. I hope he learns his lesson and she breaks up with him before the wedding. She'd be doing him a favor.
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this reminds me of the Reardon bracelet from that Ayn Rand bookThat's pathetic. I hope he learns his lesson and she breaks up with him before the wedding. She'd be doing him a favor.
To me anyone can buy an expensive ring to buy "her love".
I think it would mean more if you put your own blood, sweat, tears into making one for her. It would be cheaper but also represent more in terms of sentimental value. Plus it would shyt test your fiancee whether she's looking at it from the sentimental aspect or more for the bling aspect and trying to brag/impress others.
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Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Exactly, post WW2, the diamond/jewelry industry has done an excellent advertising job of convincing men that diamonds equal love, and the larger diamond equals more love…
She doesn't deserve a ring, he should get her a nutritionist and personal trainer. Her fingers are so fat that the ring gets lost on the hand. So sad and pathetic at the same time.WTF??? Some of these dudes might be trying to marry up a few points above them and might be desperate thirsty simps.
Another poster in the same thread financed a ring for his fiancee. Not to sound mean or anything but to me there is soooo much wrong with this pic. Call me pessimistic but if this guy ever lost his job, he's done.
In addition, her nails and rainbow shirt possibly indication of LGBTQ and liberal leftist feminist that could be an opportunistic. I could be totally wrong but who knows?
you make a good point about the guy feeling more powerful about being able to lavish things on his women.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
IDK. These people spending all this $$$ on carbon is insane. I do not recall ever spending this type of dough on my ex-wife. Crazy stuff going around.
lol exactly what i was thinking too. She's a fat whale. Best gift would be to give her a personal trainer to get into shape or just a gym card.
It's not just the ring but once they get married, she'll get HALF of all his stuff. The expensive ring is just the beginning... If a gal can persuade a schmuck to upgrade her ring even before she's proven herself to him to be a good wife in a marriage, imagine what other stuff she can pull once they do get married.
one of the things is the guy wants to announce his presence. if the girl is wearing a 2+ carat that is above the common man budget. it is announcing the presence of money/power; telling others not to try. yes, the guy does not get it... even the alpha-looking contractor. often it is only effective to keep simps off, experienced men might take it as a sign that they probably can get to her.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
huh, I never thought of some of these things. 1. that he is telling others not to try and 2. that she is in control of his money(but not really, unless its some rare heavily publicized gem Hope, Black Star (sapphire)....I forget some other names or names of famous old dynasty diamonds...how does it represent big money that she's socially in control of?)
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if the guy will spend 3+ months salary on a ring when he is not already living on passive income it tells that the girl has some control of him and his money by proxy.
Yes.
I tired to post there and recommend him to come here for some help. The post was removed and I was banned pretty fast. Oh well. 100k for a ring. You can place that as a down payment on a home. Guess it doesn't matter.. She'll get it one way or another.
If the person will not get and stay in shape with you prior to living together or dare I say marriage, she'll blow up after the kid or kids and she'd be like shelby the whale. Need to train them prior to anything serious like that or leave. If they want that and you enough, they will get their stuff in order. Then, after kids, it will not be as difficult to shed the baby weight. Nothing wrong with baby weight; as long as it's gone in a reasonable amount of time. The caveat is that the dude has to be in shape as well. It's only fair.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
