"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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This could be interesting...it's also a longshot.

Mr. Goods

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Last week, I wrote a thread regarding a distant cousin that drew mixed reviews here. Well...that thread was inaccurate.

You see, that girl and I are not related by any means, according to my parents. While she is my cousin's cousin, we are not related by blood. Not only that, but we have no "common ancestors" and no connections other than my uncle being married to her aunt. Therefore, were not family. :rockon:

Having said that, the event went well. As I mentioned in the previous thread, I had only spoken to her once in the past 2-3 years, and that was very quickly last month online. So you could imagine I was surprised to find out she got me a cool fleece. While I think she was able to get it because it was related to her work, it was still very nice.

Over the course of the event, we clicked once again. I noticed her looking at me a few times. At one point, I jokingly suggested to her brother, an aspiring photographer, come up to my school because I need help taking photos for a project. HB heard this, and believing I was serious, said she wanted to come up then too. At the end of the day, we exchanged numbers and plan on "definitely keeping in touch."

Because our families were right nearby and this was a semi-formal event, no heavy macking was going to happen. Despite that, I had a good time. She's naturally a very friendly person, so I can't automatically assume anything today would hint at "interest."

What's the best thing to do from here? The next time I'm home is after graduation, which is 4 weeks away. She has a major work-related event in two weeks. We have each other's numbers, so I can text her early next week to see what she's up to (I have an extensive job interview that takes up half this week, so I won't be doing anything then). I'd like to keep things going and see if taking things further would be possible.

While I will definitely be looking to spin more plates and try to get to know girls I see at school, I feel this could be worth a shot.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Cliffnotes version: I met a girl at an event, I'm in school and she's working so the soonest we could probably meet up is around a month from now, she was very nice/cool/great personality but she's a friendly person as well, what's the best way I can go about it to keep the good vibes going?

Of course more specific details are in the original post, any replies would really help.
 

OFWHAP

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Why bother? You had to get reassurance from your parents that you're not related. You don't think you would be putting your family in an awkward situation?
 

Chromeo

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dude dont try and bang people in your family circle
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I just can't wait til those awkward family reunions in the future after she's dumped you for someone else...

Do you even know if she's interested in you?
She might have given you a number, but that means nothing. Maybe she just thought you were being "cousinly". You don't care because you want to bang her, but she might be conscious of the fact that even if you aren't blood related... that you're "family".

And your parents didn't say anything against it?

Aren't there any other women without this "baggage" attached that you could see?

This seems like too much of a guessing game to be wasting your time on. What happens if you try to make a move and she says: Ewwww, you are my cousin...

You'll be THAT guy in that family.
I wouldn't want to be that guy.
 

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When your friends ask how you two met, are you going to tell them, "We met through a mutual cousin," or "We met at our family reunion?"
 

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Imagine the amount of women you could meet in those few weeks leading up to the next meeting with her. Sounds like you're suffering from a slight case of Oneitis, and a disturbing one as well (regardless of whether or not you're related by blood). It just seems like a lot of hassle.
 
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