"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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This chick was into me, then dumped me? Don't trust Myspace (or internet dating)!

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I was talking to this chick on myspace who was so into me...I'm talking IOIs, and me in the potential lover category. The girl wanted to meet me in person then she flaked out talkin' bout she's stressed. She then apologizes. She then wanted to meet me next week.

The next thing you know, ya'll ain't gonna believe this sh*t, the b**ch said that she wanted to go back to dating this other guy which she never told me about! :cuss: The b*tch wants to marry him! What he got that I don't?

The end of the message said that she still wanted to be friends, and don't be upset. I wanted to beat the f*ck out of her for that! My reply was for her to take her infidelity elsewhere, I have enough friends, and get out of my life. She was then blocked and deleted from contacting me. I'm sure I played this right.

I've been wondering how or why the f*ck I got rejected out the blue even though the girl kept talking about how she wanted to make me hers.

Point of advice: Don't trust meeting women on the internet!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Yeah, because noone ever does that in person. Ever.
 

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its simple explanation dude.
its nothing you did wrong.

The guy (her ex) dumps her one day..
she feels unwanted..
gets on myspace to find some reassurance from the opposite sex.
she feels unwanted, which equates to ugly, fat and worthless in woman language...
you fell right into the spot of saying the stuff she wanted to hear.
you gave her attention, she was happy.

Meanwhile the other dude has had enough fvkn around with other girls. come back to her.
she leaves you for him.

You were her emotional and self esteem rebound man.

let it go dude..women will always go back to the guy that treats them like dogy doo. and they'll use and abuse guys that give em attention until they know the guy that was a bast4rd to them comes back..all it takes him is one call, itll take you 200.

let it go and NEXT! learn from this though..this is why i dont date from the internet..
 

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Bro it's internet dating.. you didn't even meet the girl in person! That's why reality is a much better venue to meet women than cyberspace.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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How can she dump you if you only know her over the internet?

That makes no sense.
 

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She probably wanted to get herself off with the fantasy of a boyfriend which online provides ie fantasy without having to do any of the heavy lifting of a real relationship.

I'm sure she does this all the time with poor unsuspecting saps for the drama it generates for her sick mind to lap up.
 

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nismo-4 said:
F**k The Internet Dating Scene!!!
How lame. You tried one time and it didn't work. Boo hoo. Dust yourself off and try again man. Geez. With an homotional attitude like that no wonder this chick flaked on you. You should be talking to about 10-12 girls on myspace man. Not just one. It's a straight up numbers game.
 

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Warrior74 said:
How lame. You tried one time and it didn't work. Boo hoo. Dust yourself off and try again man. Geez. With an homotional attitude like that no wonder this chick flaked on you. You should be talking to about 10-12 girls on myspace man. Not just one. It's a straight up numbers game.
Actually it happened about 8 times. I get all kinds of IOIs then I get played like Madden '08. What do u know on myspace game?
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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I have been on this one dating site for 4 months, I have hooked up with 6 women from there, never had a problem once. I think it might just be your game, I noticed my online game is totally different from my bar/night club game. Think of it this way, when you go on a Job interview 10 people are roughly interviewing for the same position, what is it that makes you and your resume stand out from every thing else?? Now apply that to the online dating profile and you should see better results. Its all about the bate, don't use the same lame line all the other guys use, think out side the box.
 

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She probably flaked cause she only knew you over the internet. She never met you in person to see who you truely are. Which, would make her wonder if she really wanted to meet you or not. There really is no "attraction" over the internet...
 

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^^^^ Correct sir! You have to get them off the internet as soon as possible. Sounds like you are doing all your interactions online. After a few messages back and forth you gotta get on the phone and set up a meet. Don't try to set up the meet from myspace. Creepy! She needs to hear your voice so she at least can like what she hears. Go for a meet in a public safe place (coffee shop, food court, etc) and then go for a day 2 and get her the crib to hit it.
 

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Sounds to me like she just went fishing.

i totally agree with slickaz. there wasn't ever really a chance with this chick, i had enough of these in highschool to have a good idea what happened.

She used you, no biggie, happens all the time. Just get over it, don't stress about it, and most of all, don't waste anymore time on it.

If she tries to contact you, brush her off like a pest.
 

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Aragon034 said:
Sounds to me like she just went fishing.

i totally agree with slickaz. there wasn't ever really a chance with this chick, i had enough of these in highschool to have a good idea what happened.

She used you, no biggie, happens all the time. Just get over it, don't stress about it, and most of all, don't waste anymore time on it.

If she tries to contact you, brush her off like a pest.
Wow, what a b**ch! I tried to meet via phone convo, the girl teasing me about kidnapping, and she flaked.

Everyone, stick to real-life encounters! Internet dating has d**kteases a lot more!

I've kicked her to the curb.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Warrior74 said:
^^^^ Correct sir! You have to get them off the internet as soon as possible. Sounds like you are doing all your interactions online. After a few messages back and forth you gotta get on the phone and set up a meet. Don't try to set up the meet from myspace. Creepy! She needs to hear your voice so she at least can like what she hears. Go for a meet in a public safe place (coffee shop, food court, etc) and then go for a day 2 and get her the crib to hit it.
Tried the phone sh*t, girl sounded interested, girl flaked even though she kept calling me sexy and wanted to be my girlfriend. I even only used the phone to only set up a date. SHE WANTED 2 F**K ME!

Oh well, she lost some wonderful d**k.
 

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dude, you didn't even meet her in person. I have learned the hard way that any relationship you think you may have means nothing until you meet them in person. They may take one look at you at that point and change their mind about you(or you them). Why? perhaps the camera made you/her look better, perhaps she senses you don't have matching HLA genetic profiles, who knows.

Bottom line don't take interactions on the internet seriously, and try to meet in person as soon as possible so you don't waste too much time with a dead end. my .02
 
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