"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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This BS feeling I hate...

astrn

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I literally trapped myself again...

This oneitis feeling is like a bumerang. When I manage to throw it away it keeps coming again!

Yesterday I really forced to keep NC but I kinda broke it by looking some instagram photos of my crush. That felt me pretty bad of course!

9 days left until 60 mark...

Thats why keeping NC and not going back is important! Its for goodness of your mental status, not to try win back... She should be the one to try to get back to you.

That also stopping me to improve myself. I stopped going to gym since 2 weeks, not sleeping well, usually wakes very late, stopped reading materials and the most important is I am not able to do field practice!

As a reminder for new guys or even for some experienced players... Stop being needy and clingy like myself from time to time! If nothing helps just stop whatever you wanna do and take a time for a while... Rushing things usually worsen your situtation!

I am a hardcase guy and its really hard to rewire my brain.

But there are some improvements in my self of course. I am MUCH MUCH BETTER than 2 years ago in socially. I changed my ways of thinking alot. I am not afraid of social situations anymore. I can easily do KINOs if i feel myself comfy with the girl even she is my friend... I can express my thoughts much more easy way and I even started todo some dirty jokes around which in the past I usually felt embarrased or felt wierd about it... I am not afraid to say no anymore if I want to.

There are still some things to improve... I should start cold approaches which I am a complete n00b about it. I need to improve my looking a little bit. I need to add some muscle. I need to learn how to pickup, attract, build rapport, escalate and even more scary thing for me I need to lost my half-virgin status. I had a not so good sex experience in the past but it was very long time ago and I couldnt able to properly fvck in that time. That scares me much much more than any other thing! And that was the thing actually I am currently in a oneitis status of my latest crush. If I had managed to fvck her in the moment when she was so into me I would be in a very very different situation right now with her.

Anyways. I live in LA, Westwood area and I am asking if any of DJs live in Santa Monica, Beverly Hills, West Hollywood or Westwood area. I need help especially in real field... I really need a wingman or somebody at least to discuss this my mindfvcking situation...

Thanks bros!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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.Bing.

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astrn said:
I literally trapped myself again...

This oneitis feeling is like a bumerang. When I manage to throw it away it keeps coming again!

Yesterday I really forced to keep NC but I kinda broke it by looking some instagram photos of my crush. That felt me pretty bad of course!

9 days left until 60 mark...
If you would stop counting the days you could think of other things besides her.
 

Zapp Brannigan

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You have to put the past behind you, and accept that it's over.

Don't count days, or force yourself to repress how you feel that only makes things worse.
 
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