Thinking of going clubbing alone

[Bricka]

I was thinking of going clubbing alone tonight, but I'm scared as hell to be honest. I've never been to a club alone before, and I'm nervous that people will think i'm a loser for coming alone.I'll have no social proof, and the fact that I have a hard time meeting people in the first place won't be that conducive to a good sarge. Also I tend to be quite shy at first, and i usually get over that by talking and BS'ing around with friends inside.

Sarging this week hasn't turned out that well, still having trouble approaching, and I don't want to end the week without any attempts, so I figured going clubbing would be good.

Yes, I sound whiny, maybe I should just grab my balls and go.

Any advice from the more seasoned DJ's?

 

[pingpongz]

If you're gonna do it go for a fashionably late entrance...

You also have to be prepared for the question "So who are you here with?" definitely don't say you're there alone...

Some people would recommend it, i wouldn't... its always good to have someone to back you up or fall back on if things turn ****.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Definitely go alone man if its a goal of yours. Your game will get that much better, as it forces you to make more interactions and get out of you're comfort zone. Sure its harder, but trust me...once u get the beginning anxieties taken care of, its no problem. Just be honest. Eventually, If the girl asks you, just tell her that you chose not to go with ur friends this time.

 

[Stéphane]

If you're gonna do it go for a fashionably late entrance...

You also have to be prepared for the question "So who are you here with?" definitely don't say you're there alone...

Some people would recommend it, i wouldn't... its always good to have someone to back you up or fall back on if things turn ****.

All you need to say is why should I go with my friends, and stay comfortable in my social circle when I can go alone to meet new people?

 

[funketekun]

just grab the girl behind you and say you are with her.

 

[Evolution]

I'm nervous that people will think i'm a loser for coming alone.

Nobody cares if you go alone. Hell most people won't notice whoever comes through that door.

I'll have no social proof.

Thats why you make social proof by cold approaching sets/warm sets.

the fact that I have a hard time meeting people in the first place won't be that conducive to a good sarge.

Baby steps my friend, you cannot get to the advanced stuff without mastery of the basics.

Also I tend to be quite shy at first, and i usually get over that by talking and BS'ing around with friends inside.

This is good, but when your friends aren't around what are you going to do?

The key is approach warm-up sets. Just a quick chat to warm you up for the real approaches .

Sarging this week hasn't turned out that well, still having trouble approaching, and I don't want to end the week without any attempts, so I figured going clubbing would be good.

If this is first time to a club, then its going to be hell for you. No offense, but you will be disoriented from the loud environment. You will fail the first few approaches...but you will learn. You will learn a lot more from one night of failure than a week of wimpy approaches here and there.

I'am not saying this to discourage you. But to give you a moment of clarity.

Going to the club will be a great learning experience for you. Best of luck.

 

[Bricka]

This definitely won't be my first time going to a club, but it will be my first time going alone. Also I won't be drinking at all. First because I want to build my courage and confidence, and second because i'll be driving.

I don't really have much problems on the dance floor, I can dance a little bit. I'll be improving this in the near future with some Salsa classes which should be fun in and of themselves.

Here are a few situations for your guys that maybe you could give me some pointers on:
1. If you see a girl or 2 or 3 set standing there with their drinks, would you approach them and keep a distance of a few feet and talk, or would you walk to and put your arm around one of them and talk straight into her ear so she can hear you? personally I feel much more comfortable doing the second thing!

2.If you're talking to a girl and you want to get her on the dance floor but she has a drink in her hand, would you tell her to put it down or would you just grab it and put it down for her and then grab her hand and pull her to the dance floor. Also, how would you handle it if she says something like 'maybe in a bit' ? would you walk away or chat for a bit?

3. What do you do when you first step into the club? Head for the bar? open up a set straight away?

So many things to think about!
Well I opened 2 girls today when I had to step out for a while. Was good. no numbers though, didn't bother asking because I felt i didn't build up enough rapport for it. How do you get over that feeling of blanking out when you're talking? as if you try to open your mouth to say something but your mind is blanking out and you can't think of anything to say?

^maybe that would be better in a different thread.

 

[Poonani Maker]

I'm going it alone too tonight even though I've got a snowshoeing engagement at 10:00 AM tomorrow, but it'll be warm enough to go it tonight so I'll go. If a chick asks if I'm alone I'll just point over her shoulder to get her to turn around and then say well, they were over there. Fvck, I guess they left.

 

[Stéphane]

This definitely won't be my first time going to a club, but it will be my first time going alone. Also I won't be drinking at all. First because I want to build my courage and confidence, and second because i'll be driving.

I don't really have much problems on the dance floor, I can dance a little bit. I'll be improving this in the near future with some Salsa classes which should be fun in and of themselves.

Here are a few situations for your guys that maybe you could give me some pointers on:
1. If you see a girl or 2 or 3 set standing there with their drinks, would you approach them and keep a distance of a few feet and talk, or would you walk to and put your arm around one of them and talk straight into her ear so she can hear you? personally I feel much more comfortable doing the second thing!

Either wait that she leaves the social circle to go to the bathroom or approach the group, and try to get validation from the alpha female in the group, and look around to see if any of the girls are interested. Then try to isolate the girl that is interested from the group. Eye contact, and smilling are indications of interest.

2.If you're talking to a girl and you want to get her on the dance floor but she has a drink in her hand, would you tell her to put it down or would you just grab it and put it down for her and then grab her hand and pull her to the dance floor. Also, how would you handle it if she says something like 'maybe in a bit' ? would you walk away or chat for a bit?

Just forget the dance floor, that's for chumps.

3. What do you do when you first step into the club? Head for the bar? open up a set straight away?

Drink, and try to spot some hot peices of ass.

So many things to think about!
Well I opened 2 girls today when I had to step out for a while. Was good. no numbers though, didn't bother asking because I felt i didn't build up enough rapport for it. How do you get over that feeling of blanking out when you're talking? as if you try to open your mouth to say something but your mind is blanking out and you can't think of anything to say?

^maybe that would be better in a different thread.

Anyways your goal is to create sexual tension so you can bring them home, and f*** the **** out of them.