Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Thinking of deleting my myspace...(prevention one-itis)

jdawgmcb

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Alright, the problem is that with my myspace i am constantly checking on HB's profiles to see their status, etc...

I've thought to myself that deleting it would thus prevent this problem...of course if anyone asks ill make an excuse.

is it a good idea?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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i deleted mine once, got it back but i don't use it for anything else now other than keeping close to distant friends, friends that i never get to see, and family for the most part. but if you don't have the self control to not look at her page then either take her off your friends (if she has a private page) or just do what you wanted to do.. and delete your myspace
 

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That's what i was thinking... it's all for the best, and i must adhere to my New Years Resolution.
 

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attaboy i learned long ago myspace isn't the right place for me at least for girls haha too much oneitis goes around because your constantly LOOKING at her page and watching her every move plus why not go OUT instead of staying on the comp for an hour. its ridiculous in my opinion
 

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Good point, i just need one more person to agree and it's gone! :)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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aliasguy

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Just stop looking at the profiles. You don't have to delete your account to do that. And even if you delete your own profile, can't you still view the main page of others' anyway?


The only people I know who have DELETED their profiles are drama queens who were making a "statement." (And all three were back up on the thing within a month.)

Normal people who don't want to look just leave it alone, ignore it and forget about it.
 

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shouldn't use myspace for trying to get chicks. Dude you have no way of kino, proximity, humor, all the important moves that will get them. Would a girl really like to talk 2 a cold, hard screen?
 

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I deleted it, if i ever feel i need it again i can make a new one...it's for the best right now as i try to keep to my new years resolution. I will use the real world instead of the internet for my first hook ups to lose my AFC status.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Well I had one with the only purpose of contacting one chick. Things didn't work out. She's long gone now. But I kept logging in hoping she would send me a message, total AFC... so I finally just deleted my account. Now she couldn't contact me anyway (I doubt she would) but it's stopped me from always checking. Maybe that was being a drama queen... but I was trying to force myself to let go, and never into myspace anyway. At some point I'll make a new one but it will be myspace music, for a specific purpose.

Of course this doesn't stop YOU from checking their pages. That's hard. The internet is a great thing but it makes it too easy to NOT let go. So you just have to be strong. I'm not there yet but checking her page is not constructive.
 

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In fact I have used the social networking trend to get rid of the' hi-bye' friends.

I have always stressed about deep long lasting frienship..I can't stand 'surface' friendhip. I feel social networking is mostly about surface friendship.

I do not have any account with any website. I have a couple of good friends who stay in touch with me through the phone, MSN and email. This has been around for years and if people cannot use that to keep in touch and want to only 'poke, ping and puke' on a social networking website, then, sorry Im not interested.

summing it up, delete it... if there is anything to gain... its deep friends and loads of time!
 

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silverwolfalpha said:
u r a tard man. I got a Hottie
what does that have to do with myspace? lol

jdawgmcb said:
I deleted it, if i ever feel i need it again i can make a new one...it's for the best right now as i try to keep to my new years resolution. I will use the real world instead of the internet for my first hook ups to lose my AFC status.
if it works for you, go for it. I don't see how myspace is gonna make or break your afcness. it's just another method. works for some, not for others. I laid 3 chicks in 1 week very recently ... off myspace.

then had 3 other girls I could have easily taken home on nye (one I never even met just walked up to me in the club and kissed me) had I not already been out with a girl
 

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dont need dates...lol muscle man think.
Getting my share of the sex 6 times a week minumim when i am not doing exams lol.
Already in LTR and love. Wat else do i need??
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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jdawgmcb

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most of hte people on my myspace had private accounts anyway
 

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It's more important to work on the issue inside your head. Its all about your perception, nothing external can help you with this.
 

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silverwolfalpha said:
dont need dates...lol muscle man think.
Getting my share of the sex 6 times a week minumim when i am not doing exams lol.
Already in LTR and love. Wat else do i need??
you share your sex? with who!? and who cares about the 6 times a week, id get pretty bored 6 times a week MINIMUM with same girl, plus it has nothing to do with myspace :down:

btw jdawg, good for you man! you'll probably end up getting another one! but at least you said it your self, you will forget about her and move on and so on! :up:
 

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Exactly, plus, i have a feeling she was a little miss sunshine anyway (Someone who has all the for sale signs but isn't for sale). Sure, she gives me IOIs..but i CAN NOT have one-itis.. I will NOT do it. Now, of course i'll still try to build rapport if she opens me, and i may occasionally open her, but i will try to open at least 15 sets in between.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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