Thinking my problem is bigger than what I solve by myself

[drewsg]

Let me just say I've tried it all.. but I just can't seem to get anything going. I've gone out and failed, and I've tried and tried.. nothing can't seem to work for me. I've gone out on Friday nights and saturday only end back at home feeling like I wasted my time going out. Psyching myself doesn't work anymore..

It's not the fact that I can't bring women into my life, it's not that at all. I know once I'm able to build a great lifestyle that I love that I'll be able to pull almost any women I choose. As I said, it's not that, It's the fact that I'm not living a life that I can enjoy or be glad to wake up too every morning. I'm 25, I have no friends, I'm stuck living back at home with my parents because I can't afford to go back to school this semester.

I will say that I have made some mental progress in the past few months. Whereas before I didn't think it would ever get better, I'm starting to believe more and more in myself and know that there is light at the end of the long dark tunnel. I'm just lost as to how to finally get there.

I don't know if the solution is paying someone like a life coach or what. It may be expensive, and I don't have a lot of money, but at this point I'll do just anything to keep me from walking down this same path. I just need to know how I build something great from the ground up..

 

[Zarky]

probably need a psychiatrist, man

 

[terran2k]

I seem to say this alot, but can you join a social club? easy way to meet new people, and make sure you go out when the plan to do stuff together. You have to put in effort to get friends.

 

[CHICAGO27]

You need to focus on making friends. here in Chicago was have sport and social. It's a great way to make guy friends and meet ladies. There are also running groups and countless other social opportunities. You just need to get out there. Being at the low point is not such a bad thing. You have only one way to go and that is up.

 

[Kenny Powers]

-Take out a student loan or go to community college and try to get financial aid.
-See a therapist
-Smoke some weed, you will realize how lucky you are to be healthy, living in America, able to walk, and just alive in general. Or dont smoke weed and realize this anyway
-Getting friends can to be tough and getting good friends can be even tougher. Get a job with lots of co-workers, join clubs, sports programs, etc.

Two quotes I live by:

Nothing in life is given to you have to take it

Life is about the pursuit of happiness, identify what makes you happy and pursue it!

 

[LuisGarcia10]

My advice- confidence.

You obviously don't have any confidence atm but just learn to fake it, as soon as you do that people become attracted to you, not just women but potential friends as well. Then as these people become attracted to you, you'll develop the confidence and won't have to fake it any more. For example, I was rubbish with women all my life, my last girlfriend, my subconcious instantly thought "she's way out of my league," my friend who is extremely good with women, basically pushed me into it, and obviously it worked, pretty effortlessly as well. Now I'm not suggesting every woman I, or you meet, will go that smoothly, but the point is that your subconcious is usually what limits you, not the perception that others have of you.

I wouldn't advise smoking weed though if you're not in a good place mentally!