"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Thinking everyone cares WHAT YOU ARE DOING

stuka1939

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I guess everyone thinks like this from time to time, but I have it real bad.

I always think everyone (even strangers) care what I do.

E.g. Are those other guys in the bar going to care if I go over and talk to that hot chick?

Are people going to care of hate on me because I am dating a hot chick?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Master Bates

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yes, they all do care, because they're all watching you.

at all times.

O.O
 

azanon

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Whether they care or not, and to what degree, needs to become irrelevant to you. You don't need someone's position to live life as you please unless you are living with your parents, of course.

Sure, occasionally, someone might not like something that you do.
By the way, if you can get away with it, never pass up a chance to let that person know that you really don't give a f*** what they think. I get a kick out of doing that to people who think they can influence me. What fun is power if you don't occasionally rub someone's nose in it? And there's no moral shame in doing that to someone who has the nerve to tell you how to live your life.
 

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Ironically enough, everyone's wondering the same. You care about what strangers think of you doing X. Yet, strangers care about what you think of them doing Y.

Pretty much anyone craves validation.
 

thehexman

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Are they watching you? Yes they are.

I grew up in a small town, so I know that everybody watches what other people do. Imagine if somebody streaked through it. Would everybody watch? Yes.

But what you really want to ask yourself is: Do they care? They don't. I've found that most people watch other people because they are bored with their life and therefore look to others for entertainment or even meaning. I think often there's even an element of envy.

If they don't care, why should you?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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lildevil

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I always think everyone (even strangers) care what I do.

E.g. Are those other guys in the bar going to care if I go over and talk to that hot chick?

Sometimes peoples minds are worrying about some other SH1T just that we make ousrself afrraid be so affraid to FVCK UP.... that we get self-conscious if anyone is looking...

Most people at bars probably think your cool or damn how did he get that chick...and me I LIKE borrowing lines from the guys who
 

SinJester

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Such is the nature of the human being.

Once you realize people are worrying about themselves and not you it is easier to come out of your shell.

The thing is you can't impress people no matter what you do. If you aren't succesfull they will look down on you. If you are succesfull they will look upon you with jealousy. In the end you just have to do what makes you happy.
 

meitenesrigas

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Master Bates said:
yes, they all do care, because they're all watching you.

at all times.

O.O
Big Brother is always watching. Just look at that cesspool better known as London. The whole place is being watched 24/7 by cameras.
 
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