"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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thinking about making some big changes

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Been thinking about dropping my girlfriend and looking for a wife and having a kid or two. Normally I'm attracted to women my own age or older but now I find the younger ones atteactive. Any suggestions on what age would be ideal? I'm almost 35. And already decided single moms are off the radar.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Been thinking about dropping my girlfriend and looking for a wife and having a kid or two.
I'd encourage you to choose between one or the other.

A woman may be your wife for only a short while. Statistics are stacked against you having a successful and life-long marriage. The chances of you successfully keeping your child in your life and not being financially ruined by the court system are also slim.

A child will be your child until one of you dies.

If you're financially able to have a child without the mother present, look into being a "single dad by choice". Besides adoption, it's the only thing I can safely advocate for those wanting to become parents.
 

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Desdinova said:
I'd encourage you to choose between one or the other.

A woman may be your wife for only a short while. Statistics are stacked against you having a successful and life-long marriage. The chances of you successfully keeping your child in your life and not being financially ruined by the court system are also slim.

A child will be your child until one of you dies.

If you're financially able to have a child without the mother present, look into being a "single dad by choice". Besides adoption, it's the only thing I can safely advocate for those wanting to become parents.
Dude, come on.

We're all trying to improve our lives here, and in no way/shape/form should we be condoning raising kids outside the family structure. Single parenthood is not a good thing, and should only be used when necessary due to situation. Not by choice. EVER.
 
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in no way/shape/form should we be condoning raising kids outside the family structure.
I always wanted to have at least one kid. I got that, and I'm still paying for the divorce. Now that I look back on things, I would have certainly gone this route instead of trying to have a traditional family. The mere idea of having a successful traditional family is a pipe dream. There are too many unsuccessful marriages and too many rich lawyers to even contemplate marriage.

IMO, I think that everyone on this board should have at least one child. The boys should be raised with red pill awareness, and the girls should be taught to please their men. Exiting out of reproduction is NOT going to help fix society, especially if the good men die off. Likewise, having a child and letting your ex get custody doesn't fix anything either. The only way we can make damn sure our children contribute to restoring society is to take the responsibility of raising them ourselves.

Men need to take control of the world back. It's going to hell in it's current feminized state.
 

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Dear Des,
"Men need to take control of the world back. It's going to hell in it's current feminized state"...Yes quite agree but if wishes were horses Beggars would ride LOL.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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But that's my point. Things aren't going to change for the better in the next couple of years. It's going to take decades for improvement to happen, and that's if it's at all possible. It's up to the men to change it. Leaving women in charge of everything is going to render humankind infertile with defective genes.
 

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Desdinova said:
I always wanted to have at least one kid. I got that, and I'm still paying for the divorce. Now that I look back on things, I would have certainly gone this route instead of trying to have a traditional family. The mere idea of having a successful traditional family is a pipe dream. There are too many unsuccessful marriages and too many rich lawyers to even contemplate marriage.
You seem to have given up. Even if the divorce rate is 50% (which many demographers doubt), that's only half the population that is mired in the torture that we talk about so often here. The other half is succeeded and improving society.

Desdinova said:
IMO, I think that everyone on this board should have at least one child. The boys should be raised with red pill awareness, and the girls should be taught to please their men. Exiting out of reproduction is NOT going to help fix society, especially if the good men die off. Likewise, having a child and letting your ex get custody doesn't fix anything either. The only way we can make damn sure our children contribute to restoring society is to take the responsibility of raising them ourselves.
I agree with this, but disagree on the means of achieving it.

Desdinova said:
Men need to take control of the world back. It's going to hell in it's current feminized state.
Isn't that what we are talking about? This whole deal lies with the men. If the men break free, the women will follow. I mean, the women do nothing but please their men in Syria too, but you don't see people wanting to move over there.

Desdinova said:
But that's my point. Things aren't going to change for the better in the next couple of years. It's going to take decades for improvement to happen, and that's if it's at all possible. It's up to the men to change it. Leaving women in charge of everything is going to render humankind infertile with defective genes.
This is key. But you can't abandon what works.
 
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