There is always that issue with "the other woman" as hell hath no fury as a woman scorned. This is as close as a phone call or as blatant as showing up on your door step some evening. This is hard to explain away. Believe me. If you decide to have a woman on the side you need to find one that has as much to lose as you do....like another married person. I will give you some advice which you have not requested. I will tell you it is not the woman or the sex but the thrill of the chase, the conquest, the newness of finding out about another's life...and it is addictive. The highs are great, the lows are horrible. But yet once you cross the line you will continue to do so time and time again....Eventually you will find a woman who you will fall for hook, line and sinker. When this happens the decision will be made for you as either you walk away with a shredded heart and will hate your spouse for not giving you the freedom you need to follow your love, or you will leave the marriage. Neither is a good choice especially if you have children. As I told you before choose wisely grasshopper. The best to you in your decision. Spinach.