"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Thinkers VS non-thinkers

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Thinkers vs non-thinkers.


for along time I always thought everyone was a thinker..then i came across an article on this..and nearly 40 percent of people arent thinkers.


and Im thinking :) wht does this mean..and here are some of the differences.

-thinkers have the ablity to convey emotions into words easier than non-thinkers.

this is where 1 person in the relationship ussually brings emotions up more. for instance with my girl...she has written me 2 poems..because it was easier and more time consuming for her to display her feelings to me in words.

where as in the everyday grind I bring up most everythign else..and she agrees then goes further with it..but i initiate it.

so dont worry when ur making more of the verbal moves.


-thinkers over anylize nearly everything..and create clouded judgement in situations that are clear...most people on here are thinkers.(non thinkers go with the flow more....and dont rationalize every situation wether positive or negative.

-thinkers tend to try to create perfection with every detail.

non thinkers tend to overlook all this.

example: a thinker could make a negative out of a positive were as a non thinker is more niave and less likely to anylize to much.



anyways the basis of this thread is for you guys out there and I know its most of us here..that anylize till the cows come home..to take things for substance as in ACTIONS over words..and not get worried over every little thing.

and dont take things the wrong way.
 

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hmmmm? i wonder who inspired you to write this thread.... ha ha! LOL

anyways,

they way i handle myself when i over analyze is this:

there called "thought attacks" AKA doubts, frustrations etc....all created by (take a guess) YOURSELF!!!!!

once i start getting frustrated, i take a deep breathe, stop a minute and realize that this thought is just a "thought attack" and what im really doing here is

"REHEARSING MY OWN UNHAPPINESS"

Word to the wise: RECOGNIZE "thought attacks" and when you do say to yourself...

"oh geez, here i go again...." and you'll see yourself let go it like a miracle...


~joon
 

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We think exactly alike.

for instance last night.

she was feeling bad....and u know what my brain said to me:

she wants me to leave.

what a dumbass I am.


next thing I said I have to go by 1 am...I emphasized this because I work early and im tired of being tired at work.


and she was like 7 min to go...then 3 min to go.

and my brain tells me.....she wants me to leave.

again dumbass!




those are examples of over anylyzing fears.

you cannot get rid of this..but you can contain it.
 

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thinkers aren't all that bad buddy.....
 

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My boyfriend calls those "though attacks" creating his own drama...it's funny how this site has made me realize that men are way too concious...you guys are too concerned with what we say and do...but then again we tend to be so freaken confusing at times that I cannot help but justifyin you!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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"-thinkers over anylize nearly everything..and create clouded judgement in situations that are clear...most people on here are thinkers.(non thinkers go with the flow more....and dont rationalize every situation wether positive or negative."

So what you are saying is thinkers are annoying and homer simpson should be king :D
 

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every time i get a "thought attack" i say, "sh!t, shes prob. thinkin the same thing to some extent so knock it off"
 

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no, im happy being a thinker.


but I dont think women realize..how many of us guys over anylize everything.

the point is....if not checked..it can lead to errors in choices.
 

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Good question
I have a friend who thinks to much, infact my ex wife used to do that as well. lol

What struck me was the really heavy thinkers (which we can all be on occassion) can actually have an entire conversation played out in their mind complete with what I was expected to say!

Aparently, all I had to do was turn up and read from the script.

There is good thinking and bad thinking after all.

The enemy is not the thinking so much but the procrastination that goes with it as a result of to much overanalyzing.

My boyfriend calls those "though attacks" creating his own drama...it's funny how this site has made me realize that men are way too concious...you guys are too concerned with what we say and do...but then again we tend to be so freaken confusing at times that I cannot help but justifyin you!
This is true and it is often our undoing. This is why the bible on this site is very good, most guys do think to much when it comes to women and as Friv says, it leads us down the wrong path. This is very common and most of us men need to avoid reading to much into what a women says but pay attention to more to what she does.

"I am ok" is a prime example as she smashes the plate into the sink. :crackup:
 
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"I am ok" is a prime example as she smashes the plate into the sink. :crackup: [/B]


Oh God, I love you guys (referring to the ones with wisdom and experience not the keyboard jockies). It is so true and yet I dont have a reason why we just can't tell you guys straight up how we feel right away. I guess we are just afraid to look like this guy ->:cuss:
 

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<rant on>

The thinker vs. non-thinker dichotomy is BS.

No evidence suggests you can separate people into one of those two groups.

It's like personality types, horoscopes, etc. Our normal biases help to confirm and enhance differences that are in reality negligible.

It was no doubt written by a "thinker." And it surely made him feel good.

If he were a real thinker though, he'd actually look for truth and support his idea with careful logic and evidence.

</rant off>
 

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Originally posted by Skel
"-thinkers over anylize nearly everything..and create clouded judgement in situations that are clear...most people on here are thinkers.(non thinkers go with the flow more....and dont rationalize every situation wether positive or negative."

So what you are saying is thinkers are annoying and homer simpson should be king :D
lmfao:crackup:
 

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Originally posted by frivolousz21
Thinkers vs non-thinkers.


for along time I always thought everyone was a thinker..then i came across an article on this..and nearly 40 percent of people arent thinkers.
Post a link to the article.
 

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Re: Re: Thinkers VS non-thinkers

Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
Post a link to the article.
yes, i too would like to read this article b/c it only dawned on me last week that other people are concious, or what you call "thinkers"
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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