Think with your head, not your emotions - but how?

[Keeper]

Eish... today I did a stupid thing. My girl shyt tested me, and I became emotional. Started saying stupid things and instantly the feelings of doubt, regret, rejection, fear and inadequacy came back from my past. :-/ The girl, I found, liked to heavily flirt with other dudes, and me, being a pretty monogamous chump, let it get to me. Only now I see that she really did like me... and it was a shyt test.{sighs}

Right... so my question is this. What 'vitamins' do you guys take to shut your heart up, and start thinking with your head and balls? Someone point me to a chapter in the bible or something, coz I feel like totally shyt. :-(

 

[Faded Image]

Your girl flirting with other dudes is not a test, that's disrespect. You should raise a red flag to watch your girl cause that could be a serious sign of infidelity.

You need an alternate plan to fall back on in case this one falls through.

"B"

 

[Keeper]

No, no. From what I heard later, she was just playing with me... wanted to see what I'd do.

Well... I did do something. :-(

 

[R1cK]

Ouch that sucks

The only thing is that you are afraid of losing her so your insecurity took over. I should know because I am have let my own insecurity turn into jealousy with the girl I had been dating. But the thing that I realize that I should not really feel this way. I she does decieve to go after other guys then that is fine because I know what I am worth. I will just move on and find another girl that will appreciate what I can offer her. In your situation just know that she is not the only girl out there and have more confidence in your self worth. Do not let insecurity get the better of you and next time she decides to play this type of an annoying game again show her that is she did do this for real then you would leave her because this was not a funny joke. I bet if you did this to her she would be extremely mad at you. To me I would let her know that this was not cool by keeping my distance make her chase after me when she is trying to apoligize.

 

[PVSSY-EATER]

See this is the point I am making, afcs, if you dont know what you are talking about, dont answer any questions.

To answer the question, a girl that likes you WILL shyt test you, reason being, is that she knows that some guys are just try to imitate other guys that gets girls, and try to act all confident and what not, so she is trying to see if you are really confident or is this just a show.

One of a don juans strongest traits, is his self-control. He CAN lose his temper and kick everybodys azz, he CAN blow up the whole fvckin world if he wanted to, but he has self-control.

You will never be able to eliminate your insecurities. I mean, you will feel scared, nervous, worried, at the same time you will also feel happy, and all that, those feelings and emotions are what makes you human, and unless you want to leave the earth, you will remain human.

The key is being about to control those emotions and insecurities. Place your value or self worth in God or anything other than outside success, what I mean is, place your value and self-worth on the inside, this will give you joy and peace. A joy and peace that the world did not give, thus, the world cannot take away.

And then when you get around people, you will have a natural aura of joy, now all that is left to do, is keep your attitude positive. Dont let nothing STEAL that joy, I dont give a damn if all the guys start teasing you and talking about you, one thing I learned even from this site and my issues with flamers, if you act like it does not bother you, they will stop, if you act like it does, they will continue.

And girls do this all the time. She says, Let me see if I can get under his skin? We guys like to be tough on the outside, but women are merely focused on inner toughness, that is what makes a don juan who he is...his self control, and love.

 

[NeverFear]

Use your Mind!

Dude, the solution is right in front of your eyes!!!!

You already KNOW that using your MIND not emotions is the solution!


When you FEEL that way start talking to yourself!!


"Shes acting childish" "If she keeps this up she is not worthy of me".

"she is testing. Ride it out"

Dude, keep using your head.

 

[JonJack]

The best way to get around shyt tests is to ask the girl questions and try and figure out her intentions. Pull this off and she'll start to realize that you're not a dumb schmuck who she can play around with.

For example, if she would to start telling you about how she's been hanging out with so many other guys and they've been having a good time flirting and all, say this:

You: How do you think doing all this will make me feel?
Girl: I don't know, you tell me.
You: It really seems like you're just trying to get a rise outta me.
Girl: Why do you say that?
You: Because I can't possibly imagine you wouldn't have a clue about how I would feel about you doing all that crap. It's pretty obvious unless you don't really know me.
Girl: *starts feeling stupid because you have caught her playing games*

The good thing about this is that you don't exactly answer her queries directly. You're actually making her answer her questions on her own. You're actually kind of making her tell herself that you will get jealous. Hopefully she will get a clue and stop bugging you to be her emotional foot stool. You also make it known to her that you're not some dumb AFC who gets overly emotional about things but you still do feel something for her.

 

[Faded Image]

I hope that post from P.E. wasn't directed at me. See, i'm not like you spending all day on this board posting concepts and techniques to pick up women that don't even work for you, then gets pissed when someone disagree. I have a REAL life with REAL life experiences. You sure are a Master DJ at this only after what four months. WOW! Man I think that's an all time record I wanna be just like you. Oh yeah wasn't in only three months ago that you posted this.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=71739

No matter how much I lie to myself, this thing with women just doesnt seem to be working out. Everytime I fall down after being rejected like one million times, I get up, just to keep getting knocked back down and at the end of the week, to be left with nothing.

I apply the 3s rule at clubs, I leave with numerous of numbers: some I call the next day, some I call two or three days later, however the result is always the same, girl doesn't want to go out with me.

I am ****y and funny and the girl is ALWAYS feeling me when I get her number, but when I call to set something up, always ends in rejection and me saying, NEXT......Well, I am tired of saying NEXT!

By the way things are going I will be saying next for the rest of my life only to die with nothing. Guys, I'm sorry if I dont sound all don juan and all, but I just keep getting rejected and I am really getting to the point of burn-out.

And before someone says it, no I am not acting AFC at all. I come off as more confident, extroverted, and funny to be around, then shy, boring, and stale. I just dont understand why things just arent turning out right.

My mind keeps telling me to go get another girl, in other words, NEXT, but you come to a time where you know damn well that you did everything you were supposed to do and you totally came off as the alpha male, but when the **** still doesnt work, ****, i might as well as did the afc **** with her if the don juan **** was still going to get me rejected.

Does anyone have any words.

And you have the nerve to call people you don't know AFCs. :crackup:

Being labled DJ really doesn't mean anything to me cause it's irrelevant and none existing in "THE REAL WORLD" unless you work at a club or do parties. I'm who I am and don't need to gain approval from anybody to feel good about myself. I'm not a expert on women but i can hold my own. (Don't ask my how)

No, no. From what I heard later, she was just playing with me... wanted to see what I'd do.

She was just playing, I don't think so. She did it cause she knew she could get away with it. You got all emotional which made her feel bad and all she had to do was to say she was playing which ended it. I have nothing more to say but it's your life, live it how you want to.

 

[PVSSY-EATER]

whow, whow, whow. first off faded image, get your shyt straight before you go running off at the mouth, your mouth is writing checks that your punk azz cant cash...

If you are still dumb, and thinking, that what I post in a thread, is my words, or shyt that I created, you are as stupid and gay as that MindOverMatter fag....what I say has been written and set up by nature, how do I know, because I have experienced it, why do I post it here, because Afcs like YOU and the guy that made this thread need to hear the truth, so WHEN you leave this site, you will KNOW what the hell you are supposed to do.

And for the record little punk, when I post here, it is between my time as a salesman, as a don juan, working out, hanging with friends, and I am even about to start martial arts training as well, get a little Bruce Lee in me......

But dont run your mouth about shyt you dont know, because in the end, you will look as stupid as your buddy MindOverMatter posting his naked pictures to guys on the interent...

And as far as the so called, techniques not working for me, if you even understand and knew, that women were sexual beings, and all you had to do was connect with her on a sexual level, than your punk azz would not be on here looking through posts and articles trying to find the newest fad in getting women, the shyt does work for me, every time, and I will post the truth here, so AFCS can stop turning women into a damn chemistry project, and get on with their lives....

What else do you have to say you little punk? I can tell you are insecure as hell, haha, I HOPE WHAT P.E. SAID WAS NOT DIRECTED AT ME, haha, grow some balls and shut your on the computer talking shyt azz up..Haha, why is it that everybody is so tough on the computer now a days? hahaahahaha

 

[Faded Image]

whow, whow, whow. first off faded image, get your shyt straight before you go running off at the mouth, your mouth is writing checks that your punk azz cant cash...

You're right MY AZZ can't cash checks, I'm glad you're smart enough to realize that. I usally use my checking account to do that dumb azz.

If you are still dumb, and thinking, that what I post in a thread, is my words, or shyt that I created, you are as stupid and gay as that MindOverMatter fag....what I say has been written and set up by nature, how do I know, because I have experienced it, why do I post it here, because Afcs like YOU and the guy that made this thread need to hear the truth, so WHEN you leave this site, you will KNOW what the hell you are supposed to do.

Can you PLEASE repeat this in English cause i'm having a hard time translating it.

And for the record little punk, when I post here, it is between my time as a salesman, as a don juan, working out, hanging with friends, and I am even about to start martial arts training as well, get a little Bruce Lee in me......

You don't have to prove anything to me. I just can't see how you do all this and still have time to master this stuff in only four short months.

And as far as the so called, techniques not working for me, if you even understand and knew, that women were sexual beings, and all you had to do was connect with her on a sexual level, than your punk azz would not be on here looking through posts and articles trying to find the newest fad in getting women, the shyt does work for me, every time, and I will post the truth here, so AFCS can stop turning women into a damn chemistry project, and get on with their lives....

The truth is you're lying to yourself.

What else do you have to say you little punk? I can tell you are insecure as hell, haha, I HOPE WHAT P.E. SAID WAS NOT DIRECTED AT ME, haha, grow some balls and shut your on the computer talking shyt azz up..Haha, why is it that everybody is so tough on the computer now a days? hahaahahaha

Acting tough, wasn't you the one who started it with this.

See this is the point I am making, afcs, if you dont know what you are talking about, dont answer any questions.

To answer the question, a girl that likes you WILL shyt test you, reason being, is that she knows that some guys are just try to imitate other guys that gets girls, and try to act all confident and what not, so she is trying to see if you are really confident or is this just a show.

Oh like i'm really going to listen to someone who posted "I hate myself" a few months ago but now has discovered this new found knowledge and thinks it's God sent. Do youself a favor and put the DJ bible down cause it's really starting to cook your brain.

 

[PVSSY-EATER]

Do yourself a favor and get off my dyck.

What the fvck is this, follow pvssy eater around or something. For the record, I joined in February, I have been learning for a while now, I found this site in like September or October, even before that I was learning from my boys and life in general.

This site has opened up to me, shty I already knew, but I just didnt think that IT was what was working for me, I originally thought it required much more, but it doesnt.

You and the rest of the little flamers group, I am going to call yall, the little fags, come here and basically try to say and determine, how LONGGGG it takes for someone to actually GET it.

For the record, it didnt take me four months to get it, if you really want to know azzclown, it took me one night. Because women are simple, you ALREADY have it, its just the rest of the stuff that you need to work on that takes time, like your health, your body, your career, but none of those things are a requirement. Women are sexual beings, you become sexual, and you and her connect, I had fvcked women in the past, and I thought it was because I was ****y funny, or because my biceps were big, but it was because we connected on a sexual level. Faded Image, that is it when it comes to women, why you little fags are still looking for something new, beats the hell out of me.

And as far as me lying to myself, well, if I am, maybe I should get my eyes checked. I thought that everytime I go to the club I am the life of the party, and I usually take some girls back to the Park Motel and fvck.

I thought that I have three girls right now, that IF I want a relationship I can get with, but, I dont want one.

I thought, that even thought I am not tall, or dark, or handsome, but I still manage to attract women BASED on the system that nature put up, but maybe, my eyes need to be checked.

Why the hell I need to come on a website and lie about anything I learn or do, beats the hell outta of me...I aint here to prove myself to you guys, I can care less if you like me or hate the hell out of me

I post threads to help afcs out.....I try to make it as simple as possible, because it is, so they can get on with their lives.

As far as the I hate myself or depressed, or down and out threads I did a while ago, I learned my shyt and got on with my life. It does not take three years to discover, that women are sexual beings, and all you have to do is become sexual and connect with them. That thread I did a while ago where I was mad about how busy my life was and that I didnt have time to get and fvck women, was me basically crying about being a man and I was really concerned if I would have time for women. I have learned to manage my time and now meet new women on a daily basis. Why would that take a lonnnggggg time to figure out, once again, beats the hell out of me...

When you learn how simple this is, you will also discover this one truth, BEING A DON JUAN DOES NOT TAKE ROCKET SCIENCE, nor...DOES IT TAKE A LIFETIME....

But being a don juan is all about discovery.....once you discover what you are doing wrong and correct it, there is no more need to remain depressed and a loser.

But I guess you would not understand that...you want it in English, well, heres some English for ya,

SHUT THE HELL UP, AND STOP FLAMING.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Originally posted by Keeper
The girl, I found, liked to heavily flirt with other dudes, and me, being a pretty monogamous chump, let it get to me. Only now I see that she really did like me... and it was a shyt test.{sighs}

You are not a chump but your girl is a hor - only hors flirt with other dudes when they have a b/f!!! And to flirt in front of you is extremely disrespectful!!! Hors like everybody and not just you!!!

You should have slapped this ho!!!HoSlap.net

 

[Keeper]

Originally posted by PVSSY-EATER

one thing I learned even from this site and my issues with flamers, if you act like it does not bother you, they will stop, if you act like it does, they will continue.

Puzzy... I love you an all... but please shut up. You too Faded. This is just stupid.

 

[Ridingthelightning]

I personally don't put up with any tests of any sort. I really hate playing games, and a test is just a game. If I am being tested then I drop her like a bad habit.

 

[PimpNHard]

PVSSY-EATER

PVSSY-EATER, I respect your views man, but you gotta let me know what is up with all the hostility? Everybody comes to this board to voice there OWN opinions or ask their OWN questions. Just because their's does not agree with yours does not mean you should blast them outof the water. There are ALOT of AFCs out here - most of us started as one - and they come here for TRUE DJs, like yourself and I, to help them reach the realization of the truth about women and the dating game. We waste alot of time and energy flaming each other, but that's not what this site/forum is about.

 

[darthsidious]

P ussy-lamer reminds me of General Grievous always boasting of his abilities but always comes up short, he was useful as my pawn to become the master of an entire galaxy.

Infact everyone should vision P ussy-lamer as some bumbling mecha robot.