Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Dumb people compare themselves to idiots. “Oh look at that fool,” they will say, “he must be a bureaucrat.” While Fark.com is amazingly funny at cataloging moments of stupidity, and the coffee table book “The Quotable Douchebag: A Treasury of Spectacularly Stupid Remarks” delivers on its promise, making the comparison to idiocy brings you down to their level, if you look at the sun for too long. Smart people compare themselves to geniuses. They know they don’t lead a life of genius and so they aspire to improve their own. Smart people evolve, dumb people stagnate.

Steve Jobs was a brilliant man of passion. Part of his success must be his inspiration by admiring genius, ironically curiously enough, by his understanding the philosophy to follow your heart; you can’t connect the dots in your life looking forward. Life is lived forward, but is only understood backwards. He dropped out of college and dropped into classes he wanted to take, and from there he learned calligraphy. When he was fired from Apple, he learned to let go from his first love. The loss expanded him to be more well-rounded and he founded Pixar. It doesn’t matter if you hated the minutiae of his cunning Apple business practices, he was a consummate artist. If you ever watch his Stanford University commencement speech, his delivers the most inspiring poetic justice. Like how the Quotable Douchebag quotes Spencer Pratt (1983-), American reality TV show personality, as saying, “If people aren’t hating on you, they don’t care, and if they don’t care, that means you’re not doing anything right.”

Just sayin’.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I must be doing plenty of things right then, cause God Knows the Net is full of "haters" aiming their poison at me. :) Pathetic little creatures that they are.
 

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don't said:
I must be doing plenty of things right then, cause God Knows the Net is full of "haters" aiming their poison at me. :) Pathetic little creatures that they are.
Everyone is wrong. You are the only person who is correct. Ever.

Deep Dish: Steve Jobs also had a borderline insane work ethic. Sure he was clever in some ways, but he worked and never gave up no matter what. It's not just about the ideas, it's about him working through the failures and learning and improving.
 

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You had me until you quoted spencer pratt. The guy is only rich and famous because of his parents.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Ah. Well, in that case here’s a better quote.

“Every morning when I wake up I experience an exquisite joy—the joy of being Salvador Dali—and I ask myself in rapture, ‘What wonderful things is this Salvador Dali is going to accomplish today?’”
 

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not about everything. Just the things that I care enough about to have researched a bit. It's really not hard to maintain a much higher average than most, either, at everything, in fact.
 

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not about everything. Just the things that I care enough about to have researched a bit. It's really not hard to maintain a much higher average than most, either, at everything, in fact.
People throw crap at you because you have a very poor way of communicating. Oh you know things... right. Why don't you show us in detail and explain yourself?

If you want people to listen and agree with you, then say things that they can listen to instead of cryptic messages that look like they were written by a 13 year old girl in a secret diary. More detail is really needed. Otherwise you're only able to talk to people who already know what you know and don't share a damn thing with anyone else who is of a lesser intelligence on that topic.

If you explain yourself better and the reasoning behind it, you will have many more people agreeing with you and you do them a favour by educating them. Everyone wins.
 

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why should I let you learn for free what cost me so much, hmm? don't you consider yourself an arrogant little ahole for even asking such a thing?
 

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Law 7: Get Others To Do The Work For You, But Always Take the Credit

Use the wisdom, knowledge, and legwork of other people to further your own cause. Not only will such assistance save you valuable time and energy, it will give you a godlike aura of efficiency and speed. In the end your helpers will be forgotten and you will be remembered. Never do yourself what others can do for you.​
“Use the past, a vast storehouse of knowledge and wisdom. Isaac Newton called this ‘standing in the shoulders of giants.’ He meant that in making his discoveries he had built on the achievements of others. A great part of his aura of genius, he knew, was attributable to his shrewd ability to make most of the insights of ancient, medieval, and Renaissance scientists. Shakespeare borrowed plots, characters, and even dialogue from Plutarch in the writing of subtle psychology and witty quotes. How many later writers have in their turn borrowed from—plagiarized—Shakespeare?”
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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