"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Dumb people compare themselves to idiots. “Oh look at that fool,” they will say, “he must be a bureaucrat.” While Fark.com is amazingly funny at cataloging moments of stupidity, and the coffee table book “The Quotable Douchebag: A Treasury of Spectacularly Stupid Remarks” delivers on its promise, making the comparison to idiocy brings you down to their level, if you look at the sun for too long. Smart people compare themselves to geniuses. They know they don’t lead a life of genius and so they aspire to improve their own. Smart people evolve, dumb people stagnate.

Steve Jobs was a brilliant man of passion. Part of his success must be his inspiration by admiring genius, ironically curiously enough, by his understanding the philosophy to follow your heart; you can’t connect the dots in your life looking forward. Life is lived forward, but is only understood backwards. He dropped out of college and dropped into classes he wanted to take, and from there he learned calligraphy. When he was fired from Apple, he learned to let go from his first love. The loss expanded him to be more well-rounded and he founded Pixar. It doesn’t matter if you hated the minutiae of his cunning Apple business practices, he was a consummate artist. If you ever watch his Stanford University commencement speech, his delivers the most inspiring poetic justice. Like how the Quotable Douchebag quotes Spencer Pratt (1983-), American reality TV show personality, as saying, “If people aren’t hating on you, they don’t care, and if they don’t care, that means you’re not doing anything right.”

Just sayin’.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I must be doing plenty of things right then, cause God Knows the Net is full of "haters" aiming their poison at me. :) Pathetic little creatures that they are.
 

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don't said:
I must be doing plenty of things right then, cause God Knows the Net is full of "haters" aiming their poison at me. :) Pathetic little creatures that they are.
Everyone is wrong. You are the only person who is correct. Ever.

Deep Dish: Steve Jobs also had a borderline insane work ethic. Sure he was clever in some ways, but he worked and never gave up no matter what. It's not just about the ideas, it's about him working through the failures and learning and improving.
 

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You had me until you quoted spencer pratt. The guy is only rich and famous because of his parents.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Ah. Well, in that case here’s a better quote.

“Every morning when I wake up I experience an exquisite joy—the joy of being Salvador Dali—and I ask myself in rapture, ‘What wonderful things is this Salvador Dali is going to accomplish today?’”
 

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not about everything. Just the things that I care enough about to have researched a bit. It's really not hard to maintain a much higher average than most, either, at everything, in fact.
 

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not about everything. Just the things that I care enough about to have researched a bit. It's really not hard to maintain a much higher average than most, either, at everything, in fact.
People throw crap at you because you have a very poor way of communicating. Oh you know things... right. Why don't you show us in detail and explain yourself?

If you want people to listen and agree with you, then say things that they can listen to instead of cryptic messages that look like they were written by a 13 year old girl in a secret diary. More detail is really needed. Otherwise you're only able to talk to people who already know what you know and don't share a damn thing with anyone else who is of a lesser intelligence on that topic.

If you explain yourself better and the reasoning behind it, you will have many more people agreeing with you and you do them a favour by educating them. Everyone wins.
 

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why should I let you learn for free what cost me so much, hmm? don't you consider yourself an arrogant little ahole for even asking such a thing?
 

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Law 7: Get Others To Do The Work For You, But Always Take the Credit

Use the wisdom, knowledge, and legwork of other people to further your own cause. Not only will such assistance save you valuable time and energy, it will give you a godlike aura of efficiency and speed. In the end your helpers will be forgotten and you will be remembered. Never do yourself what others can do for you.​
“Use the past, a vast storehouse of knowledge and wisdom. Isaac Newton called this ‘standing in the shoulders of giants.’ He meant that in making his discoveries he had built on the achievements of others. A great part of his aura of genius, he knew, was attributable to his shrewd ability to make most of the insights of ancient, medieval, and Renaissance scientists. Shakespeare borrowed plots, characters, and even dialogue from Plutarch in the writing of subtle psychology and witty quotes. How many later writers have in their turn borrowed from—plagiarized—Shakespeare?”
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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