Think LTR Is making me lazy....

[bassfiend86]

Hey guys, i'm sort of not new here. I been a lurker of sosuave for a few years already on another name but didn't post much. But anyway straight to the point.

I have been trying to improve myself socially but got lazy a soon as i fell in to a LTR which im currently in. I noticed a while back but then i ignored it until now when i was experiencing some difficulties talking to hotter girls. Do you guys feel that LTR slow you down?

 

[drak_ool]

few DJs and even fewer non-DJs keep up with the game once they get into LTR.
It s bad for two reasons: firstly, you getting lazy (taking your GF for granted) will only deteriorate your relationship. The next step is boring, and that s when girls run for the hills. Or sleep around

secondly, if you get too lazy and start loosing the ability to talk to hot girls (which comes with practice), then you ll have a very hard break-up, no sex for a long time after she s gone and you ll be posting on here about how to get her back.

I m not saying you need to go out there and cheat on your girl, not even saying you need to get phone #s if you really respect her. However, make sure you keep up with the light flirting and attraction building, it will come handy in your present relationship and after your relationship is over

 

[Plan-D]

Hey Bass, in my admittedly limited experience I get lazy in aspects of my life as soon as I become attached; gym/parties/work suffers. A lot of advice given here about LTRs is to try limiting yourself in the time you spend with a girl, its hard, but I guess the whole point of being a DJ is to be in complete control of your emotions, not letting them control you?

Just my 2 cents.

D

 

[DonGorgon]

LTRs do that.. they kill you games and eventually you girlfriend will stop finding you attractive too.

 

[Dabrant29]

Whats an LTR? explain?

 

[DonGorgon]

Whats an LTR? explain?

Long term relationship... As soon as you get comfortable is when she will say she need "space"...LOL Thats space between you and her so other men can get in a and f her without you being in the way....

 

[bassfiend86]

few DJs and even fewer non-DJs keep up with the game once they get into LTR.
It s bad for two reasons: firstly, you getting lazy (taking your GF for granted) will only deteriorate your relationship. The next step is boring, and that s when girls run for the hills. Or sleep around

secondly, if you get too lazy and start loosing the ability to talk to hot girls (which comes with practice), then you ll have a very hard break-up, no sex for a long time after she s gone and you ll be posting on here about how to get her back.

I m not saying you need to go out there and cheat on your girl, not even saying you need to get phone #s if you really respect her. However, make sure you keep up with the light flirting and attraction building, it will come handy in your present relationship and after your relationship is over

yea thats what i was thinking you know get back to at least flirting. but you know that one thing would most likely lead to the next. But i will take you advice on that . Before this i didn't believe in long terms are you in one now or are you just messing around with different girls?

 

[bassfiend86]

Hey Bass, in my admittedly limited experience I get lazy in aspects of my life as soon as I become attached; gym/parties/work suffers. A lot of advice given here about LTRs is to try limiting yourself in the time you spend with a girl, its hard, but I guess the whole point of being a DJ is to be in complete control of your emotions, not letting them control you?

Just my 2 cents.

D

lol. i tried doing this man we just see each about once a week she gets mad if i see her less. Is that a question or a stament? at the end of your post?

 

[bassfiend86]

LTRs do that.. they kill you games and eventually you girlfriend will stop finding you attractive too.

yea i been noticing that. thats why i feel like taking action before i become a superafc.

 

[kabatura]

Maybe Im needy but I get a kick out of having girls attracted to me. So I did this in my last relationship and it worked apparently. Just with girls I guess I would flirt with them, but nothing badThe kind of stuff that if the gf saw she would question whether it was flirting or just playiing with them. I wouldnt want to come off as infidelic, if thats even a word, but i dont want my gf to be the only girl I talk to, and she obviously knows thats how I socialize with girls.