First off, no rude comments or making fun of me for being a complete idiot. Also for those who don't know my mom has severe BPD, I have OCD and people have said I might be on the Asperger spectrum. So plz don't make fun of me if this sounds retarded or I seem like a drama queen making a big deal out of nothing. It's embarrassing for me to be redpilled this way when some of you guys have been redpilled through a breakup of a long-term relationship, divorce, getting cheated on, etc. But anyway, I've been aware of the red pill for awhile but never really got it. I've still secretly been hoping for a long-term relationship. Now I know that's not gonna happen and I don't want it to either. Monogamy is unnatural and stupid. Recently I was talking to this girl who lives a couple hours a way from me on an app for a couple weeks. Absolutely stunningly beautiful, like an 11/10. We'd been chatting for quite awhile, exchanging pics/vids, talking about sexual stuff and meeting up. She said she thought I was attractive and even asked me to strip for her on video. This made me feel so validated because this girl is insanely gorgeous. She was serious and talking about how she wanted a lifetime relationship and wanted to make sure I didn't have a gf. I was getting excited and found myself imagining that I could have spend my life with this girl and everything would be great (stupid and pathetic, I know). Then she starts getting more distant, but I keep messaging her and eventually she responds and says she still wants to talk, so I'm happy. But then she says she's not really wanting to talk to me anymore. I ask why and said if there's something I said that offended you I'm sorry and just tell me. And at 12:30 AM she goes absolutely ape****. Says hurtful stuff and says I'm no fun at all to talk to and she hates talking to me. Says I badger her and make her really uncomfortable and have anxiety attacks and make her depressed and tells me how much her heart is pounding and she's shaking and having a panic attack/anxiety/rage talking to me. I apologized and she responds saying Oh my fvcking god shut the fck up! I said okay and then she says BLOCKED!!! and blocks me. I have no fvcking clue what I did, but this chick is obviously BPD or something. My mom has BPD and this reminded me of one of my mom's BPD rage attacks. I'm fvcking done with this sh1t. I'm just glad this happened now before we got into a real relationship or it would've hurt a lot more. I don't trust anyone anymore. Monogamy is absolute sh1t, I'll never get married. From now on it's only gonna be a game, I'm not gonna make any emotional investments again. I'm sick of getting hurt. One of my relatives almost drank himself to death several times because a woman he loved divorced him. I refuse to get emotionally invested in relationships or the possibility of monogamy again. From now on I'll either treat it like a complete game and talk to a minimum of 10 different girls at a time and sleep around or else just jack off to porn. I'd rather just explore the outdoors, focus on finding a good career, hangout with friends, exercise, and meditate. Fvck monogamy and marriage. Seriously fvck it.
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Yes, focus on that for a while. Dating can be exhausting and right down toxic. But ultimately, it is up to you if you let other people's behavior be a reflection of who you are because it is NOT.
But yes, taking a break and focusing on yourself is overdue and critical. Enjoy your own company, and explore both your inner world and the external world. Life is too amazing to dwell on bad experiences. Life does throw good experiences at you, too.
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Agree that no masturbation is the best course of action.
Why? If I had jacked off more often I wouldn't have been an irrational emotional horny simp for a mentally unstable girl I never even met.
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Then do it. Don't let us stop you. Heck, who are we to stop you from jacking off more often?
lmao
No, that's not the reason. You were an "irrational, emotional horny simp" for a girl you've never met, because that is who you are. As others have mentioned, focus on yourself and grow from this experience. Jacking off has nothing to do with it. Do it if you want, or don't. What other's are trying to weigh-in is the RP belief that no-fap will boost your energy and manhood (be it true or not). But honestly OP, based on your initial post, I don't think you're any where near understanding RP to benefit from the fap/no-fap ideology yet. Your whole mindset needs to change; and swearing off all women just because this one hurt you...is not Red Pill whatsoever.
The good news is, you're here, which means you want to change. I urge you to read everything you can. Start with the DJ bible; check out Book of Pook; Bonecracker; 16 Commandments of Poon; some of the old Return of Kings postings; the Rational Male...and go from there. Good luck to you OP; it's going to be a long and arduous journey, but if you truly stick with it...your life will forever change for the better.
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Don't need to think of it as redpilled.. Just know that women dont' care about guys who 1) they aren't into 2) who aren't their friends.
Now, if you're her friend, she will have your back and all that stuff. Especially the longer you been friends. Now if shes into you and you treat her somewhat decent she'll have love/care for you.
Weak men decided that all women were evil because it was easier for them to cope with their own hurt than try to rationalize by situations they've never had like, good women, women who are givers/will do anything for you without much in return.
Problem is crazy chicks ruin everything because they will treat a guy badly who they once were into but because the guy didn't meet the standards of what SHE wanted HIM to be. Thats something crazy chicks do. They have an idea of everything they want the relationship to be like and if it doesn't go that way, they lose care for you,a nd sometimes even start hating you.
Now, if you're her friend, she will have your back and all that stuff. Especially the longer you been friends. Now if shes into you and you treat her somewhat decent she'll have love/care for you.
Weak men decided that all women were evil because it was easier for them to cope with their own hurt than try to rationalize by situations they've never had like, good women, women who are givers/will do anything for you without much in return.
Problem is crazy chicks ruin everything because they will treat a guy badly who they once were into but because the guy didn't meet the standards of what SHE wanted HIM to be. Thats something crazy chicks do. They have an idea of everything they want the relationship to be like and if it doesn't go that way, they lose care for you,a nd sometimes even start hating you.
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Happy medium.
My solution for 100% of men is this: avoid all porn at all costs, but jackoff as much as you want.
If you set that rule you probably won't want to fap very much. I only do 2-3x a month typically. Only do it when your judgment starts getting clouded.
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As you can see from some of the responses, YOU ARE IN GOOD COMPANY so don't feel bad about your absent father, crazy mum and mental health issues. Three of the posters who respond to you share these issues.
Be happy alone first and foremost. a free bird never voluntarily flies into a cage.
Not really. Suits some. It's what makes a stable society. doesn't seem so stable now.
Online dating is unnatural and stupid. You see? It's all opinion isn't it.
Photo? There are no 8's, 9's or 10's online. Fact. A lot of the walter mitty types will have you believe there are. You are deluded to with your overevaluation. Only thrash skanks are online. Facts.
MATE THIS WAS A FVKCING TRANNY. A TRANNY ASKED YOU TO STRIP ONLINE AND MADE A VIDEO OF YOU.
At least you know. you must nip those silly thoughts in the bud as they crop up. stay rational. stay real.
You need to be killer ice cold. While she (the tranny) is shouting at you and going crazy imagine calmly drowning her in her own bathwater. then look at her with an amused smile. You can let it slip out if you want..."you want me to come over and drown you in your bathtub don't you". You'll smoke her out of her bull****e.
All this is fear speaking. Where is you in all of this.
I like this part. Focus on nice things. but never run from pain.let it galvanize you.
I never said I'm swearing off all women, where did you read this? I said I'm not going to talk to one girl at a time online, always at least several. Also said I'm not gonna get married. There's no rational reason to get married anyway.
No. 100% sure she's not a tranny. And btw, you kinda sound like a fvcking psychopath. Get help.
I never said all women are like that. I don't think they are. I have plenty of kind and genuinely nice female friends. I just don't want a monogamous relationship. It's too much of an emotional committment and I've had stuff like this happen before. I seem to always fall for girls who are batsh1t crazy. Also with all due respect, I don't care one bit about what you think is "giving away power" btw.
Sigh...had some hope for you OP. You've gotten some really good advice on this post and come back bashing the commenters and getting immediately defensive. You can chose to go with the suggestions and reading material recommendations or not...I'm done wasting anymore time on this thread. GL.
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You are currebtly in the anger stage. Just work on improving yourself and your mindset. In time the anger subsides.
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He'll calm down. He's just fustrated right now. We've all been there.
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Here's my advice. Read the following books
The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi
The Unplugged Alpha by Rich Cooper
Listen to
The Book of Pook
The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi
The Unplugged Alpha by Rich Cooper
Listen to
The Book of Pook
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This is a boundary issue my young brethren.
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With no porn and no fap, you are energized to be a focused guy upon getting vagina. It harnesses your masculine energy better than anything else. It's the best thing any guy can do. I wish I had done it earlier in life but glad I achieve it in my early 30s.
I haven't read the whole Book of Pook but I've been impressed at how well the sections of it I've read have held up in the ~15 years or so since it has been written. Parts of "The System" by Doc Love become horribly dated with cell phones, smartphones, apps, etc. Rational Male is always a good choice. Never heard of Unplugged Alpha.
