"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Think I have Oral Herpes

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So I'm 22 years old, and I've never had anything ever, probably because I wasn't as active with girls in my early years. About 5 months ago I dated a girl who had Oral herpes, but never kissed her while she had an outbreak, and I pretty much didn't have anything up until now. I also started seeing a new girl about a month ago, and have only kissed one other girl other than the newer girl (which i'm seeing currently) probably 2 months ago. It pretty much looks like a pimple on my upper lip, and it hurts just a little bit if I press against it. My question is, should I just leave it alone or should I get Abreva or something else for it. Any tips would be appreciated because I don't know, as I've never had this problem before in my life.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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DJDamage

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I used orajel multi-use if I have outbreaks, it works well.

The first couple of times it might look bad, so try not to be too much in the sun or wind, don't strain yourself at the gym or anywhere else until it passes. Take some vitamins A, E and C.

Don't worry about it too much. As close as 80% of the population have oral herpes on the mouth. Even if she did not have an outbreak you can still catch it because it easily spread through contact.
 
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Cool thanks...yeah part of the problem also is that my new girl wants to see me (Could've gotten it from her or another girl) and i'm kinda embarassed with this and wouldn't want her to know that I have something like this.
 

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Social_disturbance said:
Cool thanks...yeah part of the problem also is that my new girl wants to see me (Could've gotten it from her or another girl) and i'm kinda embarassed with this and wouldn't want her to know that I have something like this.
If its a new girl that you never made out with, then I would reschedule using some lame excuse. Chances are that she also has it but nobody wants to make out with someone with a visible sore.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Yeah I'm really hoping that it's a zit...I don't want to deal with this crap for the rest of my life.
 

In Motion

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Dont worry, I got it when I was like 14. Has never affected me or my game in any serious way. Just keep a clean diet when you get breakouts.
 

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Social_disturbance said:
Yeah I'm really hoping that it's a zit...I don't want to deal with this crap for the rest of my life.
Deal with what? Pretty much everyone has it and it only pops up from time to time.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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The Inside Man

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According to my doctor, "You will know if you have oral herpes". My best friend since gradeschool got it from making out with a girl and he said it was like big painful blisters and sores on his lips and in his mouth !

I used to smoke pot with him before he told me that so I got tested at the doc.s just to make sure(it was negative).

I also get little pimples, usually just one at at time, on the edge of my mouth and my lips. I think a lot of people get these and they can look bad, but oral herpes is much different looking than those.

But yeah go to a doc, get tested, the only way to know for sure. But it doesn;t sound like you have it.

Does it hurt bad enough to affect daily activities? are your lymph nodes swollen?
 

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Social_disturbance said:
Cool thanks...yeah part of the problem also is that my new girl wants to see me (Could've gotten it from her or another girl) and i'm kinda embarassed with this and wouldn't want her to know that I have something like this.
Dam, I would be pretty pissed if I dated someone who knowing has herpes but didn't tell me. Man, but I bet theirs tons of people who do this. Whats the duration between herpes outbreak cycles? I'll know a chick that long before dating her.
 
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