"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Think I got tossed into OkCupid's "ugly" pile

Zarky

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A couple of weeks ago I started using "QuickMatch" on the OKC phone app. It's like Tinder in that you swipe left or right on people if you're interested or not. I blew through everyone in my area after a few days of this, just like what happens with Tinder.

Anyway, I've noticed over the last few days that the women it shows me on the homepage have suddenly gotten real ugly. I mean bad. All of 'em. Ugly or fat or a high proportion of ethnic girls. It's strikingly different than the pretty-ish blondes it used to show me.

As some people know, OKC started rating people on their attractiveness for matching purposes a few years ago...

http://mashable.com/2010/05/25/okcupid-dating/
and
http://www.forbes.com/sites/quora/2...ractive-people-on-okcupid-a-permanent-status/

I'm wondering if my recent large increase in "liking" the hotter women and having the majority of them fail to return the favor has dropped me from being considered at least somewhat attractive to being considered one ugly motherf*cker. :confused:
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Zarky said:
A couple of weeks ago I started using "QuickMatch" on the OKC phone app. It's like Tinder in that you swipe left or right on people if you're interested or not. I blew through everyone in my area after a few days of this, just like what happens with Tinder.

Anyway, I've noticed over the last few days that the women it shows me on the homepage have suddenly gotten real ugly. I mean bad. All of 'em. Ugly or fat or a high proportion of ethnic girls. It's strikingly different than the pretty-ish blondes it used to show me.

As some people know, OKC started rating people on their attractiveness for matching purposes a few years ago...

http://mashable.com/2010/05/25/okcupid-dating/
and
http://www.forbes.com/sites/quora/2...ractive-people-on-okcupid-a-permanent-status/

I'm wondering if my recent large increase in "liking" the hotter women and having the majority of them fail to return the favor has dropped me from being considered at least somewhat attractive to being considered one ugly motherf*cker. :confused:

Why would you worry and be confused about what others online might have thought about your looks when you have several years of Grand Master DJ "game" to overcome all?

Perhaps those constant meth and viagra c@cktails as well as acid, shrooms and whatever other drugs you're doing are doing wonders for your photogenics.

I believe there's herpes and HIV+ online dating sites you can hit up to continue living on the edge.

Someone cue up "Livin' on the edge" Aerosmith for Grandmaster Zarkys theme song.


*Edit: What's with that "I blew through everyone in my area" really meaning? You aren't using your man pleaser to score more meth are you Zarky? :eek:

Just say no to drugs kids.
 

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I got moved onto that list too so decided not to use their services any longer. As a consumer, I am always in the correct.
 

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I got moved onto that list too so decided not to use their services any longer. As a consumer, I am always in the correct.
It may just be the hot chicks aren't attracted to you for whatever reason or you weren't on the site long enough/ didn't stay on to do "daily maintenance" which starts boosting your view rate to get included with the "beautiful" people thereby "proof" for OK cupid not only in more active users but users stay on the site longer chasing the carrot of seeing hotter chicks the longer they stay.

I wouldn't be surprised if the sites themselves can play with/rig or will play with features so as to scam dudes into paying to see the better hotter chicks.

Okcupid I'd done a while back for two days. The site was the only site that was slow as hell and most every chick I saw seemed boring as sh1t and seemed loaded with liberal "open minded" "worldly" nitwits.


I think others have no issues with the site as far as it not being slow as hell and or the site isn't loaded with the libs galore that flock to that site I'd seen in my area.
 

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how would one know if they got on the ugly list? just from their recommended matches?

im not on okcupid but im thinking of trying it out
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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bcollarmechanic said:
how would one know if they got on the ugly list? just from their recommended matches?

im not on okcupid but im thinking of trying it out

Initially all the chicks I saw were beautiful then 2 days later, 90% were fat and ugly types. I could tell the difference between the 2 sets in terms of beauty. You always start on the beautiful list.
 

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mangotot said:
Initially all the chicks I saw were beautiful then 2 days later, 90% were fat and ugly types. I could tell the difference between the 2 sets in terms of beauty. You always start on the beautiful list.

thanks, im interested to see where im put lol, but i have a feeling that if youre not in the brad pit department youre going to be thrown in the ugly list
 

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LMAO.

your standards are to high!

TO THE UGLY LIST you go and don't come back!
 

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You've most likely already gone through all of the attractive matches in your area, and all that is left is the less appealing ones.

Did you honestly think there was an infinite supply of women on OKC in your area? There aren't.

Once you start to notice that your quick matches are coming from neighboring cities, you know you've hit the bottom of the barrel. All you can really do is not log on and wait for the site to let you know about new members who are matches.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Dreesy said:
You've most likely already gone through all of the attractive matches in your area, and all that is left is the less appealing ones.

Did you honestly think there was an infinite supply of women on OKC in your area? There aren't.

Once you start to notice that your quick matches are coming from neighboring cities, you know you've hit the bottom of the barrel. All you can really do is not log on and wait for the site to let you know about new members who are matches.
so pretty much if i live in a mountain town population 600. my chances on OKC aren't good. unless there's a girl next door who's super hot wears daisy dukes and cowboy boots and just wants a man for his kind heart and tender nature.

oh wait... i'm coming out of fantasy land now. that probably will never happen.
 

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When I went back to OKC, after a two year hiatus, I signed up on a wim to see what was out there. I threw up a few pictures, and wrote the minimum amount I could in each section, most of it detailing how awesome I was. If someone were to look at it without a sense of humor, they would have thought I was the most arrogant prick on the face of the planet. Needless to say, I believe I got a lot of 1 star votes, and when I went back on a few days later, my selection had gotten beaten by the ugly stick. Honest to God, my new line up had to have been the least attractive chicks on the sight. Eventually I got myself out of there. Took a little time with my profile, took the arrogance out (but left in the ****y;)) And then soon enough, my selection got better.

TL;DR For whatever reason OP, I think you've gotten some bad reviews. Or since you are Liking the hotter ones (why on God's green Earth are you doing that??) then possibly, instead of liking you back (they get notified) instead they're blocking and/or giving you 1 stars.
 

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When I signed up for OKcupid I got an email saying I was more attractive and that I would be show better looking women.
The email also said if you have friend that signed up they may not get this email.
 

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Dreesy said:
Once you start to notice that your quick matches are coming from neighboring cities, you know you've hit the bottom of the barrel.
Yeah this is starting to happen too... like f*ckin' 75 miles away and sh*t. :( And it's "matching" me with chicks that have like a 30% match percentage now. Pretty lame.
 
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