Think Going clubbing alone is too difficult? Read these tips to get your game going.

[Alanswer]

Some tips when you go clubbing alone:

- Find a big place with lots of people: More choice and the fact that you're alone won't get noticed as much (if you wanna hide it).

- Go there regularly: Speak to the doorman, the security guys. You'll end up knowing them and not waiting to get in.

- You're NOT the price: You're no one and has everything to do. Not the time and place to play it 'hard to get' (at first).

- Try after-works: Practice there and you don't have to wait till 1 am to do something.

- Say hi to ALL the HB (or cute girls you see): Smile and move on. No need to try to approach right there. Other girls will think you know many and it's a 'first contact', you're not a complete stranger anymore. It'll be easier to speak with them later.
You'll even be surprised to see some come and speak to YOU.

- Don't drink too much: A drunk guy is not attractive at all.

- Don't dance too much: (someone dancing like crazy for an hour straight is, that's a fact, weird and scary) and when you do, do it well. If you don't know how, don't dance alone.

- Try to small talk everyone around you, even guys: It's easy and natural at night in a club.

- Take care of your body language: Better not be awkward, stressed out or nervous. You OWN the place. It's your second home. Move around. Don't stay hours at the bar with your drink in hand looking around you... And don't move your head to rythm of the music, it's ridiculous.
You're alone around many people and you're cool with it.

- Dress well: Put some color on. You want to be easily identified by girls.

- Openers: Don't try canned openers too much. It's kind of obsolete and lame. If you're creative good. If not, stay simple. Find something interesting about her looks, or the place (decor)... And quickly get the discussion going. Funny is good, teasing is better.

- Be smooth: Everything is natural, easy. Don't hesitate to lightly kino her quickly. Try to guess things about her. Even if you're wrong that'll get her to speak. Act as if you already know her (not saying: "I know you from somewhere" of course.... SMILE.

- ALWAYS has something to say: You don't want her to get bored or to think sh'll be better off with her friends.

- Try to approach women that are already isolated: At the bar when she order a drink (if she asks for mor ask her if she's with her friends), at the exit (not too close but...) of the toilets, on the dance floor...

- "Are you with your friends?": That's a question theyl almost always ask. If you're not confident enough (yet) you can say there overthere but they're not really your friends, or they're boring, or they wanna go some place else but you don't...
If you're ready to assume it, you can say: "Yeah, I went out for a quick drink and I met some people I know, I like the vibe tonight and I decided to stay...", or "Yeah, I'm out to meet a pretty girl like you..."

I think we're good for now... Can't write a book here and now...

Alanswer / NO-LJBF.com

 

[Mike32ct]

Some tips when you go clubbing alone:

- Find a big place with lots of people: More choice and the fact that you're alone won't get noticed as much (if you wanna hide it).

- Go there regularly: Speak to the doorman, the security guys. You'll end up knowing them and not waiting to get in.

- You're NOT the price: You're no one and has everything to do. Not the time and place to play it 'hard to get' (at first).

- Try after-works: Practice there and you don't have to wait till 1 am to do something.

- Say hi to ALL the HB (or cute girls you see): Smile and move on. No need to try to approach right there. Other girls will think you know many and it's a 'first contact', you're not a complete stranger anymore. It'll be easier to speak with them later.
You'll even be surprised to see some come and speak to YOU.

- Don't drink too much: A drunk guy is not attractive at all.

- Don't dance too much: (someone dancing like crazy for an hour straight is, that's a fact, weird and scary) and when you do, do it well. If you don't know how, don't dance alone.

- Try to small talk everyone around you, even guys: It's easy and natural at night in a club.

- Take care of your body language: Better not be awkward, stressed out or nervous. You OWN the place. It's your second home. Move around. Don't stay hours at the bar with your drink in hand looking around you... And don't move your head to rythm of the music, it's ridiculous.
You're alone around many people and you're cool with it.

- Dress well: Put some color on. You want to be easily identified by girls.

- Openers: Don't try canned openers too much. It's kind of obsolete and lame. If you're creative good. If not, stay simple. Find something interesting about her looks, or the place (decor)... And quickly get the discussion going. Funny is good, teasing is better.

- Be smooth: Everything is natural, easy. Don't hesitate to lightly kino her quickly. Try to guess things about her. Even if you're wrong that'll get her to speak. Act as if you already know her (not saying: "I know you from somewhere" of course.... SMILE.

- ALWAYS has something to say: You don't want her to get bored or to think sh'll be better off with her friends.

- Try to approach women that are already isolated: At the bar when she order a drink (if she asks for mor ask her if she's with her friends), at the exit (not too close but...) of the toilets, on the dance floor...

- "Are you with your friends?": That's a question theyl almost always ask. If you're not confident enough (yet) you can say there overthere but they're not really your friends, or they're boring, or they wanna go some place else but you don't...
If you're ready to assume it, you can say: "Yeah, I went out for a quick drink and I met some people I know, I like the vibe tonight and I decided to stay...", or "Yeah, I'm out to meet a pretty girl like you..."

I think we're good for now... Can't write a book here and now...

Alanswer / NO-LJBF.com

Solid advice. I agree with the above.

I will just add one caveat based on the part I bolded. Be careful with the "move around" piece. I agree that you don't want to hang out at the bar or stare at the dance floor all night. You SHOULD move around. But, don't be one of those guys that keeps circling the club looking for girls to game. You look like a shark searching for prey <insert "Jaws" theme> lol.

You guys know what I'm talking about. I mean these guys that circle the club every 5 minutes like clockwork eyeing up and down every female as they pass by, hoping there is a new one they didn't see 4.9 minutes earlier lol.

I put that out there because I was guilty of that in the past lol. It sends the wrong message and advertises that you are alone and on the prowl.

 

[bigneil]

Good advice.

While I'm not a dancer, I've found that another great way to become popular in a new city is to hang out at a bar with a good pool table (that is, if you are a good pool player). As Alanswer said, meet and greet everyone. I can't tell you how many women I've met at the pool table. It's a natural area to shake hands and meet people (always introduce yourself to all the other players). You have a purpose for being there. If you play well, women are just as impressed as if you dance well, especially if they play. Even moreseo if you play for money and win. Before long you know everyone there, even if you go alone. Same goes for darts.

 

[Alanswer]

@Mike32ct:
Thx for the precision, you're absolutely right.

@Bigneil:
Yeah, that's a good place to hang out and find girls. The advantahe is that you can speak, I mean really speak. It's a lot more quiet (even with the music, you don't reach the levels of a club).

Also, we are focusing too much on clubs. I, for one, like to meet girls in cafes, in the street too. I like the day game much more than the night... But it's still good to go in clubs from time to time.