"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Think about deer hunting

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Got this idea off a post by Colossus. It's a great metaphor to the kind of mindframe we should be in when it comes to women.

The "game" is like deer hunting with a knife. You're the hunter and you need to get close enough to the deer, so you do all sorts of things to mask your presence or avoid scaring the deer: you mask your scent, maybe you chuck food around, who knows...the point being, if you're hunting deer, do you just run at it head on and hope it won't get scared and run off? NO. You move slowly and cautiously. You take your time. You try to change the way the deer perceives you. If you go too fast, it WILL run away. However, if you get close enough for the kill and you hesitate, the deer will also run off. It definitely won't give you a second chance!

So maybe you screw up with one deer and it runs off. Do you run after it? NO. You find another deer. Even if you scare hundreds of deer away there will always be more. There's no point getting "attached" to any deer until you've caught it because it can always run away. I mean seriously...if you were really hunting deer you wouldn't tell your buddies "you know what guys, this one deer got away today but I'm gonna look for it tomorrow".
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Coming from a hunter, this is a great analogy. Sure there is always the story of "the one that got away", but you never get too hung up on it. You just have to get out there and find another.
 

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A wild Pokemon appears. It's a Suzanne. Suzanne uses attract. Don Juan becomes attracted. Don Juan uses ''mask scent''. Suzanne became confused.


I mean, really. Women are not like deers. One woman will think you are a ***** and will humiliate you if you ''mask your scent'' or in other words: pretend like you are not hitting on her. Another woman will hate it if you are too onvious about it. Women are too complex to use that kind of analogies. Not to mention that you are treating women like they have more value than you if you are trying to ''hunt'' them.
 

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Good post. Remember, you don't have to work too hard for roadkill if yer in a pinch (fuglies).
 

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J. Darko said:
A wild Pokemon appears. It's a Suzanne. Suzanne uses attract. Don Juan becomes attracted. Don Juan uses ''mask scent''. Suzanne became confused.


I mean, really. Women are not like deers. One woman will think you are a ***** and will humiliate you if you ''mask your scent'' or in other words: pretend like you are not hitting on her. Another woman will hate it if you are too onvious about it. Women are too complex to use that kind of analogies. Not to mention that you are treating women like they have more value than you if you are trying to ''hunt'' them.
Yeah the scent masking thing was too much. As for having more value, I disagree. If you never try to pick girls up and never hit on girls you know, you will end up an old lonely virgin. You can't expect women to make the first move.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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mikeyb said:
Yeah the scent masking thing was too much. As for having more value, I disagree. If you never try to pick girls up and never hit on girls you know, you will end up an old lonely virgin. You can't expect women to make the first move.
I talk to girls to give her a chance to get to know me and show me she is interested in me. If she isn't enthusiastic about a conversation with me she can go fck herself.

That's making the first move without a hunting mindset. :up:
 
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