"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Things Women Hate About Men

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NOW BEFORE I SPEW THE LIST..........I AM FULLY AWARE THERE ARE EXCEPTIONS TO THE RULE..........thats the disclaimer.


PEOPLE WHO DO NOT LOOK LIKE THEIR PICTURES-having a great picture may seem like a good idea initially, but in reality if you deviate too far from your picture (from a negative viewpoint) you increase your chance drastically for rejection. Rule of thumb for verification -look for out of focus pics, far away shots, angle shots showing just their face. Ask how recent picture was taken or if anything has changed since that pic was taken, ask them if that picture is actually them and does it represent a true likeness today. Opr for a current pic through their cell phone or web cam.

JUST LOOKING FOR SEX-even if they themselves are looking for a bootycall, are on a sex site, dressed provocatively, the mere mention of specific sexual details transposes to male slut. This is an example of less is more, reservation & mystery can work in your favor. Rule of thumb-follow their lead-if they mention sex FIRST you may respond.

OPINIONATED-strong willed individuals who feel they must win every argument, stress their point, constantly voice their point of view, disagree, make it personal, constantly correcting you, etc will find unfavorable results. People who are controversial have more haters than followers (Howard Stern, Tom Lykis, Dr. Phil, Dr. Laura, Andrew Dice Clay, Bill Oreily, etc)

BOASTING-people who constantly have to mention their income levels, their degree or title, which famous people they know, how smart they are. Shirtless pictures, show offs, brag about all their fan mail, how their ex wants them back, how big their tool is, their skills, all the people they slept with.

HOSILITY-people that get offended easily, shows signs of anger when things don’t go their way, controlling, argumentative, constantly swear regardless of their surroundings, yelling, pounding their fists, road rage, insulting, offensive, acts of violence, mental or physical abuse toward animals or you.

INTELLIGENCE-if you can’t spell, form an educated opinion, make no sense, sound dumb, constantly laughing at everything, watch cartoons all day long or belittle those around you, correct everyone, know it all, etc

TOO FAST-touching instantly or too long, informing the other person how much you like them on first contact, wanting sex too soon, talking about sex too soon, buying flowers, gifts, etc too soon.

LACK OF CONFIDENCE-if you don’t have clever come backs, no humor, can’t handle prolonged eye contact, appear shy, reserved, basically no game, lack ambition, lazy, afraid to approach, engage, appear nervous or awkward, etc

PHYSICAL APPEARANCE-Obesity, totally out of shape, height-women prefer men to be taller than them, balding-the comb over look is not very flattering, missing teeth, uni-brow, butt ugly.

CAREER-if you live at home, have a job that requires you to wear a name tag, have no goals, lack ambition, not going to school, low income, drive a piece of crap, cheap, etc

LIARS-nobody likes being lied to, deception (digital or in person) does not sit well with most people. Con artists, thieves, hidden agenda, drug addicts, still married, etc

HYGIENE-bad breath, body odor, sweat stains, dirty finger nails, food stains, messy, schlep
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Reckoning

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Opinionated actually makes you attractive actually, because you believe in something and are willing to defend it (confidence). Of course, defend it to a point where you see you are wrong, then just admit you made a mistake and tell the other person to chill the fvck out, it's not a big deal if you made a mistake in judgment.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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i have to disagree with you opinionated is a very good trait because it makes you more free...a lot of people want freedom. as long as you sometimes show respect to their opinion you're free to bash their tastes :).

correct the things that need to be corrected. if a person says they're a piece of **** then you should fix their mindset, they're very mistaken...nobody is a piece of ****.
 

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Your disclaimer is extremely important, as over 50% of the list is THE EXCEPTION and NOT the rule.

Just in my opinion.
 

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Opinionated is only good to an extent.

i believe he's talking about someone who always has to be right all the time. Its an insecurity. almost a controlling kind of thing. I totally agree that this is unnattractive as hell.

Opinionated isnt the best word choice for it, but I cant think of a better one off hand. Stubborn, or bullheaded may be better terms.
 

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horaholic said:
Opinionated is only good to an extent.

i believe he's talking about someone who always has to be right all the time. Its an insecurity. almost a controlling kind of thing. I totally agree that this is unnattractive as hell.

Opinionated isnt the best word choice for it, but I cant think of a better one off hand. Stubborn, or bullheaded may be better terms.
Yes, thats more like it.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=muCUvxxVNsM

Watch mystery own a girl who tries to explain its "not evolutionary". He's so calm and collect its unreal. Yet he sticks to his point..... Even if it means pissing that girl off (making her more attracted lmao)
 

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horaholic said:
Opinionated is only good to an extent.

i believe he's talking about someone who always has to be right all the time. Its an insecurity. almost a controlling kind of thing. I totally agree that this is unnattractive as hell.

Opinionated isnt the best word choice for it, but I cant think of a better one off hand. Stubborn, or bullheaded may be better terms.
Yeah, you just come across as a 3 year-old.

I think the only thing I dislike about men is that quite a lot are reluctant to 'open up'. In my experience the ones that do open up come across as the kind of guys much more comfortable about themselves and in their own skin, even if opening up about dark or worrying things.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You may dislike it, but I'll bet you feel drawn to get him to come out of his shell. Thats one way attraction works. Its almost like a magnet.
 

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AGAIN THIS WAS THINGS WOMEN DONT LIKE ABOUT MEN.............I dont just make this stuff up.........I hear it all the time, I ask women, I read the research on dating sites, I listen to radio broadcasts, tv shows, I read it in books, etc.

THIS LIST was complied over the years of number 1 complaints about men.
 
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