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things that would + my % on getting # close?

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do you guys think things can help "up" the chances of getting # closes?

like for example, a rolex, kind of shoes or even the mobile phone you are going to "whip" out as you ask her for her #?

i'm getting a 830$ new mobile phone on september; and i think i'll be able to be more confident on askin girls they're # on cold/warm approaches. what do you guys think?

edit: oh, incase any of u are wondering what kind of phone im getting, it's a p900 sony ericsson. it's a gift from my telecommunications company and it arrives mid-september.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Originally posted by -.-
do you guys think things can help "up" the chances of getting # closes?

like for example, a rolex, kind of shoes or even the mobile phone you are going to "whip" out as you ask her for her #?

i'm getting a 830$ new mobile phone on september; and i think i'll be able to be more confident on askin girls they're # on cold/warm approaches. what do you guys think?

edit: oh, incase any of u are wondering what kind of phone im getting, it's a p900 sony ericsson. it's a gift from my telecommunications company and it arrives mid-september.
First of all its not hat expensive if you get it on Ebay but nice phone none the less.

Secondly, I could get #'s wearing a bib, a kilt and a stained shirt if I felt like it. Its all about your charisma and personality, just cause you have flashy whatever doesnt garuntee you jack **** other then gold diggers.
 

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this is great advice

also, I only approach women who give me buying signals and notice me first. If a woman is single, under these conditions I can #close a ridiculously high percent of the time.

However, I find the real objective is having that first date. So it's important to create enough rapport and get her excited about the possiblity of us going out.

I'm reminded of the scene in "Boiler room" when Seth's boss says

"You need to get them excited about the the Senior broker calling them back and telling them about that one good Idea"

"Don't write Wood"

"Some Junior brokers are so anxious to get off the phone that they just push the brochure without gettting them excited. Then I call back a month later and they are like "no sorry, not interested, CLICK"... that's a ****ty lead"

Somebody else has used this analogy on the site no doubt, but their name escapes me. But the point is that the # close is not the end-game, and that if you RUSH into it you sabotage your chances of the first date, which is what truly matters.
 

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Other than you being a cool guy, the BEST thing to have which will UP your success rate of closes...is having a woman with you when you do it. The more attractive she is and the more she's affectionate with you will DRAMATICALLY up your "odds". The only thing better is having more than one woman on you.

Social proof, biotch.
 

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Sorry dude..your focus is ALL WRONG....

you should be worrying about how you are going to carry yourself...how you are as a person....whether she will dig you for who you are.....and finally how you are going to make the approach..


whats this about mobile phone and rolex watches?
GROW UP!!

you sound like a kid (sorry)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Yeah I buy silk cloths and I have a $300 digi cell phone but ... it has nothing to do with girls I just like the look and i can record vids with audio on my camera ^^ I mean hellyea ;)
 

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Originally posted by chicksrock
Sorry dude..your focus is ALL WRONG....

you should be worrying about how you are going to carry yourself...how you are as a person....whether she will dig you for who you are.....and finally how you are going to make the approach..


whats this about mobile phone and rolex watches?
GROW UP!!

you sound like a kid (sorry)
Sorry, but would those stuff help with the approach success % even a bit? Also having stuff like this gives + to confidence too imo.
 

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Be carefull . Yes, all those materialistic objects CAN give you confidence, but that would give you a superficial confidence, as it only relies on materials because eventually you will associate with these materials and if you were to lose or not have such objects with you, you will become inconfident.

The focus should be on HOW to up your % of close. Not WHAT.

the 'assume the sale' is the best technique I learned on this site regarding that.


As for what I have to say, don't even bother with focusing on upping your success rate of #close. Within less than a month or two you will realize how insignificant getting the number is. It's so easy and is not the best indicator of Interest Level.
 

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Originally posted by Dee-Zy
Be carefull . Yes, all those materialistic objects CAN give you confidence, but that would give you a superficial confidence, as it only relies on materials because eventually you will associate with these materials and if you were to lose or not have such objects with you, you will become inconfident.

The focus should be on HOW to up your % of close. Not WHAT.

the 'assume the sale' is the best technique I learned on this site regarding that.


As for what I have to say, don't even bother with focusing on upping your success rate of #close. Within less than a month or two you will realize how insignificant getting the number is. It's so easy and is not the best indicator of Interest Level.
Makes sense. Thanks alot.. also to everyone who has contributed.
 
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