Things suck right now need advice

[Cougar10033]

Well ive been with my girlfriend for a year and a half now. I could put up with alot of her usual girl stuff when i was getting some action. But seriously things have gone down hill. Shes going back to school and had very little money, so she has moved in to her parents house. Because of her job and school its alot easier to stay at her parents place. I work very weird hours and so does she and if we stayed at my place we would both be an hour from work. Well anyway the sex sucks... when we first started dating she would initiate things and keep it fun. Now for the last 6 months since shes moved back in with her parents ive had to initiate everything!! She doesnt do **** anymore..Its like i almost have to beg to do anything. When i bring it up she pretty much blames the atmosphere of her parents place and says its a mood killer. The thing is the situation isnt going to change for awhile. I no longer even bother to try for sex anymore and to be honest the whole situation has me down. I am looking for some serious advice on what to do and where to go from here

 

[Vulpine]

GFTOW.

That is, live your life, regardless of her.

Oh, and hit the gym if you aren't already.

Where to go from here? Revisit some old 4 & 5 star threads in the tips section and get back out there with a fresh attitude - you're obviously bummin'... because you KNOW what has to happen but don't want to face it. Which, is why you are here: to have me tell you "GFTOW".

Good luck, enjoy!

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Well anyway the sex sucks...

Next,..

How old are the both of you? After a year and a half she's gotten comfortable and the sex is now in her frame. She'll ration it out on her schedule and only by your prodding her. This situation is so predictable it should be a proverb.

You have 2 choices: A.) Stick with it, do a takeaway and watch how quickly she changes her behavior when she's been deprived of your attention. This will only be a temporary fix though as she's already proven she's the kind that gets comfortable - also known as the bait & switch girl. OR B.) Spin More Plates which ultimately you'll be doing anyway, so why waste any more time with this one?

 

[djSlvt]

It has to be like so, you living in your own reality, whether girl is there or not, it don't matter. When you let the girl become your world things change, her sh1t becomes your sh1t, and you fall down like that.

I'd say go for the C), next her right away and find other women, as in many women. You don't have to see many all at once, one at a time is fine. I always let them know that I see other women when I'm not in a relationship.

Seriously, can you picture living your whole life with this girl and put up with her BAD nature. I'd even think that maybe she's banging more than you, since she's not doing it with you willingly.

 

[Cougar10033]

If shed bang other dudes it would be explainable. Since she moved back home it just brings me down.... Every damn day she gets done work/school... says shes gonna work out... Falls asleep on the couch... wakes up at 6 worksout... gets shower and goes to bed. I just seriously have no clue when she became so blah and why it happened.. but you guys are right... if im worrying about this i need to move on

 

[Wyldfire]

Sounds like she's very busy and is too tired to initiate things or do much. If she's going to school, working and working out to better her life in the long term it could mean the situation is temporary. However, right now the relationship isn't working and it might not go back to how it was before even if you do wait it out while she pursues her goals. You should sit down with her and tell her that you aren't happy with how things are and either discuss and find ways to improve it or part ways.