Thin line between AFC, DJ, and Gentlemen?

[Hendon]

Ok, I know DJing is supposed to be natural, I hate not being myself also. One of my buddy tells me that when you do something often enough, it becomes natural. Ok, fine about that, but several questions pop up in my head.

Before answering these questions you guys should know that I live in a pretty conservative asian country so sometimes things work differently here.

1) Sending a girl home.

Gentlemen? AFC? Sometimes it just seems to be the right thing to do.

2) Listening to a girl's problem, though not often.

AFC? I'd like to just ask the person to talk to somebody else but I wouldn't want to come off like a complete jerk who doesn't care about her problem. How about at the end of it all, tell her that it'd cost $20 for consultation? Also, there's this girl who calls me sometimes with problems and I listen to it, problem is that she's not a HB anyhow.

More questions to come as I refine myself

 

[Hendon]

3) Accepting their gifts and wearing it. Like a bag or watch. AFC? Somehow they'd feel glad, but they seem to be on the upper hand after giving us something that we actually use.

4) Asking for permission before smoking. Gentlemen or AFC? I'd figured the best way to do this is to take out your cigarette and while lighting, say "don't mind?" and continue lighting. Well, at least you asked!

 

[Hendon]

Somebody?

 

[uniassign]

Mate,

working out whether something is AFC or not would send you crazy. Just do whatever common sense tells you.


1) Sending a girl home.

Sending a girl home? Depends on the situation. When she is stranded in the middle of nowhere without a car, I would send her home because I don't want to wake up the next morning hearing that the girl ended up in a bodybag.

But if she is just someone I met in a club and she lives in the opposite direction, I wouldn't really be inclined to drive her home.

3) Accepting their gifts and wearing it. Like a bag or watch. AFC? Somehow they'd feel glad, but they seem to be on the upper hand after giving us something that we actually use.

Why would wearing a gift a girl bought you be AFC????

4) Asking for permission before smoking.

I think that's courtsey, and depends on your upbringing.

 

[Kwah]

1,3,and 4 can be completely Gentlemen.

Ill actually put a guys smoke out if he lights up without asking the women at the tables permission.

 

[Hendon]

Thank you

 

[Mr. Latte]

I don't care who tells you otherwise....a "DJ" (I prefer the term "a MAN") is ALWAYS a gentlemen. The terms are interchangeable, so far as I'm concerned. Being a jerk gets old once you're past your fratboy days.