They will use is against you...yah think I learned by now...

[abe0]

Yes, I let my guard down and started revealing too much about my past relationships and why it did not work out. Got into a stupid argument with chick.....next thing I know everything she knows about me is turned against me during the argument. God, their memories are so good for what they want to remember.....and sooo poor for what they do not.
Moral of the story as you all know.....do not give them more information then required or needed. IT WILL COME BACK TO HAUNT YOU!!!
Stupid me.....Abe

 

[Warrior74]

My ex used to love to throw stuff from my childhood up in my face. Deep painful things that she knew would bother me. Towards the end I made my peace with my past and stopped allowing her to use it against me.

Should have never told that ***** my last name, much less childhood trama. MDMA bonding is bull****.

 

[The Duke]

You learned a good lesson Abe. That lesson will apply for the rest of your life.

 

[pdx1138]

It's just a good idea to avoid talk of past relationships in the first place.

Sometimes they drill you for info on that, best to brush it off if at all possible.

It's "your" past and quite frankly none of their business.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Abe,
All valuable advice...You just cant have objective conversations with Women in the way you do with your mates,their rationale,logic system is so different...never get in arguments with them,if something does provoke that response then just say anything to close the conversation...If you must win points,then save it till after you have enjoyed yourself!

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

I'll play the contrarian here and say that the best defense is a good offense.

This may sound like a load of metaphysical hogwash, but if absolutely and completely accept and forgive your past, it will have ZERO power over you.

Which means any talk of past relationships, childhood trauma, etc, can NEVER be used against you, since they hold no emotional value for you.

Talking about ex's, past relationships, etc, will come across as you talking about the time you found a frog or something when you were a kid.

She'll see there's NOTHING THERE to use against you. She can ONLY use it if she senses that there's pain or emotional regret.

ANY ISSUE she raises about the past, is clearly HER PROBLEM, not yours.


Any time you give a woman any kind of painful memory, and expect her to NOT USE IT AGAINST you is like putting your balls in an electronic vice, giving her the remote control and hoping she never uses it.

You could be VERY CAREFUL with what you share, so she doesn't have that opportunity, or you could systematically go through your past and REMOVE ANY NEGATIVE emotions. Accept them as learning experiences. Appreciate them as learning experiences.

Difficult? Absolutely. But the end result is NOBODY in the world can EVER have anything on you.

 

[Night-hawk]

Powerful post there taiyuu, worth reading again...right now.

 

[SecondHalf]

Yes, I let my guard down and started revealing too much about my past relationships and why it did not work out. Got into a stupid argument with chick.....next thing I know everything she knows about me is turned against me during the argument. God, their memories are so good for what they want to remember.....and sooo poor for what they do not.
Moral of the story as you all know.....do not give them more information then required or needed. IT WILL COME BACK TO HAUNT YOU!!!
Stupid me.....Abe

Dirty fighter. Good riddance.

Any lowbrow that would use that type of information to win an argument is just that ... a lowbrow. Only good for the occasional humping.

SH

 

[abe0]

Ahhh Taiyuu...I totally agree. At the end of the day it did not bother me nor did I respond to her comments directly. I just thought that she showed no class bringing that sh*t up. So my response was "May God protect and keep you and I wish you the best"..... I never directly responded to her crap nor did I let it affect me. I have not heard back from her.....and the best part is the I really do not give a crap if she ever calls me back. I just though it was so low to use my past. F...her. I will miss her pu**sy ...she was the best I have ever had....but I am not going to loose my self or manhood for a piece of a##. Abe

 

[glass half full]

Yes, I let my guard down and started revealing too much about my past relationships and why it did not work out. Got into a stupid argument with chick.....next thing I know everything she knows about me is turned against me during the argument. God, their memories are so good for what they want to remember.....and sooo poor for what they do not.
Moral of the story as you all know.....do not give them more information then required or needed. IT WILL COME BACK TO HAUNT YOU!!!
Stupid me.....Abe

That's one lesson I will hang on tight to, done with that myself. From now on when a chick asks about that stuff, well its in the past. That's it. No more ammunition for the betches!

 

[betheman]

I have always maintained that women have a hard drive in their brain, they have an uncanny ability to bring up stuff you thought was long gone and utterly irrelevant and use it against you, the only variable is how malicious is the woman you are with, they all have this ability, all of them