Fruitbat
Master Don Juan
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Shyt tests, criticism…
I’ve often wondered why women often complainand try to change their men.
my wife has been moaning about a few things recently. Little things.
I’d had a few beers and I sat down and said “look, I get you want xy and z but why do you have to bust my balls all the time. Why are you breaking me down?”
it became clear after about 2 mins she considers me an impervious rock, who DGAF about criticism…she doesn’t view me as someone who needs encouragement, more like a dad who needs to be nagged toget her needs met.
it became very clear the idea I could be downhearted or pissed that she whinged at me was absurd, and that actually I had all the power to solve my issues but I needed pushing back to these objectives.
womens nagging and complaining when filtered as a man seems cruel. It seems to me demotivating, like the opposite of a coach.
now it’s quite clear. She views me like her president or prime minister, and complains like people complain on twitter.
men, don’t take criticism or nagging as if it’s a friend suddenly turning to a d1ck.
it’s more like an employee moaning about her boss. Or a teenager moaning about her dad.
I’ve often wondered why women often complainand try to change their men.
my wife has been moaning about a few things recently. Little things.
I’d had a few beers and I sat down and said “look, I get you want xy and z but why do you have to bust my balls all the time. Why are you breaking me down?”
it became clear after about 2 mins she considers me an impervious rock, who DGAF about criticism…she doesn’t view me as someone who needs encouragement, more like a dad who needs to be nagged toget her needs met.
it became very clear the idea I could be downhearted or pissed that she whinged at me was absurd, and that actually I had all the power to solve my issues but I needed pushing back to these objectives.
womens nagging and complaining when filtered as a man seems cruel. It seems to me demotivating, like the opposite of a coach.
now it’s quite clear. She views me like her president or prime minister, and complains like people complain on twitter.
men, don’t take criticism or nagging as if it’s a friend suddenly turning to a d1ck.
it’s more like an employee moaning about her boss. Or a teenager moaning about her dad.