They think I dont like them; they seem more interested/attracted

[RollinDoobs]

Recently, I changed how I talk to girls. I've been acting more uninterested and calm. Also, Ive stopped talking as much. This is a kind of big change from how I used to be.
There are a bunch of girls that I used to talk to a lot but I was stuck in the friend zone because I was too nice and talked too much. I saw them for the first time in a while this weekend and they think I dont like them because I dont talk as much/seem as interested. They dont understand that I have just changed as a whole, its not specific to them.
The weird thing is, it seems like they're way more attracted now that they think I dont like them. Two of the girls that rejected me a few months ago are all over me now. Even my friends say that it seems like they want to hook up with me. Im sticking with the idea that the more I leave them hanging, they more they'll want it.
Anyway, I was wondering if girls think that you dont really like them, does it create a challenge/attraction for them? To me, it seems like it does.

 

[Juan Don]

yes! girls/women/ladies want what they can't have. it puts value on the man.

 

[RollinDoobs]

bumppppppppp

 

[PapiChulo]

Seeking attention imho. Scarcity principle, now watch them pull away once you make a move, especially the ones that rejected you already.

 

[RollinDoobs]

Seeking attention imho. Scarcity principle, now watch them pull away once you make a move, especially the ones that rejected you already.

So how do you think I should try to hook up with them?

 

[floydb25]

In this scenerio, I agree with Papi. They could just be wondering why you dont talk to them anymore, and think you're a jerk for not being their friend. They could miss you always being there, and talking to them. It doesn't mean they're attracted. Certain women will also tease and flirt to get you to like them.

What you're doing overall is good. People don't realize that they become friends because they ACT like friends. Friendship and dating are two completely different beasts... What works for one has the opposite results for the other. Talking all the time is what friends do...

I'd recommend using these techniques on new women. You'll have a fresh start; the attraction will be high. You don't know each other, which is a big part of the mystery and chase.

 

[PapiChulo]

Just be laid-back, give them attention once in awhile, not too much but not too little, get them addicted to it and make them reach out and seek a date with you. Just make sure you don't foster any feelings of obligation on their part. That's mostly for the once who have rejected you already. And with the rest you can try asking them out indirectly or strike directly while the iron is hot. Again there is no guarantee that the interest is genuine even though it may appear so.

 

[PapiChulo]

What you're doing overall is good. People don't realize that they become friends because they ACT like friends. Friendship and dating are two completely different beasts... What works for one has the opposite results for the other. Talking all the time is what friends do...

I'd recommend using these techniques on new women. You'll have a fresh start; the attraction will be high. You don't know each other, which is a big part of the mystery and chase.

Yeah, you have to be the lover first, then a friend. But don't let that discourage you, hence it is very much possible to hook with the type of women you are after. It takes patience, skill, self-control, and some sexual tension/attraction mixed in. The later is probably the most important variable of all.