"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
TheStig's Workout Log
- Thread starter TheStig
- Start date
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Bench Press
warmups
3 x 235 lbs
3 x 265 lbs
5 x 300 lbs (rep PR)
5 x 225 lbs close grip pause
Pullups/Incline Bench
5 pullups, done explosively as possible
3 x 225 on incline bench
for 10 sets
Dips
5 bw
5 x 100 lbs
4 x 125 lbs
3 x 140 lbs
1 x 155 lbs
1 x 170 lbs (PR)
10 bw
I was so pumped I cranked out some more pullups afterwards too
Purefilth
Master Don Juan
Front Squat
warmups
3 x 260 lbs
3 x 295 lbs
1 x 330 lbs (should've been 3)
Back Squat
3 x 330 lbs
1 x 350 lbs (lol lost it a bit and it turned into a pause squat....got it though)
So that gave me the idea to just do ATG (and boy do I mean ATG) pause squats for the rest of the time. I don't feel I give squats enough volume..that has to change.
Didn't keep track but for the next 50 minutes I did triples, doubles, and singles of those at various weights (225, 255, 265, 275). Turned out to be a ton of reps, and I must say, this is the first time in a loooong time that I've been immediately sore right after a lift (although I know that isn't necessarily an indicator of effectiveness). I was also more drenched in sweat than I've been in a long time. Score
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Create Reality
Master Don Juan
I'm curious as to why you say this.Create Reality said:in my honest opinion, unless you really ARE a bodybuilder, focusing solely on lifting is a dead end in personal fitness
OHP
warmups
3 x 140 lbs strict
3 x 160 lbs first 2 were strict
4 x 180 lbs push (rep PR)
3 x 135 lbs strict
Pullups
5 bw
5 x 65 lbs
5 x 75 lbs
3 x 85 lbs
3 x 95 lbs
3 x 105 lbs
4 sets of 10 bw
Incline Bench
3 x 230 lbs
3 x 230 lbs
1 x 235 lbs
1 x 240 lbs
1 x 245 lbs
1 x 250 lbs
1 x 255 lbs
1 x 260 lbs
1 x 225 lbs
Mini Circuit
jump rope
20 singles+30 doubles
10 rollouts
5 box jumps on 36 inch box
x4
then 10 more box jumps
worked up a nice good sweat
Purefilth
Master Don Juan
I'm also curious.TheStig said:Thanks for the compliments
I'm curious as to why you say this.
I'm not a bodybuilder, but also fitness doesn't interest me.
Getting big and fvcking strong does.
If I wanted to get fit I would go and ride a bike or some ****.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Pause Squats (oly style)
3 x 225 lbs
3 x 225 lbs
3 x 245 lbs
3 x 265 lbs
3 x 285 lbs
3 x 295 lbs
3 x 315 lbs
1 x 325 lbs
1 x 335 lbs
1 x 325 lbs
3 x 315 lbs
3 x 295 lbs
3 x 285 lbs
3 x 265 lbs
3 x 245 lbs
3 x 225 lbs
3 x 225 lbs
Coming back down the ladder was harder than going up the first time. These really make me feel great. Flexible and powerful.
5/3/1 - Bench Press Day (cycle 7, wave 3, day 1)
Bench Press
warmups
5 x 250 lbs
3 x 285 lbs
1.5 x 315 lbs
5 x 225 lbs close grip long pause
Pullups
5bw
5 x 70 lbs
5 x 70 lbs
4 x 85 lbs
3 x 100 lbs
3 sets of 10 bw and another set of 5
Dips
5 bw
5 x 100 lbs
5 x 100 lbs
5 x 100 lbs
2 sets of 10 bw
Incline Bench
warmups
5 x 205 lbs
5 x 225 lbs
3 x 225 lbs
3 x 225 lbs
3 x 225 lbs
2 x 225 lbs
A little shorter but it was good
5/3/1 - Squat Day (cycle 7, wave 3, day 2)
Back Squat
warmups
5 x 285 lbs
3 x 320 lbs
1 x 360 lbs
extra work
1 x 370 lbs
1 x 385 lbs (PR for my reworked ATG form)
10 sets of 3 ATG pause squats with 315 lbs, was pretty intense
Rack Pulls (just a few explosive reps to get the blood flowing)
3 x 225 lbs
3 x 315 lbs
3 x 365 lbs
even though high bar squats are easy on the back, front squats are even easier, and my back was pretty tight at this point from not being used to a ton of back squatting
Pullups
5 sets of 5, dead hang, 20 sec rest between sets
Dips
5 bw
3 sets of 5 with 100 lbs
5 bw
Woooo
OHP
warmup
5 x 155 lbs strict
3 x 175 lbs push
2 x 195 lbs push (rep PR)
3 x 135 lbs strict
Incline Bench/Pullups
3 x 225 lbs incline
5 dead hang pullups
10 sets
3 x 235 lbs
1 x 245 lbs
1 x 265 lbs
5/3/1 - Deadlift Day (cycle 7, wave 3, day 4)
Trap Bar Deadlift
warmups
5 x 345 lbs
3 x 385 lbs
4 x 435 lbs (rep PR)
1 x 455 lbs
Dips/Pause Squats
3 pause squats at 225 lbs
3 dips with an 80 lb dumbbell
5 sets
nothing crazy
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Bench Press
5 x 225 lbs
5 x 255 lbs
8-9 x 285 lbs (huuuuuuuge hit of tork, kinda went blank, big rep PR)
2 x 315 lbs (rep PR)
5 x 225 lbs close grip pause
Pullups
5 bw
5 x 65 lbs
5 x 80 lbs
4 x 100 lbs
4 sets of 10 bw
Incline Bench
5 x 225 lbs
1 x 245 lbs
1 x 265 lbs
missed 275 fvck
3 x 225 lbs
OHP
4 sets of 10 strict, 100 lbs
5/3/1 - Squat Day (cycle 8, wave 1, day 2)
Pause Squats (alllll paused today)
warmups
5 x 255 lbs
5 x 290 lbs
5 x 330 lbs
1 x 350 lbs
1 x 370 lbs
5 doubles of 315 lbs
2 singles of 335 lbs
2 singles of 345 lbs
1 x 350 lbs to finish
Pullups
5 bw
5 x 60 lbs
5 bw
5 x 60 lbs
3 bw
3 x 80 lbs
3 bw
3 x 80 lbs
3 bw
3 x 100 lbs
2 sets of 10 bw
Dips
5 bw
5 x 100 lbs
5 x 100 lbs
5 bw
5 x 100 lbs
5 x 100 lbs
5 bw
Ab Rollouts
3 sets of 10
Bench Press
warmups
3 x 235 lbs
3 x 270 lbs
5 x 305 lbs (rep PR)
3 x 235 lbs paused close grip
3 x 250 lbs paused close grip
Pullups
5 bw to warmup
3 x 70 lbs
3 x 80 lbs
3 x 90 lbs
3 x 100 lbs
3 x 110 lbs
5 bw dead hand to stretch out
Incline Bench
warmups
3 x 225 lbs
3 x 225 lbs
3 x 230 lbs
3 x 240 lbs
3 x 250 lbs
Dumbbell Row
5 x 110 lbs
5 x 120 lbs
5 x 130 lbs
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.