"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
TheStig's Workout Log
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
21, 15, 9 Circuit Day
21 reps each 1st round
15 reps 2nd
9 reps 3rd
each round:
Front Squat (135 lbs)
Push Press (95 lbs)
Pullups
Push ups
After that I did 5 sets of jumping rope, with a 20 sec rest in between sets. Each set was 10 normal jumps immediately followed by 20 double unders as fast as possible. I like lowering the weight and increasing the reps so far, because it really is allowing me to become solid in my front squat and pressing form.
Heavy Day
Bench Press
10 x 135 lbs
5 x 225 lbs
3 x 245 lbs
3 x 265 lbs
1 x 275 lbs
1 x 285 lbs
1 x 290 lbs (PR!)
0 x 295 lbs (had to go for it, 2 45s and a 35 look so badass on the bar haha)
Trap Bar Deadlift
5 x 225 lbs
5 x 275 lbs
5 x 315 lbs
3 x 345 lbs
3 x 365 lbs
1 x 385 lbs
1 x 395 lbs (PR!)
0 x 400 lbs (the elusive 400..)
Pretty tired at this point, and I was pressed for time
Pullups
10, 10, 5
Dips
10, 10, 10
Good Day
Heavy Day, Part 2
Front Squats, Olympic style
10 x bar
8 x 135 lbs
7 x 185 lbs
6 x 205 lbs
5 x 225 lbs
3 x 245 lbs
2 x 265 lbs
1 x 275 lbs (failed 2nd rep)
1 x 285 lbs (failed 2nd rep)
Farmer's Carry (there's a track around the outside of the gym)
1 lap with 90 lb dumbbells in hand....forearms and traps were on fiiiiiiiiiire
Dips (with 55 lb dumbbell)
8, 8, 6, 5
Ab Rollouts (rested about 15 sec between sets for a burn)
3 sets of 10
Short, sweet, and heavy
21 reps each 1st round
15 reps 2nd
9 reps 3rd
each round:
Front Squat (135 lbs)
Push Press (95 lbs)
Pullups
Push ups
Afterwards my little brother and I did jump rope/rollout supersets...10 rollouts, 20 doubles, for 3 sets. I can tell I'm getting my conditioning back up to where it was before vacation, because although I am beat right now, I don't feel nauseous or dizzy.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
BB Day
Bench Press
15 x 135 lbs
12 x 185 lbs
12 x 205 lbs
10 x 225 lbs
6 x 245 lbs
4 x 225 lbs
20 x 135 lbs
T-Bar Row
10 x 135 lbs wide grip
10 x 135 lbs close grip
8 x 180 lbs wide grip
8 x 180 lbs close grip
9 x 225 lbs wide grip
Incline Bench Press (great gains today)
10 x 135 lbs
10 x 155 lbs
8 x 185 lbs
6 x 205 lbs
Dumbbell Row
3 sets of 10 with 100 lb dumbbell
OH Press
strict
10 x 95 lbs
8 x 115 lbs
push press
6 x 135 lbs
4 x 145 lbs
Dumbbell Fly/Pullup Superset
10 flies (30 lb dumbbells), 10 pullups, 3 sets
Dips
3 sets of 12
Farmer's Carry
1 lap with 90 lb dumbbells
Chest Blaster + Dropset Curls finisher (this is all done in immediate succesion - - no breaks)
-load up 1 25 lb plate on each side of a tricep bar, and a 10, a 5, and 2 2.5s onto a barbell
-press it AMRAP
-skullcrushers AMRAP
-pushups AMRAP
-go to barbell
-10 curls, drop a 2.5
-10 more, drop a 2.5
-10 more, drop a 5
-10 more, drop the 10
-10 with the bar to finish
Sucks but it works great for a pump.
It felt hard, in the sense that there was a constant tension that never let go, unlike that weird springy feeling when I'm lifting weight that's lighter and not too hard for me. It was weird actually, my body felt like it couldn't get to 5 or even 6, but my mind sort of overrode my body and said LIFT THIS WEIGHT! haha. I do believe it is a rep PR...come to think of it rep PRs almost feel better than a 1RM PR. Probably because a rep PR means you are gaining more control over the weight rather than putting all your might into 1 single rep. And it usually means a 1RM PR is well on it's way.Krueg said:
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Fuglydude
Master Don Juan
Try the trap bar man... I promise you'll like it!
Haha thanks man, it took me back to the days of pushing sleds in football.Fuglydude said:Nice work w/ the car pushing... now where's my 405 trap bar pull?
Try the trap bar man... I promise you'll like it!
Look back a few posts and you'll see I made it up to 395 on the trap bar...attempted 400 and backed off due to fatigue.
Anyway, circuit was changed today due to unforeseen circumstances
21, 15, 9 Circuit
each round:
Rollouts
Standing barbell twists
Dips
Pullups
Afterwards I did sets of 20 doubles on the jump rope...8 of em to be exact, with a 30 sec rest in between sets
Heavy Day
Bench Press
10 x 135 lbs
5 x 225 lbs
4 x 245 lbs
2 x 265 lbs
1 x 275 lbs
1 x 285 lbs
1 x 295 lbs (PR!)
0 x 305 lbs (had to go til I couldn't go anymore)
some guy was curling in the power rack so I just did a couple sets of rollouts and pullups til he was done
Front Squat
10 x bar
8 x 135 lbs
7 x 185 lbs
5 x 205 lbs
4 x 225 lbs
3 x 255 lbs
1 x 275 lbs
1 x 285 lbs
wanted to go for 295, but 285 was a fvckin struggle so I'll save it for the future
Rack Pulls
10 x 225 lbs
10 x 275 lbs
8 x 315 lbs
8 x 365 lbs
4 x 385 lbs
4 x 405 lbs
2 x 425 lbs (PR!)
Fvck yeah
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Fuglydude
Master Don Juan
Didn't see your attempt on the 405, sorry... Keep in mind most trap bars weigh 60-70 lbs depending on how long the parts are where you load the weights. My personal trap bar is 60, and the one at the gym is 70. You might have lifted more than you think you did!
No real purpose to today's lift....was planning on doing deads, but as soon as I woke up I said fvck that because I was still feeling those rack pulls from yesterday, and the fronts...so today was a mixed bag of lifts done a little heavier than normal
Heavy Day (?) round 2
Dips(with 60 lb dumbbell)
5 sets of 6
Pullups(with 20 lb chain around my neck)
5 sets of 6
Cable Crossovers
12 x 40 lbs
12 x 40 lbs
12 x 50 lbs
12 x 60 lbs
Barbell Shrugs
10 x 225 lbs
8 x 275 lbs
6 x 315 lbs
Hammer Curls
10 x 45 lbs each hand
10 x 50 lbs
15 x 30 lbs
The dips really helped stretch out the lower back and get rid of some tension and soreness, but other than that, the only thing that was good about today was that I at least did stuff. Now off to the store to get some protein....funny that the several days I don't have any protein are the days where I make all kinds of gains lol
Circuit Day
Back Squat (225 lbs) - 8 reps
Pullups - 10 reps
Dips - 10 reps
Ab rollouts - 10 reps
4 rounds
Looks no different than my other circuits....the big factor that exhausted me today was the fact that I got it done in 15 minutes..wasn't even going for speed, just happened to go ballz to the wall. A good circuit done right really is a whole other beast entirely when compared to a conventional workout
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.