"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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There's this sexy 20-year-old waitress...

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Nice curves, cute face, pleasant air-headed personality. She works next door so I see her almost every day when I go to lunch. Something about her just purrs "sex kitten". I haven't asked for her number yet but I'm building IL.
Anyway today I motioned her over while I was eating my bagel. She walked up to the table and said, "You're going to get me in trouble" (because she was supposed to be behind the counter). I answered, "I just wanted to see if I could make you come with one finger." She giggled, walked away, and I left. The funny part was, although I said it quietly, the middle-aged couple sitting behind me laughed! Obviously this line would offend some girls, but it felt right in the situation and I think she liked it.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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That's a great line! hahaha.

This looks pretty good... Step it up though. You've seen her more than once and you've spoken to her... If you want her, it's time to start turning up the heat. Ask her what time she gets off and invite her somewhere.
 

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Nice line,stop wasting time,fvck around and waste time and your gonna find out that she liked you and wanted to talk to you but shes in a relationship now.
My bad lolz,caught a little flash back.Ask her out Asap.
 

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I find myself wasting too much time building... IL you said? Though not as bluntly, I agree with Y_A. You'll build yourself up for failure if you don't do it and move on :) Good luck.
 

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bengboy said:
"I just wanted to see if I could make you come with one finger."
This is a very wide spread and frequently referenced pick-up line. It is on several "pick-up line" lists and e-mails. Use it with caution because most girls have probably herd it or read it before.

As most people would agree pick-up lines will not work. From her response she fell for it but I don't think this has helped you build attraction.

as for your "I haven't asked for her number yet but I'm building IL" you are wasting too much time doing this. You need to take just a few minutes and build her attraction and ask for # right after this. You may have blown your chance by procrastinating building her IL. She is paid to be nice to you, she may just be entertaining your company because it is her job.

Its now or never you need to seal the deal next time you see her because it may be too late now.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Your first C&F line worked. Now turn it off for a bit. Looks like she enjoyed it once but is looking for something more that just C&F.

Do a intriguing cold read on her. Make her qualify herself.
 

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bengboy said:
Nice curves, cute face, pleasant air-headed personality. She works next door so I see her almost every day when I go to lunch. Something about her just purrs "sex kitten". I haven't asked for her number yet but I'm building IL.
Anyway today I motioned her over while I was eating my bagel. She walked up to the table and said, "You're going to get me in trouble" (because she was supposed to be behind the counter). I answered, "I just wanted to see if I could make you come with one finger." She giggled, walked away, and I left. The funny part was, although I said it quietly, the middle-aged couple sitting behind me laughed! Obviously this line would offend some girls, but it felt right in the situation and I think she liked it.
While the line you used is better than "do your feet hurt?" use it with caution. I have heard it before, and there is no doubt that a lot of women have as well.

As for your present situation, don't leave that restaurant one more time without getting her number. You're dangerously close to becoming that quirky, amusing regular whose visits she finds entertaining during work but that she no longer sees as interesting or mysterious.

If I were you, I would disappear for a few days, show back up, and get her number first thing.
 

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bengboy said:
Nice curves, cute face, pleasant air-headed personality. She works next door so I see her almost every day when I go to lunch. Something about her just purrs "sex kitten". I haven't asked for her number yet but I'm building IL.
Anyway today I motioned her over while I was eating my bagel. She walked up to the table and said, "You're going to get me in trouble" (because she was supposed to be behind the counter). I answered, "I just wanted to see if I could make you come with one finger." She giggled, walked away, and I left. The funny part was, although I said it quietly, the middle-aged couple sitting behind me laughed! Obviously this line would offend some girls, but it felt right in the situation and I think she liked it.
Dude I am good at using cold reads so trust me.. I can feel this girl is vulnerable. use this next time she comes close to you (preferably getting you your order) -

"I have a strong intuition about you." - Now build up your power saying u like psychology and read about it once in a while.

"But I don't know if I should tell you. U may get to know stuff you didn't know about yourself."

Usually this much of intrigue is enough.

Cold read - You look like a kind of girl who always makes a conscious effort to keep people happy, but still sometimes people don't appreciate you.

Usually girls (hot or not) agree to it if you say it with authority and confidence. Its kind of a universal cold read. lol

Do an ESP trick. C&F doesn't work that well with hired guns, in my opinion.
 

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thanks for the advice guys. now I just need to decide if I want this girl's number. since i see her every day, i'm not sure if I should take this beyond playful flirting. there are plenty of attractive girls around...it's summer after all
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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waitresses bar tenders nurses bank tellers... etc.. get hit on day in day out day in day out... If she is new to that then you have a chance but once they have F'ed about 50 dudes they tend to get very picky.. Yes they flirt alot for fun and tips but getting them to F can be hard since they tend to think they have heard it all.
 

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bengboy said:
thanks for the advice guys. now I just need to decide if I want this girl's number. since i see her every day, i'm not sure if I should take this beyond playful flirting. there are plenty of attractive girls around...it's summer after all
By you posting this thread about her, you've already decided YES on that question. You're just rationalizing now...don't worry we've all done it. Anyways, if it doesn't work out then at least you gave it a shot.

"I don't regret the things ive dont, I regret what I DIDN'T do."
 

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You guys made me wonder if I was getting genuine IOI or just good customer service. But here's what went down today...
Everytime I walk in Cher greets me by name and positions herself to be the one that takes my order. Today when she was ringing me up she said, "Sorry about yesterday"...I don't know what she was referring to but she made a comment about how anal her boss is, and she always seems nervous like she's gonna get in trouble for talking to me. She also asked if I wanted a mocha, because I bought a couple last week. I told her not today and sat down to wait for my food.
I see her in the back by the coffee machines, and after a few minutes she walks out with a mocha and gives it to me. At that moment I decided she was feeling me. So the next time we made eye contact I pointed at her, made a scribbling motion with my fingers, then held my hand up like a telephone. She smiled and picked up a pen, then looked at me and quietly said, "Boyfriend." I smirked and told her I wasn't the jealous type. So she wrote it down and that was that.
I don't intend on pursuing her, I'm sick of messing around with girls that are taken. Do unto others what you would have them do to you. Females are scandalous, it makes me think I'll never be in a trusting relationship.
 

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Don't build to much :D:p
You've done great thing ... for motivations read some FR in "The Game". There are FR's from T.Durden and someone else.. i don't remember. They did some good things with waitress. GOOD LUCK :D
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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pedestal, desperation, no social circle,

hence you can't easily NEXT her.

Move on. Next her. Try doing some collateral thinking.

Never go for one particular girl.

It's a sniper's shot.

Read Rollo Tomassi.

Good luck
 

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hey guybrush, just so you know there are three other girls I'm far more interested in and spend regular quality time with. This one means nothing to me...no pedestal, no desperation. Even my lesbian friends want to screw me.
 

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bengboy said:
hey guybrush, just so you know there are three other girls I'm far more interested in and spend regular quality time with.
And no SS threads dedicated to them?

Hmmm,..
 
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