"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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There's this girl, but I'm a bit confused...

The Pedantical

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I just started a new session at college and there's a new girl there, but I'm not really sure how to talk to her because she's a bit different from the others.

First, she's really cute. She's quite my type, physically.

The only thing is that she's just weird. She probably lives not too far from me since I see her in my subway station in the morning and she works in a bar in my neighborhood. Any way, I can barely talk to her. She's always alone and never talks to anyone, and when I try to talk to her, she's just really passive and almost ignores me.

At college she's always alone. I haven't seen her talk to anyone. I see her in the cafeteria by herself, sitting on the corner of an empty table eating alone, and no one talks to her.

She's really poor and always wear the same ragged clothes. She's got a dirty piece of cloth to hold her hair back and looks sad as hell. I know she works serving at table in some bar near my house because I saw her there and even there she barely ever talks to anyone and I've never seen her smile at all. When someone talks to her, she just looks away or something.

The few times I heard her speak I could tell she had a lot of trouble with english. Her last name's russian (Gavrilova) so I suppose she just got here or something.

But I feel really awkward around her since she's like a robot... I'd like to get to know her better, but it seems like talking to a wall. She looks at me like if I'm some kind of alien when I try to say hello to her and just walks away. She does this to everyone. But man, she really looks sad... sometimes it's like if she's about to break down and cry. But man, is she ever pretty... she's got some kind of freak poise where she just stands there squinting at the sun with her hair flowing in the wind... she looks like an angel, so graceful and all, but she's just unapproachable

Any suggestions?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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El MonoLoco

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Go talk to her you fool!!!!


You are only speculating about how she will react to your approach......

Just go ask her out for coffee or whatever....Get to know her, I'm sure all her rigidness is from being from another country or whatever. She just needs a Fvck Buddy....and you're it buddy.


So just go for it....if she doesn't respond well. Her Loss
 

aftershock

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Seems like a good opportunity to me. She's not exactly going to reject you, is she?
 
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