'Theres confidence and then theres cool'

[check_mate_kid_uk]

We have heard it all before. The confident guy walks in to the room, and with in 10 minnutes could have any girl. Now you are probably thinking to yourself, i sure feel confident, why cant i do this. Well i recently stumbled upon somthing. Feeling confident isnt going to help you get girls. Acting confident will only get you so far.

You need to walk in the room, and talk to people, you need to be fun. Im talking about social proof, but you need to use your social proof to make yourself look 'cool' no one is looking at how many freinds you have, they are looking at you, but for you to come off as cool you need your freinds and you need to be able to have a good time and if you meet new people you need to be abale to captivate them.

You need a lot of confidence and practice for this, but you are not getting the girl because of your confidence, you are getting her for you social skills. You are showing you are cool, you are showing you are the leader of the pack.

 

[snobby]

I actually thought that this was the meaning of "confident."

If you can't just start talking to someone then it doesn't mean confidence.

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

You are right, it does take and show confidence. The point is the girl will not see the confidence as what it is, she will like you because you are fun and because you are leading the conversation. Think of it like this, a high performance sports car has a 5 liter engine, but you like it due to its speed and power, it needs a large engine for that but its the speed of the car that impreses you. Likewise its what you do with your confidence that attracts the girl.

 

[WesCottII]

Are they not inter-related anyway? Being confident will help you talk to people.

There's a guy at work everyone loves, Dean. All the ladies love him even though he's nothing special to look at. He'll just sit down next to them at lunch, diffuse their ***** shield with "you don't know me? You'll love me by the end of this break" and then he'll just get them laughing.

He can do that on his own, or he can do it with his mates there. Aload of people brown-nosing you doesn't make you look cool. You make you look cool.

 

[MyNameIsEd]

One thing i do to show confidence is give a wedgie to every girl in the room.

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

wescott thats exactly my point! it could be your freinds or your targets freinds either way you need to be like that. Some people will be better then others, but if you concetrate on trying, everyone can improve.

The first pointer is just be talkative. Dont let the convo die down, although that does not mean you have t talk to the same person all day. Just make sure your doing a lot of talking to some one. You do not need to tlak to a girl for her to be attracted to you, the same effect can be achived from just being in her presence and talking with her freinds.