"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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There needs to be a "Problems" Forum

Cheiradawg

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There needs to be a problems forum. Either that or the name of the Discussion Forum needs to be changed to something else. All the content in the DF is basically questions and not really discussion of principles or philosophies.

There should be a problems forum that deals with particular situations. This would be the place where people posted questions on how to deal with the particular cirscumstances they are in.

Second there should be a true discussion forum. Here people would post more general facts or overviews of insights they have about women and dating and life in general.

This is needed becuase I don't think I'm the only one that likes to wade through AFC/ "I'm such a wuss" posts to get to something new/ thoughful/ interesting to read.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Cheiradawg

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Nevermind I see what this is a bad idea now.
 

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Actually it's NOT a bad idea. It'd be nice to screen out the pure philosophy from the actual discussion/Q&A. It'd be more work for the mods because the two would cross over a lot, but it's a thought.

A lot of this "theory of seduction" put forth recently by Pook and PRL and all these other guys is really fascinating stuff, but it doesn't do much to help us meet or attract women.

Then again, some of Pook's old philosophical ramblings DO end up being helpful "to the cause"...it'd be a mod judgement call, really.
 

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i agree with the theory, but i'd like to throw an idea in. I've seen this work well on rapflava.com and other sites. basically, you have to reply to three or so other posts in depth before you can post your own problem. the poster of a problem links to the problems that they've replied to in their thread, and one/2 line replies dont count. perhaps give people their first one or two for free or something.

that might help cut out a lot of the bullsh!t in there and might also give n00bs the opportunity to get a bit more insight and thought into their own problems.
 

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this whole forum is one big problem.:p
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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