"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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There Is Only Ever Today [Procrastinators Must Read!]

Jerry Maguire

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[This thread is directed at procrastinators, although those who are not afflicted should still read on :)]

What I am slowly realising at my ripe old age of twenty is, as I read years ago in 'The Power Of Now' by Eckhart Tolle, that one must always be in the moment.

My personal problem has been procrastination, usually in the form of planning. For example, I will get an idea in my head of the way I want to live my life (either in pursuit of something or another) and will put off living in the moment until I finally decide to plan how to achieve this goal.

To describe not living in the moment, I can give you the example of myself, waking up thirty minutes before I have to leave for work, driving to work like a zombie, spending the whole day at work dreaming about going home, then sitting in front of the computer or television when I get home for the rest of the night until it's time for sleep - I will go out 2-3 nights a week to see people though.

Either that, or I look forward to a certain day (when I get paid, or when I see a person) then I sleepwalk until then!

Most decisions I should be making, or things I should be paying attention to are put to the side while I sleepwalk past them.

Then I decide I've had enough, I'm going to do something with my life! I plan it meticulously, only for me to put off implementing the plan until a later date, and I go back to sleepwalking through life.


This is no way to live life;

We must be present in every single moment.

We must evaluate every tiny decision and try to make the right choice.

We must give our 100% in every moment.

We must remember our long term goals in every moment, so we know when to sieze an opportunity, when to act and also when to cut ourselves some slack.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ItsOnNow

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Yeah,what you describe,has always been a big problem for me. Even since I was a kid. I regret alot of it. But I don't dream or think about always being on the computer,it just ends up that way for me.
 

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I'm the same. Leave everything for later even when I've nothing to do!

Goals are the best way to beat procrastination. Have little goals every day and when you complete the goal praise yourself.

eg Have a goal of exercising for half an hour. You'll feel the urge to do the exercise for half an hour because it's in your mind now after making it a goal. When you complete a goal praise yourself for doing it. This creates a good feeling within you.
 
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