There is no education like adversity

[backbreaker]

There is no education like adversity






Benjamin Disraeli, the great British Prime Minister once said.

I will make this short and sweet. When I came back here in the spring of 02 (damn, 6 years ago),the "world was out to get me".. what did I do so wrong that I could not be with this special, oh so special girl that I was head over heels for. Boo Hoo. :crackup:.

Over time, becuase of my thickheadedness I finailly realized that I don't have a monopoly on life's problems. Adversity is life's way of preparing you for greatness. Most men, hell most people whine, *****, complain, cry, sobb, but the great people who strive for greatness, the true DJ's out there, are thankful for adversity.

When I came here, I wanted to be successful in business. Well actually, I just wanted some money, I could care less how I got it. Nature will not just put money in your hand becuase you want it. What it WILL do is provide you with something in your life that is so life changing that it actually provides you with the will to do something totally different. Whcih is what happened in my case.

I wanted to be independant of woman, to not be so needy. I didn't just wake up one day and say "I don't need woman". Though my business years, I gained alot of weight and I wasn't quite as attractive to women. I learned the (very) hard way how not to be needy. Becuase no one was intersted in me. I by force, had to either learn how to be happy by myself, to not have to depend on other people for support or for my happiness of well being, or be a useless miserable overweight slob for the rest of my life.

If you want patience, you dont' wake up and get patient. you go though things that help you develop patience.

So stop whining and be thankful for your problems. everything is a learning experience.

Talking to women and getting rejected is adversity. Be thankful for each time you get rejected, because it's teaching you something. It's preparing you for greatness, but yoyu have to be willing to accecpt it.

 

[KontrollerX]

Good post.

Adversity and the overcoming of it can create some great people from the struggle.

That John Adams mini series thats been on one of the pay channels lately is a really good example of this.

The story of that guy's life was really fascinating and filled with challenges to be overcome.

I highly recommend it to you and everyone else backbreaker.

Its ended recently but they may begin airing repeats not long from now.

 

[comic_relief]

There is no education like adversity

Ain't that the truth. I"m actually writing a business management paper for my class on about "book smarts" vs. "Streets smarts" and life experiences are part of the "street smarts"

I remember talking with one of my friends about my bullying problems. Now after everything was said and done, I am thankful for getting bullied, but at the time. I absolutely hated it.

I love the quote from Buddhism (I believe) "Wait and see."

comic_relief

 

[Warrior74]

my minister used to say something like this. When you as God for strength, he sends you problems to help you build your strength.

 

[Mavrick]

Life would be pretty boring without the ups and downs.

 

[Mavrick]

my minister used to say something like this. When you as God for strength, he sends you problems to help you build your strength.

That's why I'm scared to ask for patience.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Talking to women and getting rejected is adversity. Be thankful for each time you get rejected, because it's teaching you something. It's preparing you for greatness, but you have to be willing to accept it.

I agree. And I would add that it works when guys learn from their mistakes. Adversity is a learning tool, and like any other tool, it only works when we use it. I have seen guys on here who almost want to go get rejected, so they can do the same thing over and over that never works, then they use a large number of rejections to reinforce their belief that it is just never meant to be for them. Adversity is worthless if you don't change. Failure comes for a reason, doing something the wrong way.

I am great at failing. I can spectacularly fvck up just about anything. But I do my best to learn from every failure and avoid repeating mistakes. With enough work, I can avoid most of the mistakes, because of having made them before and seeing them coming. This is true with women, but it also goes for life in general. Success comes by learning from your adversity.

 

[j-flex]

Ain't that the truth. I"m actually writing a business management paper for my class on about "book smarts" vs. "Streets smarts" and life experiences are part of the "street smarts"


comic_relief

i actually read books on how to be street smart.

like 48 laws of power, 48 laws of pimpin, etc.

so i get the best of both worlds

 

[iqqi]

Great post BB.

 

[BeyondCharm]

And also remember that its not about the woman being the prize but about learning prizability for yourself in the process. You will develop becoming the prize through practice and patience.

 

[sam3083]

Good stuff!

Just a few MJ quotes (thats Michael Jordan...)

I can accept failure, but I can't accept not trying.

&

I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.

 

[gtownjuan]

Thumbs up Backbreaker. Adversity hurts so much, especially when i take it personal. There is one thing that i can say, if it were not for the troubles i have i probably would not have lifted a finger to get where i am.

 

[Gubby]

a mate told me something about suffering that stuck with me.

Suffering.. is like you're in a car and it goes out of control. You're scared witless and you crash. But you're not hurt, and what's more your car has uncovered a treasure chest full of gold.

Another one I heard is, your capacity for joy is proportional to your ability to suffer.

 

[AlanB]

Good post. Nearly every autobiography of somebody who has done something great follows this pattern. The protaginist faces adversity and turns their life around towards greatness.

Another quote - "Whatever doesn't kill me makes me stronger" - Nietzche

 

[Desert Fox]

Thanks for the great post. Bible material and very to the point. I know what you're saying man.