"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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There is more to life than girls and sex.

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How's the rest of your life looking? Is it going where you want it to go? Are you doing what you want to do? If you had three months left to live, what would you do? Why aren't you doing that right now? Are you following your passions during your day and perusing your dreams? What are you going to do about it?

Women come and go. Family, friends and self fulfillment (and your relationship with your creator if you believe such) is what is really important. Women and sex, while a valid need (sometimes a want) are not as important as the other things in your life. Don't forget..call your parents, kiss your kids, and enjoy your life. End the end, nobody cares how many women you slept with, they care more about who you are and what type of person you are.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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A good speech sir. One thing though, at a young age your body kick's sex to the front of your mind. Hard to run from it, considering it's the only reason we're here, procreate and then some. Sure it's just a biological need rather than the answer to happiness! but still. You know what I mean.
 

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Cherokee said:
A good speech sir. One thing though, at a young age your body kick's sex to the front of your mind. Hard to run from it, considering it's the only reason we're here, procreate and then some. Sure it's just a biological need rather than the answer to happiness! but still. You know what I mean.
Which is exactly why I posted this. The young mind is bombarded with sexual images everywhere, creating a hyper sexualized culture. You have young men throwing away their futures for the pleasure of right now. And as a man you have years and years and years to have plenty of sex. Sex doesn't stop until you do, so don't neglect your career, your health, your passion or your family.
 

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Everything you say is right. Positive outlook + active lifestyle + forward motion are the ingredients to a good life.

It's a hard step to take when you're lost with just how BIG everything actually is. People take for granted how much of an impact they make, how much they can affect, and when they do realize it just seems so completely whack. It's just not an easy thing to do switching up from a nobody lifestyle to a great one.

I say that anyone who feels like they want to make something of themselves for the first time take it slow. It's not the only way, but opening yourself up in gradual steps while managing your comfort/complacency level is what worked for me.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DonGorgon said:
99% of male motivation is girls and sex.. there is no way around that fact.
Only helps the guys that know what's up succeed.

Doubt Warrior wants much competition anyways ;)
 

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But when these are lacking, they seem to be VERY important. ;)

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Actually, at any moment they are very important. They are part of our nature, therefore are among the priorities.

Of course, I agree when you say that focusing on other areas of our lives shouldn't be mutually exclusive with focusing on girls and sex.
 

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Of course there is a lot more than that, but we are genetically programmed to give them most of the importance. This only gets worse when some of us are socially programmed and designed to remain ignored by them,putting those ****s as the first thing on our mind.
 

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Well, I don't have my Dental school GF anymore;but, I have still have my degree. When I was a senior a freshman asked me for advice. I asked him how much time his GF needed, was she high maintenance? Did she need him to spend alot of time with her? When he said yes, I told him to break up with her now,because he doesn't have the time in dental school for that. He looked sad and didn't break up. I could see his point-she was an RN and playboy fine.

End of the story-she broke up with him when he got busy studying in November and he FLUNKED out in December. The caption under his yearbook picture said "breaking up is hard to do"- great way to be remembered.

First things first men-remember that
 

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It's a part of life you can live without. I always get into such a craze that sex would make me feel like I'm on cloud nine, but when I actually do get laid, it feels like a chore and I wonder why I wanted it in the first place. I would much rather have a stable foundation then included women in my life.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Warrior74 said:
Which is exactly why I posted this. The young mind is bombarded with sexual images everywhere, creating a hyper sexualized culture. You have young men throwing away their futures for the pleasure of right now. And as a man you have years and years and years to have plenty of sex. Sex doesn't stop until you do, so don't neglect your career, your health, your passion or your family.
Incorrect and not logical. You have years and years for your career, for your passion, for your hobbies, but not for women and sex. You can always change careers, you can always start getting healthy, you can always start to be a better man and join things, get hobbies, get friends, but if you don't start to know how to relate and sexually touch girls at a younger age, it's not going to kick in at 28 or 31 where you suddenly know what to do sexually. At a certain age, if you don't have practice dating, relating, sexually touching, and eventually having sex with girls, it's never going to magically happen.

"Throwing away a future" is getting into drugs at 15. It's not trying to relate to girls and kiss them and sexually touch them. You shouldn't be so dramatic.
 

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Good discussion. I do believe that there's much more to life than chasing a pink hole. Many guys really lose perspective. I don't know if the desire to sleep with many women is only biological as in wanting to spread your seed far and wide, or if it's rather psychological where we feel we have something to prove, that is we feel good about ourselves as men when we are desired by beautiful women. Maybe it's some degree of both.

The thing is, it's hard to separate sex from all the other desires of life. Why do men want to make a lot of money, or have a nice house, or a nice car, and nice cloths, and work out? When we scratch the surface, it's often driven by need to increase our status with the opposite sex.
 

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My point was to remind guys to have balance in their lives. Life doesn't end after highschool, life doesn't end after college or after a career or after marriage.

I personally had a ball in college, I had lots of fun and met a lot of girls. But it was only when I took girls too seriously that I had problems in other areas of my life.

It's all about balance.
 

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Yes brother W74

This concept is so hard to grasp/trully internally believe when in the heat of the moment; so, so hard. You tell yourself this time and time again in your head but then you see a sexy female strolling in your direction and you are aroused (in some instances , to the point of obsession).

But guys ...............this is so true. When your life is ruined is when you will fully understand this concept. Lets hope none of us ever get to that stage.

If I had to choose between being sexless and rich or having sexy chicks at my beck and call but being extremely poor; I would choose the first option.

Cos guess what....... you can buy escorts when you are rich , but you can't buy a financially secure future. Last time I checked they weren't selling those on ebay.........
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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