"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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There is a shred of hope

Atom Smasher

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Today I was at a client location fixing a couple of severely jacked up computers, and it was just me and the 22 year old secretery. I started asking her opinion on this and that...the usual "Are you attracted to nice guys or jerks" shtick.

As the conversation went along she was telling me how a woman should take care of her man, that a man works hard all day and should come home to a massage and some TLC and some good food.

She went the whole nine with women being supportive of men, who actually have created and maintain civilization. On and on she went, as I secretly wished she had a {much} older sister.

She said she grew up in a traditional Italian household where men are treated with... Get ready... RESPECT.

I told her she is a rare bird indeed and that I was certain that not one of her freinds agrees with her. She said her friends are totally lame when it comes to dealing with men, that they walk around with a sense of superiority and entitlement. None of this was prompted by me. She was just blurting it out.

So take heart, men. She may be one in a million, but apparently they do exist, although they are exceedingly rare. Oh, by the way, she wasn't a fattie. She is thin and hot. She is the one-in-a-million exception to Atom Smasher's Maxim, that "Quality of character is inversely proportional to beauty". This is one case where it's GREAT to be wrong!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I normally respect your writing since you're usually spot on.

But I think you completely interpreted this the wrong way.

What a girl says means nothing unless it is backed up by actions. Actions are all.!

This girl told you all this b/s, she might even believe it with all her heart, but chances are whenever a sexy jerk comes along she would do anything she could to get him, bulldozing any nice guys out of the way.

Don't fall into the trap of believing any lot of b/s that women say.
 

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I don't think what she said had anything to do with branch swinging and other men. That's a whole different issue.

I spoke to her boss afterwards (it's a small shop with just him and her in there). He knows the boyfriend, they are a close-knit group. He was telling me he's been watching their relationship for the past 2 years, and what she said is absolutely true (the boss is a total playa, believe me, so he knows what he's talking about).

A girl doesn't speak with such passion, diametrically opposed to what her pers spew out, withour there being some truth to it. Anyway, the point wasn't about her finding other men, it was about how she regards her present man. But thanks for the tip! ;)
 

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Atom Smasher said:
As the conversation went along she was telling me how a woman should take care of her man, that a man works hard all day and should come home to a massage and some TLC and some good food.

She went the whole nine with women being supportive of men, who actually have created and maintain civilization. On and on she went, as I secretly wished she had a {much} older sister.
different people want different things so no one is right/wrong here...but i don't think i could ever date this type of girl. i already have a mother
 
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