"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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there eye pupils werent getting bigger.

johnny_depp

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I read a article some where on here that way saying if a girl finds you attractive that her eye pupils will get bigger. So Im wonderng do you guys here believe it or no? see over my weekend i had to do lots of shopping cause I needed clothes. so I practiced reading girls pupils. But the thing was some of them seemed interested in me cause of the way they were acting, but there eye pupils werent any bigger. so what the hell help me out.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Too much light? Really focus more on important stuff like the actual discussion/vibes/kino and ec.
 

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johnny_depp said:
I read a article some where on here that way saying if a girl finds you attractive that her eye pupils will get bigger. So Im wonderng do you guys here believe it or no? see over my weekend i had to do lots of shopping cause I needed clothes. so I practiced reading girls pupils. But the thing was some of them seemed interested in me cause of the way they were acting, but there eye pupils werent any bigger. so what the hell help me out.
This is scientifically true, but, as another poster said, there are a lot "better" and more obvious IOI's than just pupil dialation.

The theory of the pupil dialation is that it's an unconscious thing. Our pupils dialate or contract based on what our brain's thinks is the appropriate level of light that needs to reach the retina in the back of our eye. Usually, in "dark" places, the pupil will dialate to let more light in so we can see. On the other hand, the pupils will contract in "bright" places, since less light is needed to see plus to protect the retina which is very sensitive.

The thing to look for in a girl's pupil dialation is a situation where here pupils get bigger while looking at you when they should either stay the same or get smaller because of the lighting conditions. For example, it's a bright day out, and the sun is behind you, her pupils should contract, but they get bigger when looking at you. The thought is that she's sub-consciously letting in more light so she can see you better since she's liking what she's seeing :up:

Of course, searching for the pupils is also a good way to keep good eye contact, though if you do it for too long it could get creepy/turn into a stare.
 

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If you read into it, you would be more focused in getting YOUR pupils bigger.

Anyways, after you're done experimenting with this stuff, remember that it boils down to being attractive. Imagine yourself as the best man you can be. With a lot to do in the day, week, etc. With lots of #s and getting action on a regular basis. Do you really think you'd be looking for eye dilation?
 

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I saw a movie once were this freaky dude had a date with a girl. He bored her so much she took a smoke and showed her wrist to him and he said. "You showed me your wrist, that means you're attracted to me." what he failed to notice was the crossed off body language, the empty gaze, the lack of smile on her face... etc...

in english: Don't waste your time with this ****
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Its very valid info. Its just not something you should focus on. Its just another IOI in a looong list of IOIs. If you happen to notice it, great, that much more assurance that she likes you. If it doesn't happen, its not the be-all end-all sign that she doesn't like you. Sometimes the location just won't allow it, like a dark smoke-filled club. You probably can't even see her eyes all that well, and then the smoke irritates them. No bueno.
 

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I've seen it a couple of times..and it sorta looks as if the girl was STARING at you..but I honestly saw their pupils get considerably bigger when girls who probably thought me attractive were starin me down...I didnt really think about her pupils or whatever but if i approach it in a scientific way it was their pupils getting bigger haha

however I dont think this happens every time....to an extent that you notice
 
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