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Retrospectively, yeah, we pretty much said the same thing.moneyisking said:
Was mainly irked at the infighting going on.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
THe Wussy's Guide on Women: Lesson 1
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Was mainly irked at the infighting going on.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Just a Shot Away
Master Don Juan
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Hey, I've heard that phrase "putting yourself out there" a LOT but I still don't really know what it means. Can you elaborate on what that means, exactly? Also, do you have any advice on what we could do to take small steps towards a goal? I've done the boot camp but still can't approach and get very uncomfortable when there's attractive girls that I don't know present.alkaline hero said:
Btw, never mind the haters, man. What you said was true. Some guys here would like to believe that women are attracted to looks as much as we are but don't understand that their methods of selecting a mate are MUCH more profound. And one of the guys arguing with you is a virgin that thinks he can't get chicks because he's Asian. :crackup:
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So you don't know what it means to "put oneself out there" or what?
Buddha_Mind
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Sure, but not in every case do you accept. I have lots of work to do, and I created another post here tonight about my struggles sometimes making transitions into intimacy without letting nerves get the best of me.
But even this being said -- I have had cases of cute sexy girls wanting to bang me -- and I turned them away.
It's not because my **** wasn't interested. Or that my subconscious mind didn't know what pleasure feels like. But it was more so either who that person was internally (ie, shallow *****), or, somehow her mind just isn't pulling at me -- ie, she loses my interest, or seems to be slightly off and is just going to cause me trouble.
So there are times when I've held the power about sex, yes or no, and I chose no.
I liked this the best.
But even this being said -- I have had cases of cute sexy girls wanting to bang me -- and I turned them away.
It's not because my **** wasn't interested. Or that my subconscious mind didn't know what pleasure feels like. But it was more so either who that person was internally (ie, shallow *****), or, somehow her mind just isn't pulling at me -- ie, she loses my interest, or seems to be slightly off and is just going to cause me trouble.
So there are times when I've held the power about sex, yes or no, and I chose no.
I liked this the best.
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.