Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Damn I'm good! I'd move there! It's better than the New Orleans dating scene and the neighborhoods are beautiful! I'm sure you may be around one where the Cowboys' cheerleaders stay. If it's close by (walking distance), walk with her and if you're bold, hold hands! If she rejects, don't sweat it, you did an alpha male move. You are less likely to go into the friend zone. If body language permits, you can # close but strike while the iron's hot! Dallas women are very friendly, extra points if you're wearing Cowboys or Mavericks gear and are clean cut. If other women are watching how much of an alpha male you are portraying, Dude, you were in Dallas not Moldova. I hardly doubt you were getting marriage proposals. Even in a place like Poland I might believe you, but Dallas?? Keep'em coming. I enjoy these stories.nismo-4 said:You're damn right they are! I was there for my Xmas vacation and I was getting marriage proposals like crazy simply cuz I was making them blush
BTW I live 9 hours away. I don't know of any clubs though.
But this is a situation where you can up your convo skills and confidence!
To do this, ask an attractive woman where the hot spots are and then flip the script to flirt or make small talk, since she's already talking to you. Smile a lot! It displays confidence and alphaness!
Extra tips: Your breath can't smell like death, and your B.O. can't be able to deliver a K.O. It's amazing that this is common sense, but common sense ain't so common. I've seen people approach women and their breath was said to have smelled like old fish and day old tacos! :crackup: Of course he was rejected.
Another thing, don't walk regular like you're on a mission. Strut your shoulders and walk slow! Especially in a shopping mall, Dallas has some great ones. Women WILL check you out, turn around quickly to catch them and you just made it easier for yourself to talk to them since you made them feel comfortable. You can tease about a career you had as a model for Armani (or you favorite clothing designer), it'll make the girl laugh and keep her interested in you. If you get rejected, don't worry, the girl will more than likely be thinking "Damn, I wish I didn't have a boyfriend! I'm lucky he even came by to talk to me!" You went down as an alpha male (potential lover) so it'll be easier to bounce back, especially if other women watching find you interesting. THEY'LL come talk to YOU!
Moral of the story: When life throws you lemons, make lemon meringue pie!
Best of luck in my second home of Dallas, Texas!:rockon:
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Where's Moldova? And the marriage proposals were merely teases, but I must have something going for me to have attractive women ASK ME to get hitched! I dunno what it is, but I'm keeping it! Dallas is more fun than Houston in my opinion and shopping is a lot of fun! There's a lot of cool stuff that I can't get in New Orleans.meitenesrigas said:
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.